How do I know if I made the right decision of breaking up with my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I started dating this guy who I had on a pedestal for basically my whole life because we’re family friends and he’s a very hard worker and very dedicated to his work which I always admired. He’s super creative and he’s gone pretty far but throughout the relationship, which was only six months by the way, I often found myself questioning if he liked me, sometimes he would make comments about how attractive my friends are I never really felt quite secure and like he really did care about me and he didn’t have eyes for anyone else or even I found myself questioning if he really did care about me because he’d be so busy he wouldn’t necessarily have too much time for me. You know just to send a quick text and say hey I’m gonna be busy he wouldn’t do he would just call me after two days and be like hey sorry I was super busy you know. I guess that’s just a long story short so I went to go break up with him. I told him that I didn’t feel like he cared about me and he told me that wasn’t the case whether I believed it or not, but that he had also been thinking on his work trip that he doesn’t know if he could give me know the time and energy that I deserve but in my head, I just feel like if you care about somebody, you don’t want them to leave you know he did ask me a couple times if I’m sure that that’s the decision and he asked me if he could think about it for a week but ultimately I ended up leaving and he said he would call me this week and I mean we broke up on Monday. It’s now Friday he hasn’t called yet. I don’t know. I really don’t know what to do. I wanted it to work but at the same time he was always so busy. I don’t think I ever fully got the chance to show who I was vice versa. He keeps saying he cares about me, but I don’t understand why it’s so hard to show it. I’m not asking for $1 million dollars.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you want to know how someone really feels about you, ignore everything they say and look at how they treat you. I think you know the answer to your question and you simply need to learn to trust your instincts.

[Finchie40]

You made the right decision by leaving of him , he clearly doesn’t value you like you valued him , when a guy really likes a guy or loves a girl , she will become his number 1 priority

[Asker]

Thank you I appreciate that

[WhitneySnow]

He’s more devoted to his work than he is to you

[HollyK21]

What’s changed since yesterday?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[HollyK21]

When we chatted yesterday, you seemed content with your decision and knew that ultimately you made the right choice. So what’s changed? This process isn’t meant to be easy, but it doesn’t mean you should doubt yourself to this extent every day.

[Asker]

I guess I’m just shocked he hasn’t called yet. Lol sorry for posting twice

[HollyK21]

You don’t have to apologize, I’m not judging you asking this question. I was genuinely wondering like if something changed. He hasn’t called but maybe it’s for the better that he hasn’t because I think you’re in a place of willingness to try again when you shouldn’t. I also think you should try not to wait for or anticipate his call. Hard, I know, but it’s not right to keep you basically on stand by while he decides whether or not he wants to choose you. You deserve someone who knows from start to finish, who consistently puts in the proper effort, start to finish. Because those men still do exist, and I probably wouldn’t be able to say that with confidence in this age of dating had I not met my fiancé.

[HollyK21]

And when I say “who knows from start to finish”, I mean who knows you’re the one. I just wanted to clarify in case that looked like an unfinished thought lol.

[slatyb]

Pay attention to what he does, not what he says. You weren't a priority for him. You made the right decision.

[Jeff51]

More guys out there for you. Need to find 1 that cares

[Asker]

I feel like there are only a tiny tiny amount of men that actually love and care I feel like I’ll never find one

[Jeff51]

Your young. 1 will pop up. Give it time.

[LC75LC71]

Sounds like there wasn't a boyfriend relationship at all, you crazy woman!

[PolarPoint]

Its obvious that he dont love you