Why did my ex choose her new fiancé over me, and can I do better?

[jordanb8989]

Hello and thanks in advance!

so, the pictures below is me. I was with this girl for 3 years and engaged. We been split up over a year now and she is engaged, sold her house, and living with this guy now. I changed my number so she couldn’t ever contact me again. I’ve been working on myself a lot lately and learning from my past failures to be a better man mentally and physically. I tried working it out with her 6 months ago and she wasn’t having it and brought up the hurtful things i said to her while i was mad. Is this new guy look better than me? Why would she choose him over me? Can i do better than her look wise?

this below is my ex and her new man.

[InknKink]

Why you posting photos of another person. That's cringe as fuck.

But good on you for working on yourself. Nothing like the scorn of a woman to set a man straight.

Physically, yes you can do better then her.

p. s. cargo shorts... They still make those? Class it up a bit and find a more adult fashion sense.

[jordanb8989]

Sorry i just posted so people could see! What kinda shorts would i look good in? Thanks

[InknKink]

Get something a little more casual dress. Maybe some clean golf shorts that cut off above the knee and are not excessively baggy. Think fitted clothing and tapered cuts. Why work out if you're just going to hide your hard work in loosely fitted clothes from value stores.

Maybe even consider hiring a stylist to point you in the right direction for your body type and personal tastes... it'll likely be the best money you ever spend if you don't have a proclivity for it... which honestly, you're sporting cargo, so that's a given. No offence. lol

[capriVib]

When she brought up the hurtful things you said, that's actually pretty common pattern.

When women leave, they usually focus on the bad memories and barely remember the good ones. It helps them justify the breakup to themselves and others, "I'm not leaving for no reason, he made me unhappy."

Also, you changed your number so she couldn't reach you, then tried to contact her again. Why the mixed signals?

If you're happy she's gone, why go back? It comes off as needy. If you're gonna cut ties, cut them completely. Going back can make you look weaker or more dependent, which may have made it even easier for her to move on.

And honestly, you can't tell whether someone deserves better just by looking at them.

By the way, she looks way older than you. What were you gonna do with her anyway? Let the two old people deal with each other, bro.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I understand it hurts but the hurt will eventually fade and it won't matter as much within another 1 or 2 years or probably less once you meet a woman that you seriously like and she likes you back.

If you see it as she wasn't meant to be part of your future and accept the pain the quicker she won't matter to you.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you're definitely better looking than her or him. Clearly whatever you did to drive her away goes far beyond the physical.