How can I get her to choose me over her ex?

[Anonymous]

There is a girl I fell in love with. I confessed this to her a few days ago, at which time she also told me that she has liked me for a long time. Only that at the time she liked me, I didn't take any steps to be together with her and she confessed to me now that she tried very hard to get over me at that time. But I managed to fall in love with her a few months later. Now unfortunately she is talking again with her ex-boyfriend who in the past did not behave well with her at all. She confessed this to me and told me that the timing between us is very bad. She told me that because of the situation with the ex-boyfriend we can't move forward now, but at the same time she told me that she doesn't want us to move away from each other. The point is that we are very good friends, we understand each other very well and we talk every day. I need your saint... how do I make her choose me over her ex-boyfriend? As I know for sure that inside her, she appreciates me much more.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

The “right person” at the wrong time is still the wrong person. You deserve to find someone who will be with you now. She’s not willing to be with you now, she’s waiting to move forward with her ex-boyfriend. You are worth more than being someone’s backup.

[JosyJosy]

Ouwch.

" She told me that because of the situation with the ex-boyfriend we can't move forward now, but at the same time she told me that she doesn't want us to move away from each other. "

Imma keep guy B (YOU!) around for comfort until I get guy A (Ex) back. That's where you are. Second best. Not only doesn't she see you at all as the Better option, she also wants you to stay available. You're being used. Why the fuck would you wait for someone who doesn't hold you in the same regard as you?

You know what my answer's gonna be and undoubtedly it'll be the same as the others. Drop that parasite and and find someone who actually Deserves you.

[ZackBan]

Having lost a girlfriend just because she couldn't shake the memory of an ex who has been gone from the picture for a year, I understand the feeling.

Unfortunately thinking back now I still don't know what I could've done differently.

What I wanted to have done was find the toxic bastard and bash his face in.
But I don't think that would've won me many points

[OlderAndWiser]

Dude, she wants you when its convenient for her, and she wants the other dude when its convenient for her. And she wants you to sit there at home and wait for her to finish with the other guy, then she'll come back to you.

Be a fucking man and kick this girl to the curb!

[Pinay_ako]

She has to make that choice. You can’t teach a heart who to love.

[sheikalana]

Let's think clearly and be realistic. Is not worth it to do all that just to be with some girl. She wants to keep you around only as a second option or a back up you're never going to be her first choice. 'the timing between us is very bad. She told me that because of the situation with the ex-boyfriend we can't move forward now' then when are you guys supposed to move forward if not now? This doesn't make any sense. Man are usually bad at understating the signs you say that you're sure that she appreciates you more than the other guy but let me short and blunt SHE DOES NOT and I'm sorry for that. Just move on you're wasting your time.

[Mikeysoda]

Don't even try. Let her make her own decisions completely on her own. Trust me, you'll be happier later. Something's in life, you should not have to beg for. Either it's there or it ain't., don't force it.

[bobalife]

Actions is everything, show her you’re sincere and will treat her better. But it’s her decision making.

[Revolutioner_83]

I think she won't be with her ex eventually. But i don't know how long it will take.
You should be there for here all time with understanding and kindness.

[Asker]

She told me that at this moment she is not together with him. And yes, I am and I have been there for her all the time.

[Doktorpete]

is it possible one to be so blinded by sireen's songs?

[laly520]

u can't get her to do anything
she will decide n u will get informed since u r ok being a second option or one of her options

[JacobJordan]

Stop trying to rescue women for their shit choices. This goes to all men not just you.

[Anonymous]

help her with something , offer value to her , whether it's emotional value or financial value or spiritual value

[Asker]

That's what I do and that's what I've always done. That's why she appreciates me so much.

[LiamJHayden]

Don't try. If you are an unchosen option, you are not the priority. Find a lady who makes you her priority.

[SolitarySolace]

If you have to convince a woman to be with you she already isn’t worth it

[UnfinishedSentenc]

Honestly you can't force her to make up her mind that will be in your favor and you have to let her go if she decides to be with her ex.

[riverrat3]

Actions speak louder than words

[Akam93]

Tell her you would treat her better