How do I break up with him when I’m scared to be single again?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating this guy for 5 months now. And he doesn’t add to my life we don’t fulfill each other like love is supposed to feel like. He’s lustful and I feel that any opportunity he’s have to be with another girl he’d take. I’m scared to be single again. I was single for a very long time before I met him. I struggle to find men I feel interested in and it took me 2 years to find him the first guy I’ve liked in a really long time. I’m scared I’ll never find the man for me :( I’m 22 and I’m ready to love and everything that comes. With it but loyalty isn’t a thing I want to deal with this early on. I’m just scared to be alone again I was enjoying being with someone. Like I’m actually scared and I also want him to miss me and regret his behaviour

[Purpleronnie]

From what you’ve written, it sounds like you’re staying because you’re afraid of being single, not because the relationship is making you happy. Five months in is usually when you’re figuring out whether someone is right for you, and if you’re already worried about loyalty and feel unfulfilled, that’s important to pay attention to.

You’re only 22. It might feel like it took forever to meet someone you liked, but that doesn’t mean he’s the best you’ll ever find. Being alone for a while is usually better than being with someone who makes you doubt their commitment.

As for wanting him to miss you and regret his behaviour, that’s understandable, but I wouldn’t make that your goal. End it because it isn’t the relationship you want, not to get a reaction from him. The best outcome is finding someone who gives you what you’re looking for, not proving a point to someone who doesn’t.

[dudeinohio]

You are quite young. You will have lots of opportunity in the future.

[DishLady]

Why are you scared to be single? You'd rather have a guy mess with you? Stop. Think. Move on.

[bowenw]

Force yourself to do it before it turns into years of regret. There are lots of other guys out there, so don't worry about being single.

[MasterKS]

There is enough guys around the world.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Just do it ☺