I know I have to breakup with him but don’t want to?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating this guy for a little over a year. He’s an amazing boyfriend and worships the ground I walk on. Of course he’s not perfect and neither am I. In the beginning I had a huge crush on him when we met at work. I got his Snapchat and then we started talking and we kept talking. Eventually he asked me out and asked me to be his girlfriend and the rest is history.
Some months went by and my feelings started to fade. Attraction wise. He always tells me how beautiful I am and we hear a lot that we’re a beautiful or good looking couple. There was a situation where we were fooling around and I got turned off by something ( I won’t say what ) and I lost a lot of attraction.
He’s bought me nice gifts, like necklaces and perfume. I’ve bought him cute gifts too. I really enjoy his company and he’s my best friend I don’t have a lot of friends. Lately he’s been complaining about how im not affectionate enough because I don’t kiss him or anything which is true and I feel awful. We haven’t had sex either but I’m a virgin and nervous lol. I keep him around because I care about him.
Recently on our dates I pay for dessert or something and I drive us around on our dates because he dosent drive but wants to soon.
We’re doing a picnic and I am thinking of breaking up with him then. I don’t want to completely break up and we’re not dating to marry but I don’t feel romantic feelings anymore. What do I say or do? I like hanging out with him.

[Keyboardkat]

Be careful here. You don't want to do something that you might regret later. And also be aware that, if he really cares for you, you will break his heart, and then you can't stay friends. Really. You can't break someone's heart and expect them to be your friend. The pain is too great. The wound is too fresh. The person whose heart you've broken doesn't WANT to be your friend. He wants what the two of you had before! If that's not possible for you, then the only thing you can do is leave him alone so he can grieve and mourn losing you, and start to heal and move on with this life.
I once had a girlfriend who broke up with me, and although it was probably for the best, I was devastated! A month later she sent me a birthday card. Six months later she sent me a graduation card. What on earth was she thinking? It's like pulling a scab off a wound!

[Anonymous]

How about you quit using this poor guy and kick him to the curb? You basically already have. You have no desire to ever have sex with him let alone kiss him, and you want to keep him around for what? Someone to hang out with?

You’re a terrible person and you’re a chicken who is too afraid to cut someone lose that you have ZERO intention of having a real relationship with. You’re just stringing him along.

Your friendship is pretty much over with him most likely. What, he’s going to waste his time hanging out with some girl who doesn’t even want to kiss him when he could be out on a date with a girl who likes him?

[Anonymous]

"You must've noticed the change from me to you lately. I want to be honest and fully talk it out with you and hopefully have you understand what's been on my mind 🙂.
Lately I've realised how much I truly care for you and how irreplaceable you are in my life. I can't picture my days without you to share new memories although I... also understood that these strong feelings are not love...
I'm still figuring myself out but I know my feelings, and you must've also noticed my behaviour changing as my thoughts got clearer. I need you as a friend. Not a lover but a friend. I guess this is selfish of me..."

Something along those lines to start the conversation maybe... Hope I could help!

[OlderAndWiser]

You can't break up and try to remain friends with him. That would be very unfair to him. Don't break up unless you are ready to never see him again.

[slatyb]

"because I don’t kiss him or anything which is true and I feel awful." That seems really strange to me. I wonder why he's still with you, and vice versa. You are idling in this relationship. I agree, you should break up with him. Just tell him that you care for him, there's nothing he's done wrong, it just isn't working for you. It feels more like friendship than a relationship.

[ImJustSomeGuyLol]

Sounds like the relationship is done.
You'll just have to rip off that bandaid, he'll recover, but he will be hurt for a while.
Regardless of how hurt he'll be, you not being happy will not only hurt the relationship more but it will hurt you too.

[exitseven]

You just have to be honest about it. There is no easy way to do this. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I cannot tell you what you want.. only you can decide that, but until you DO decide what you want, how are you ever going to be able to tell him?

[roy_ricky09]

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Listen to this... You get the answer

[SeekingVirginWife]

Love is built. not found. Are you planning to be 30 or 40 and single like most women today?

[SiberFox]

If you're not dating to marry you're dating for heartbreak.

[Sparkie460]

You just have to be honest and straightforward with him. Tell him why you don't have feelings for him anymore. There is no easy way to breakup

[JuStHoMiEsRiGhT]

Tell him your dad is making you and he’s a Russian spy

[Keyboardkat]

That's not dramatic enough. Make him a Mafioso!

[PatriceONeal]

One sentence in and I already hate this girl and want to send a get well card to the guy. Women are so insecure they end up causing us more pain becuase of it..

[Asker]

You suck

[PatriceONeal]

Case and point

[Keyboardkat]

Patrice, you have to realize this girl is only between 18 and 24, and she is still a work in progress. People change as they grow. Her desires and her needs may change. She is not to blame for that. Her feelings may change back and forth for a while. Although I don't particularly like her two-word response to you, it just proves my point. I think we both tried to give her the same advice.