My fiancé and I have been together for almost 3 years. He’s deploying in March & told me we have to go our separate ways until we can reevaluate our relationship when he comes home. When we first met, we didn’t work out bc I was in a selfish mindset. God willing, we found our way back to each other & have built so many memories & he proposed last April. November he found out he’s deploying to Kuwait & told me that we have to split for now so he can be in a good mindset for combat & I “just need to keep focused on what I’m doing”. I don’t want to do that. & I just cried in his lap while he held me. He told me how much he loves me & told me he won’t fall out of love but it’s so hard. He just kissed me & told me to write to him & to be strong. He’s still around for a few more months before leaving but is mentally deployed. Deployment is all new to me & he’s been cheated on the last 2 deployments. I am just finding it so hard not to be upset with god for letting us be torn apart AGAIN after we found our way back last time. I’m now crying every second of everyday... I can only pray that we’ll be together again when he comes home... I’m a mess & really need support
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I'd let him take the label off. Dousj is right, most fall apart. He's trying to let you be open to date, so you're not cheating and ruin things completely. When he contacts you again tell him you understand and support his decision. But ask if you can write/stay in touch.
Don't "wait" for him. Go on living, if it's meant to be it'll all work out, but I think you'd regret putting your life on hold. You'll know how special what you have is of you know you come back together by choice rather than obligation.
He just doesn't want to end up as one of the guys that ends up a fool that gets cheated on during and after his deployment. Im also doing the no relationship until Im out thing. I've seen countless relationships fall apart, pre, post, and during deployment.
A good friend of mine takes leave after deployment to get married, I see him a month later and he's single after his marriage. I ask why, and he simply says "her boyfriend".
He made the right choice in my opinion. Someone would've cheated be it you or him.
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Sweetheart... he is playing you. Trust me. Been in 14 years. Move on.
Fuck the military
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