My ex doesn't block me from his Yahoo messenger...what does that mean?

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almost 5 mos now since had last exchange of I'm with ex...there were times I still message him although he just ignores me..i don't get any reply...but per checking., I know he didn't block me from his yahoo messenger because I can still see his visibility online..i studied Ym and it shows that once a contact appears online to you, that person hasn't blocked you..i wonder, if he likes to ignore me because he didn't want to answer my pathetic messages, how come he hasn't blocked me yet from YM? and why is that his statuses are frequently connected with us? like for example, one time he made one of his pet names ( the one I gave) as his status? what is he trying to imply?>

big_girl · Accepted Answer

Hi, I am afraid there are already a lot of things spoiled and it will be difficult to get it fixed. The closer you'll try to get, the more he'll panic trying to get more distance. Try to accept his decision, accept his wish to keep distance at the time being. As with the pet name, I guess it is clearly addressed to you. He might want to remind you of the good days you shared, BUT also show you that you cannot have him anymore (which most probably is the case, but there is always a little chance left). Guess, this is more about his ego than about you or a mixture of both. I am afraid he enjoys to see you suffering ... you give him the opportunity to be ignored, you give him the opportunity to have absolute power over you, you make yourself so small in front of him ... woooooow, that must be so good for his ego. May be you hurt him and now he is enjoying taking revenge? Being ignored is more punishment than being shouted at, because first one signalizes (even if it is not true) that he doesn't care anymore, that you don't have any value left for him ... while anger means that there are still emotions. Even he doesn't block you, because he wants to show (and hurt) you, when he is going online, that he is chatting with another pretty lady or may be waiting for you to contact him and if you'll do, again ignoring you. I advise you to keep away from him for at least 7 weeks or so, so that (in case he still has you in his mind) he will start asking himself, where you have dissappeared. Even he will contact you (if he still cares) or he will not (if he doesn't care anymore). And ... of cause your self esteem is suffering, because you might not be able anymore to see yourself through your own but only through his eyes. Take this 7 weeks break to work on yourself. Start to do everything you usually like, e.g.: exercising, autogene training, meet friends, dancing courses, do some workshops, start drawing, watch movies, attend theatre/opera ... whatever, just to take a break and distract yourself as much as you can. Slowly slowly you'll get your self confidence back, because you discover all these sleeping talents in yourself. You have to be happy with yourself with or without him and if you have reached that point, ask yourself, if you still want him ... And be strong not to contact him at all at least during the set time. Human beings are strange, when they feel that they might loose somethng, they often rediscover that they still care. So start ignoring him. I don't want to give you too much hope, that you'll get him back, but nothing is 100%. I just want to ask you to get yourself back first before you try to get him back. As soon as you have won yourself back and after "boycotting" him for a while, it would be better to meet him "by chance", e.g. some pub, birthday party ... If you meet, feel your positive self esteem! Nobody wants somebody negative in his life. Wish you all the best and keep us updated. Sue

anony84 · Accepted Answer

Doesn't really mean anything if he doesn't block you. Maybe he's too lazy to hit the block button. Maybe he doesn't want to be so immature as to block you. Maybe he doesn't know how to use the block function. Who knows?

The point is that he is clearly ignoring you and doesn't want to have any contact with you. If he really still liked you, he would show it clearly. Stop trying to read so much into what he does because quite frankly, his life does not revolve around you so just because he does A doesn't mean it's because of you.

hakuna_matata · Accepted Answer

it just means he has moved on. the only reason I wd delete or block an ex wd be when I m not over him nd I want to forget him. you should just get over it. he has moved on nd so should u

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

He's completely over you. He doesn't have to block you. Blocking you would be petty, and show you still had the ability to make him feel something, even if it was anger.

You're nothing to him now. And you're reading things into his status which probably isn't there. You're the one obsessing over him, trying to find hidden meanings in his status updates. That's sad.

Dimonik · Accepted Answer

Never blocked an ex on either instant messenger or Facebook. Why should I?

It's not like it matters to me that they're on my list, I got tons of people I don't really care much about in my contacts aswell. Just accept that you're part of the acquaintances on YM...

curiousofficer · Answer

From a guy's point of view, and in all honesty, he's not implying anything - you're over-thinking the whole situation.

just because he didn't block you doesn't mean he is trying to or is open to reconnect.

You're looking for things and finding things that aren't there - If it's been 5 months and he hasn't replied any of your messages then it's fair to say to just move on and not bother anymore.

I didn't to be condescending, I just say it how it is from a guy's brain.

Best of luck to you.

martyfellow · Answer

Maybe he doesn't want to be insulting to you, or nasty, so he doesn't delete youu.

Bu he is nevertheless determined not to contact you. He probably has some good memories of your time together but it sounds like he also has some bad ones.

Hellboa · Answer

cause he's not a complete douche bag? just cause you're not dating doesn't mean you have to excommunicate someone from your life

dnately · Answer

Seriously, who cares why he did that? It's over. Move on!

rocksongwriter · Answer

Well you didn't block him either...what does that mean?

yopyopyop · Answer

Perhaps he's into torture.

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