My ex asked me for money??? Advice < Advice < Advice !!!!!!!!!!!!

[finecute]

Okay here's the thing, if its not one problem with my ex, then its another problem. Since the beginning of our relationship, I always been iffy on giving him, not just him but everyone else that I have dated money. My ex knows that, and it kind of bugs him. He asked me for money early on in our relationship, and I didn't like that, only because it was a month since we been dating. Maybe I am over exaggerating but I just don't want to get taken for a ride. Lately its been up and down with us, like seriously. I question his motives or his feelings towards me. I care about him a lot, and I know he cares about me, but I don't know how deep his feelings are for me. So he came over last night and spent the night with me. the night went great, until he had to leave and he asked me for $30.00 for a Sim card he needs for his phone. Were not even together! But besides that, I wouldn't mind giving him the money if he showed me that he really cares or did little things for me such as writing me a poem, buying me a rose, just little stuff just to show me that he loves me and isn't in it for one thing, but he doesn't do any of that. I told him when will he have the money back to me? he said he doesn't know and that he has other stuff to pay off. WOW! I have other stuff I have to pay to, such as bills, and I told my mom that he asked me for money and she got upset and told me leave him alone. I know I need to. I feel like he just might be taking advantage of me, but I also don't want to be exaggerating over something that might not be soo big. I asked him how will he get he money, and he said he will try other sources. Hhmm? That makes me wonder if he's going to try to get it from another female. Idk, Do you guys think my instincts are right or do you think I am over exaggerating?

[Brazilian-Girl]

I have had in the same situation and I would say for you not to do it...

I don't know what happens to these losers but besides they don't give our effort and dedication in return they don't understand what it means...for him you are just a person who is interesting at certain point and he is showing by actions that its nothing more than this..

dont confuse yourself its pretty clear...

I have dated a loser like that and used to give money to him (I know you must do it with heart like I did) but they just don't know the meaning of wealthy feelings .

I could say that after that I promised myself don't date losers!

[ALWAYSclassy]

Hell no! LOL never give a guy money. I'm sorry but I know too many guys who brag about getting money from different women. Especially if you are questioning his motives. It would be different if it was your live-in boyfriend but since it's not he needs to get his stuff together. He is trying to play you. Believe me if it really came down to it he would find an honest way of getting money instead of asking you to. Let him get it from another female, he probably will anyway.

[jen-82]

Always trust your instincts, they are usually right. I can't tell you he is using you for money, but I can't tell you he isn't either. It is better to take the same route here and not give him the money. God only knows if you will get it back and if you keep giving he is only going to keep coming back for more.

[gravygirl]

What? Blow him off. What's the point. You aren't even with this guy and he's asking you for money? And not even like he needs a lot of money, but like he needs $30? Screw him. Tell him to find another girl to write him checks.

[finecute]

Thanx Gravy. Your right. I told him I'm not obligated to buy him stuff, and he told me in a sneaky way that he's not obligated to only be with me. Do you think remaining friends will be okay? honest answer, no having sex or anything. just plain old friends?

[gravygirl]

Well I don't know for sure, but it doesn't sound like it. He doesn't strike me as the kind of guy who'd stay friends with a girl he didn't have a chance of sleeping with.

[Jarett]

I didn't read your story, sorry, too long and I don't have time. But if you have EX and MONEY in the same statement, you've already answered your own question. Stop giving him money! Even if he's your boyfriend don't give him money. Stop dating losers. If you let a guy take advantage of you, he will. Who cares if he can't buy something. Who cares if he can't pay his bills. That's HIS problem, not yours. Tell him to get off his butt and get a job. If he has a job, stop spending more then he's making. It's not rocket science. Get some guts and tell him no!

[finecute]

Thank you Jarett! :)

[Jarett]

Lol sorry, wasn't trying to be rude by not reading it. I was getting ready for work, and was actually running late, but thought I would answer :o)

[here4you]

didnt read ur story but already know to make the answer no!

casue he's ur ex and a guy and is looking for revenge for some reason

and is nt going to stop asking if you keep giving him money

so say no!

[beebee74]

Please blank this abuser off,he does not love you one bit,but sees you as his bank.believe me he will keep asking you for money every time.You are too precious and he does not deserve you.You are better than him and he knows that very well.