My ex boyfriend is giving me mixed signals. help!!

[Rhodna]

My ex broke things off with us three weeks ago. I have done evrything. Not called him. Not beg him back, he said he has been seeing someone already. We were doing amazing then one day he sais he needed to back away and clear his head. So I agreed and gave him his wish. But now he is texting me. Telling me his feelings about his worK/life, he is pouring his feelings about his work out to me, he isn't talking about the relationship at all, but he asked me to go to an event with him that we both share interest, then again he asked me to join him at another event and March? What does this mean or am I just reading it wrong?

[standUP]

I think it is impossiable for myself to be involved even as "friends" with any ex. The feelings are there and the possibilty of an easy lonely hook up is weighing on the mind.

It sounds from the little explained like the power game. acting like he's not interested until your not. than picking up the attention to get the game back... Go don't go game. If he acts interested and you chase him. he is in control and feels in a weird way like he has the upper hand. Then when you don't play his game anymore than all the sudden you have the power.

Playing with the heart of another is very wrong. I have played this game and it is sick and wrong. It shows it is a very unhealthy insecurity.

Now this doesn't mean he wants you but he wants the power... Your best to move on from this as soon as you can while you got him chasing you. Because the end result is loneliness once again except prolonged healing from this sick game.

[Rhodna]

Thanks so much for the advice.. it helps alot.. I think I know deep down he is just wanting this game back and forth. and I cannot move on as long as I play back.. thanks so much.

[AltTech]

If he's already seeing someone else, then he's trying to friend zone you. Or keep his options open if he decides to bail on the new chick. Don't hang out with him, let it go. it will only make things immensely more difficult for you to cope with.

[Rhodna]

thank you for the advice.. It really helps.

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy for close to 8 years. Things just didn't work out because we wanted different things. It took us awhile but we are now the best of friends; talk or text everyday. Although, we both had a rough time with the break-up we both agree it was the best thing for us, so it can happen to be friends with an ex.

I also dated a guy for about 3 years and we broke up over the summer. That was a tough break-up. He started dating someone else but still kept in touch with me and invited me to hang out with him several times. Each time we would hang out, I just reminded my self that we were just friends. This helped me to stay relaxed and have fun. After a few months we got back together and have been together for a few months now and our relationship is better then ever.

I recognize that my stories aren't the norm and may not happen for everyone but don't give up hope. Any relationship can turn around.

[beerY33]

he's probably interested in friendship. that's a tricky thing to do, and he's not being very clear about it. if you don't want to be friends or aren't ready to be friends, just tell him that you need your space and aren't ready for that kind of a relationship with him.

[Rhodna]

thanks very much for taking time to respond.. it helps alot.. thanks again.

[beerY33]

no problem, good luck!