we work together and i was off yesterday and i obv went downtown to see the fireworks (which is where we work) and i was drunk and my dad wanted to go say hi to him so we did and he was super nice and we had a good time. he texted me a little bit later after he left work saying happy new years and how he hopes it’s a good one for me and he’s sorry he was mean (he wasn’t but he looked REALLY stressed out bc work) which was super sweet. i texted him when i got home out of habit at 2am and he texted me at 7am when he went back work to never text him letting him know i got home again and he’s trying to get over me and being so rude to me? i don’t get it….
Ex boyfriend giving me mixed signals?
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Relationships are emotional roller-coasters. I have no doubt he still has some feelings for you and your routine in some way reignites some of the feelings he still has for you. I could never keep in contact with my exs for this reason so when it was over, it was cut off cold turkey.
i don’t want it to be over…. that’s the thing …. we hang out a lot still after the break up and it’s never been awkward. it’s like nothing ever happened. i don’t know what to do.
You answered your own question. If you don't want it to be over you need to talk to him about expectations, what you're both looking for and what you both can accept since clearly he is trying to get over you.
i feel like he’s just saying that to get a reaction out of me. he checks up on me at work constantly for no reason, gives me random reassurance.
That could be true, that's exactly why its a good idea to chat with him out it.
how am i supposed to do that if he’s being very hot and cold right now
There isn't any one way to do it, my thoughts with the information provided is either give him space then discuss it when he seems relaxed or bring it up next time you both are alone like after work. Its easier said than done and likely to be uncomfortable but beating around the bush or assuming won't lead to anything.
i appreciate you so much… thank you…
Good Luck :)