Do you have regrets about not "making the move" on the girl?

[Anonymous]

Do you fellow shy guys/girls out there have regrets about not making the move when you should have and then you lost a decent girl/guy over it?

[kejette]

This response is kind of the opposite of the question, but it's the same topic.

I can be so shy around people I don't know very well. One time I told my friends I was going to give my crush my number and they thought I was kidding, but I actually did it! I posted a question about this. I just found out that today his girlfriend left him for another guy. So now I don't really know what to expect since he never texted me and I never even knew he had a girlfriend in the first place. If anyone has any comments/advice/suggestions/predictions that'd be great! The question is titled "what is going on with this guy (and me)?"
Although I was completely freaking out for the rest of the day after I gave him my number, I felt a slight relief after that. Even though I felt disappointed that he hadn't texted me, at least I had done something. But now, I wonder if I still have a chance?

[Bisexgirl9]

ALWAYS, I'm really shy and it's hard for me to admit that I like someone, even to my closest friends. And I always regret not telling that person my feelings. My advice for you is to just biuld up some confidence and tell her. Don't be annoying or harras her, but tell her what you feel in the nicest way possible. The worst thing that can happen is that she doesn't like you, but this way you can move on and later on qhen you do find that person, all the other girls that didn't like you are going to regret not giving you a chance. Confidence is key. And don't get deppressed if a girl rejects you, and sorry to tell you, but it WILL happen, and possibly more than once. But instead of thinking of what you can lose, think of what you can gain if she says yes :) Hope this helps!

[Asker]

Ya you're totally right, but unfortuntely for me I'm 27 and every, little every girl I've told how I felt has thrown me the friend card. So its getting tougher to keep the bright side out.

[Bisexgirl9]

I don't know you, but I can tell you right now that you're special and you will find that special person, don't give up hope. Any woman would be lucky to have a guy that respects women as much as you do! Keep trying :)

[Asker]

Thanks, its just this time it felt different to all the others and I've messed it up yet again! I suppose what will be will be!

[Bisexgirl9]

Just remember, if a girl can't appreciate you for who you are then she isn't worth it. I promise that you'll find that special person, all it takes is a little patience and hope. Hang in there.

[Calex]

I have a question.

You said "all the other girls that didn't like you are going to regret not giving you a chance"

What will make them regret it?

[Bisexgirl9]

Because they're gonna see what they're missing out on. They're gonna see how happy you make someone else and how happy you are and they'll regret not being the person that you're with. you know?

[BrunetteNYC]

Is it always due to being shy? What about girls/guys who do this out of pride? Not swallowing our pride after a fight and break-up, not making a move, and still losing that person in the end. We all do it in our ways.

[indy7]

Yes. Let me count how many. Fingers, toes,...21. Yep, 21. Glad I'm a guy. We're able to count to 21.

Confidence, real confidence, and being able to break through and communicate to where a real connection is made is not an easy thing for us shy people. Being shot down time after time is grueling. But everyone gets shot down. We get up and keep looking until we find the right one for us.

[man32]

luckily i never did the mistake by not telling my love for a girl... the bad thing is either i didn't tell it at the right manner/she is older than me and says no... all three gals i pursued till now are older than me. :)

[bDizzie]

All the time. I try to tell myself it's not that bad to be rejected, it's much worse to wonder what could have been...

[whiteknight01]

Yes she was the perfect girl and I could have easily had her in fact I already did all I had to do was "seal the deal" if I wasn't such a wimp, not going to make the same mistake again. Now I'm just a lonely young adult.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but only with one certain girl & it was for other reasons then being shy. I'm sure I will always regret it.

[Anonymous]

Yeah took me two years to get over it. Still hurts sometimes. It was complicated between us tho

[Asker]

I see that word used a lot "complicated" and I don't mean any offence to you but do you think some women might use it as an excuse because they are afraid to get into anything with anyone?

[Opinion Owner]

I do that. Feelings scare me

[Asker]

you see I think the girl that I had this "something" with is like you. Have you any advice on how I could get the truth out of her. Everytime we got close, she seemed to back off for a few days like nothing was any different. So confusing.

[Opinion Owner]

Idk it's hard to break a girls walls down

[Asker]

i guess if its meant to be itll work out! Thnks anyway

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry :(

[Anonymous]

I regret not trying to save a relationship enough but not making a move. I only make moves if I know that both him and I are ready for it.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Nopes I always do what I want

[Anonymous]

Yeah I have regrets on that

[9mm_nina]

You're asking me? I'm a girl

[Shpongolia]

Yes

[TheOneTurv]

sometimes

[kangaru]

For me yes ...

[YoungAthleticOne]

Sometimes.

[JohnnySS]

why bother

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I do. Should've at least said something

[moviedude714]

Sometimes yes