Whenever there's an attractive, fit guy, my mum says "he'll love himself more than he'll love you" or "he loves the gym more". Hot guys usually expect girls to flock to them and don't make any effort so yeah, I don't bother too much with them.
I think girls often hookup and have their most rxciting memories with the hot guys but they settle down with the less attractive guys because they are safer and more reliable. Also the hot guy didn't want to committ to her. They grow tired of being cheated on or used by the hot guys and settle for an average guy when its time to buy a house and raise a family.
I think personally myself I may look at the six pack guys and say there sexy but I try to get to know them but mostly they just blow you off like a candle but I would rather have someone I love cuz of their heart and the way they treat me
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Holding out for someone great looking to notice your loyalty and inner strength is a terrible dating strategy for either sex. Especially if it means it gives you hope to do little to stay fit and well groomed.
Even if you do land an unexpected catch, you'll destroy your own sex life by not putting effort into staying sexy. It doesn't mean you have to be perfect, but being vastly overweight, out of shape or sloppy in appearance will kill your own libido as much as your partners.
All those guys you showed weren't ugly though. The only time I've seen a hot girl with an ugly guy is when he had money and by that I mean he doesn't have to be rich, just make a significantly more amount of money than she does. The only other chance you have is if she way more into bodies and you have a nice body, but an ugly face. Of course a hot guy with a shitty personality is bad too and that will drive women away too, but most women would still at the very least use him for sex.
I don't think that all girls would have the same reasons - I believe there are a lot of mean girls who would do this only for the money, but if I was hot/perfect I can only date an ugly guy because of his attitude. For me the attitude is very important in a guy.
Looks aren't important, and besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To mee humour in a man is attractive as is intelligence. As long as the man is kind, honest and that we a lot in common then looks aren't high on my list.
If a girls wants an ugly guy that's me, okay I'm not ugly, just not one of the good looking dudes, But if she want's financial security, that's not me, I draw, I make things, I hate math, biology, and want to write and draw for a living, so financial security is out the window, unless I write the next harry potter.
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Hmmm, yes, yes... very interesting, very insightful. You should, however, take a look at the question I posted for a bit more accurate representation of what most women want.
im pretty sure girls are already way more superficial than guys. not always on the "looks" front. But how many guys marry for wealth... how many guys marry a girl cuz she's hot... (sure it happens but its not like we can just choose a chick and boom she's mine)... how many young girls are obsessed with some dude and have 1000 pictures on their wall... how many guys have just one picture on their wall... girls are absolutely and have been for the last 30 years been more superficial than guys.
@Rufus335 I wholeheartedly disagree with this statement. I mean, you saying that only reinforces how 'superficial' guys are. I think you only see girls as more superficial because of the whole makeup, clothing, popularity, maintenance thing i. e. what SOCIETY has pressured us into being like. Me, I care about appearence and things like that, but because they're fun and I genuinely enjoy it. You're analysis/assumption that 'girls are more superficial' only serves to illuminate your own superficiality. Far too often have I met arrogant, self-servile guys who are as shallow as a cup with one drop of water in it. In fact, most of the guys I've known have been like this. And while I fully acknowledge that many girls are the same way, I have come to the understanding that it's better for me to only have girl friends that are my age, instead of guys friends. Because, in my experience, all guys my age and younger, are immature, perverted, unsophisticated persons whom only time can improve.
@GlibSluice none of your points have any real validation. and what i made were rational arguments. you just made claims and didn't back any of your statements with observations or data. nothing i said makes me superficial minus what im going to say now... i am an extremely superficial person but im not afraid or embarrassed to say it.
you can blame it on society all you want and ill allow you to continue blaming society for your feminist views. go ahead point your finger all you want. yes im a douche yes i am arrogant...
anyways i do agree with your last statement / lifestyle in that you only have girl friends.. i applaud that. i think girls with more than one good guy friend are actually kinda slutty and they never end up being relationship material. women and men are different by nature and i do respect your view of men. i agree with it but to assume all guys just want to get in your pants is absurb...
@Rufus335 Your 'arguments' were as baseless as mine, at least some of them. Let's just agree that I'm biased towards girls and in my views about men, and you're biased in your views about women and men as well. Most of your connections don't even align with your assertion. What I did was use personal experience to relay my views, and while some of your 'arguments' were 'rational', they were also biased against women, setting up men as more genuine in their relationship endeavors than most women. You've had experiences, as have I, both of which were undeniably influenced by the society in which we live, because it is impossible not to be. Maybe the reason why girls have become so superficial is because men/society in general impress their expectations on girls and women. We have so much weight to bear in this category, that sometimes it's hard not to be superficial. So, why don't you go shave your legs and spend your hard-earned cash on bras, then tell me how you feel.
@GlibSluice you dont have to shave your legs... your blaming men for the female gander roles... are you kidding me? im the one in the wrong? im the biased one? My experiences are hard evidence. you posed nothing... you provided not a single piece of evidence of men being superficial minus "look/attractiveness"
honestly i bet you're overweight and didn't get asked to prom. i bet you had to ask someone yourself and he was denied by the prettiest girl in high school. you hunny are just bitter and let me add... "you mad bra?" get over yourself
@Rufus335 How are your experiences any more 'hard evidence' than mine, when you are unable to see, to recognize, the societal influence and bias in your own argument. You only see the words 'shave legs' and 'society's influence' and focus only on that, not my opinion as a whole. Your answers have illuminated the ignorance and the inability to comprehend my assertions and analysis. How can you not understand that you jumping to the cliche conclusion that I am 'overweight' and had 'no date to the prom' are completely biased and overflowing with negative tropes. Because the only way that I can have this opinion is if I'm overweight and bitter? That's what you're insinuating. And even the observation that I would 'have' to ask someone to the prom is based on obsolete tropes. I wouldn't have 'had' to ask anyone. Your sentence right there is a perfect example of gender suppositions. Get over myself? I'm logically analyzing this; you're throwing around cliches. Open your eyes.
@GlibSluice yes i am coming to the subjective conclusion you are fat and ugly. by the way you brought up the "shave legs" and "societys influence" i only said you dont have to do that or let that influence you. you have come to the conclusion that i am biased for absolutely no reason. i made rational arguments with evidence you made none. you made claims and did not back any with a situation or experience. you portrayed nothing. my eyes are open. i love my life and came into this discussion with only a point of view and you called me out for no other reason than to back the female gender and put down men. i only defended myself and gender. you are bitter. seriously look back you started this shit
hahaha ya, i am white. it's a common mistake to read my screenname as "is black" instead of "is back" (back as in this my 2nd account from @consultant) lol no worries. When I play basketball people think I'm black, so i understand the confusion LOL jk!
When I was in school, the hottest girl in school was Katherine a. She had a pretty face, nice boobs, flat tummy, yet curvy and a nice ass. She was a ten but since she dated an asshole ugly dude and EVERYONE wanted her even other girls it turned me off. I've never been attracted to super hot girls I feel like they are unattainable
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Whenever there's an attractive, fit guy, my mum says "he'll love himself more than he'll love you" or "he loves the gym more". Hot guys usually expect girls to flock to them and don't make any effort so yeah, I don't bother too much with them.
It's hilarious how guys think they know girls better than we know ourselves...
I agree with your MyTake! =)
The sales industry doesn't exist, right?
Yup, totally to both of you!
@LittleSally i mean we do pay attention how our "dream girl" talks to us and who they usually date right
and sometimes girls think they know guys more than ourselves too...
I think girls often hookup and have their most rxciting memories with the hot guys but they settle down with the less attractive guys because they are safer and more reliable. Also the hot guy didn't want to committ to her. They grow tired of being cheated on or used by the hot guys and settle for an average guy when its time to buy a house and raise a family.
I think personally myself I may look at the six pack guys and say there sexy but I try to get to know them but mostly they just blow you off like a candle but I would rather have someone I love cuz of their heart and the way they treat me
Holding out for someone great looking to notice your loyalty and inner strength is a terrible dating strategy for either sex. Especially if it means it gives you hope to do little to stay fit and well groomed.
Even if you do land an unexpected catch, you'll destroy your own sex life by not putting effort into staying sexy. It doesn't mean you have to be perfect, but being vastly overweight, out of shape or sloppy in appearance will kill your own libido as much as your partners.
This is so not true. It's very rare for hot girls to go for 'ugly' guys. Change 'ugly' to 'average' in this myTake, and then you see more truth!
the hot girl knows how fucked up she's conditioned to be so she knows how the hot guy is fucked
pieces of the same puzzle. use to being chased and used to havin the last say and use to take take taking.
she wants security thats why and hot guys have options. more likely to flake these attractiv animals
All those guys you showed weren't ugly though. The only time I've seen a hot girl with an ugly guy is when he had money and by that I mean he doesn't have to be rich, just make a significantly more amount of money than she does. The only other chance you have is if she way more into bodies and you have a nice body, but an ugly face. Of course a hot guy with a shitty personality is bad too and that will drive women away too, but most women would still at the very least use him for sex.
I don't think that all girls would have the same reasons - I believe there are a lot of mean girls who would do this only for the money, but if I was hot/perfect I can only date an ugly guy because of his attitude. For me the attitude is very important in a guy.
Looks aren't important, and besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To mee humour in a man is attractive as is intelligence. As long as the man is kind, honest and that we a lot in common then looks aren't high on my list.
If a girls wants an ugly guy that's me, okay I'm not ugly, just not one of the good looking dudes,
But if she want's financial security, that's not me, I draw, I make things, I hate math, biology, and want to write and draw for a living, so financial security is out the window, unless I write the next harry potter.
Hmmm, yes, yes... very interesting, very insightful. You should, however, take a look at the question I posted for a bit more accurate representation of what most women want.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1911060-is-this-formula-for-obtaining-women
lol, these are movies. i actually think in the coming years we're going to see girls become more superficial and men less so...
I see ugly guys with hot girls all the time.
However, "hot" and "ugly" are subjective.
im pretty sure girls are already way more superficial than guys. not always on the "looks" front. But how many guys marry for wealth... how many guys marry a girl cuz she's hot... (sure it happens but its not like we can just choose a chick and boom she's mine)... how many young girls are obsessed with some dude and have 1000 pictures on their wall... how many guys have just one picture on their wall... girls are absolutely and have been for the last 30 years been more superficial than guys.
@Rufus335 I wholeheartedly disagree with this statement. I mean, you saying that only reinforces how 'superficial' guys are. I think you only see girls as more superficial because of the whole makeup, clothing, popularity, maintenance thing i. e. what SOCIETY has pressured us into being like. Me, I care about appearence and things like that, but because they're fun and I genuinely enjoy it.
You're analysis/assumption that 'girls are more superficial' only serves to illuminate your own superficiality.
Far too often have I met arrogant, self-servile guys who are as shallow as a cup with one drop of water in it. In fact, most of the guys I've known have been like this. And while I fully acknowledge that many girls are the same way, I have come to the understanding that it's better for me to only have girl friends that are my age, instead of guys friends. Because, in my experience, all guys my age and younger, are immature, perverted, unsophisticated persons whom only time can improve.
@GlibSluice none of your points have any real validation. and what i made were rational arguments. you just made claims and didn't back any of your statements with observations or data. nothing i said makes me superficial minus what im going to say now... i am an extremely superficial person but im not afraid or embarrassed to say it.
you can blame it on society all you want and ill allow you to continue blaming society for your feminist views. go ahead point your finger all you want. yes im a douche yes i am arrogant...
anyways i do agree with your last statement / lifestyle in that you only have girl friends.. i applaud that. i think girls with more than one good guy friend are actually kinda slutty and they never end up being relationship material. women and men are different by nature and i do respect your view of men. i agree with it but to assume all guys just want to get in your pants is absurb...
@Rufus335 Your 'arguments' were as baseless as mine, at least some of them. Let's just agree that I'm biased towards girls and in my views about men, and you're biased in your views about women and men as well.
Most of your connections don't even align with your assertion. What I did was use personal experience to relay my views, and while some of your 'arguments' were 'rational', they were also biased against women, setting up men as more genuine in their relationship endeavors than most women.
You've had experiences, as have I, both of which were undeniably influenced by the society in which we live, because it is impossible not to be.
Maybe the reason why girls have become so superficial is because men/society in general impress their expectations on girls and women. We have so much weight to bear in this category, that sometimes it's hard not to be superficial.
So, why don't you go shave your legs and spend your hard-earned cash on bras, then tell me how you feel.
@GlibSluice you dont have to shave your legs... your blaming men for the female gander roles... are you kidding me? im the one in the wrong? im the biased one? My experiences are hard evidence. you posed nothing... you provided not a single piece of evidence of men being superficial minus "look/attractiveness"
honestly i bet you're overweight and didn't get asked to prom. i bet you had to ask someone yourself and he was denied by the prettiest girl in high school. you hunny are just bitter and let me add... "you mad bra?" get over yourself
@Rufus335 How are your experiences any more 'hard evidence' than mine, when you are unable to see, to recognize, the societal influence and bias in your own argument. You only see the words 'shave legs' and 'society's influence' and focus only on that, not my opinion as a whole. Your answers have illuminated the ignorance and the inability to comprehend my assertions and analysis.
How can you not understand that you jumping to the cliche conclusion that I am 'overweight' and had 'no date to the prom' are completely biased and overflowing with negative tropes. Because the only way that I can have this opinion is if I'm overweight and bitter? That's what you're insinuating.
And even the observation that I would 'have' to ask someone to the prom is based on obsolete tropes. I wouldn't have 'had' to ask anyone. Your sentence right there is a perfect example of gender suppositions.
Get over myself? I'm logically analyzing this; you're throwing around cliches. Open your eyes.
@GlibSluice yes i am coming to the subjective conclusion you are fat and ugly. by the way you brought up the "shave legs" and "societys influence" i only said you dont have to do that or let that influence you. you have come to the conclusion that i am biased for absolutely no reason. i made rational arguments with evidence you made none. you made claims and did not back any with a situation or experience. you portrayed nothing. my eyes are open. i love my life and came into this discussion with only a point of view and you called me out for no other reason than to back the female gender and put down men. i only defended myself and gender. you are bitter. seriously look back you started this shit
It isn't because they're ugly. It is because some girls look with the heart, not the eyes.
Yeah, and they ride unicorns, and live in an AMAZING Disney world, not reality.
@SomeGuy37 why such a bitter comment bro?
Please, if a hot woman is dating an ugly guy he is rich.
I'm calling BS. This is classic "I've been hurt by too many bad boys so I'm going to find a nice guy that will treat me like a princess".
You're not going after the nice guy because you like him. You're going after the nice guy because you're used up and have issues.
Well, there have to be some hot guys out there who have a great personality and aren't players!
They aren't the majority
@dominiquois I know... :(
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Exactly
Most of my problem is actually jealousy because when a woman hits on my man I get really pissed off
why do they hit on your man? isn't he with you?
@fiodor99 yes he is but that doesn't stop dumb bitches from seeing him and talking to him anyway
No, I think @ConsultantIsBlack put it best. He actually said it better than I was gonna say it.
@ConsultantIsBack I thought you're white?
Lmfao!
@ManOnFire thanks man! appreciate it
@YourFutureEx @Stacyzee
hahaha ya, i am white. it's a common mistake to read my screenname as "is black" instead of "is back" (back as in this my 2nd account from @consultant) lol no worries. When I play basketball people think I'm black, so i understand the confusion LOL jk!
Eddie Murphy summed this up
Mick jaguar
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Successful ugly men
If you are nice, good to her, good personality, not negative p, have a job, car, future, you've got a shot I think
When I was in school, the hottest girl in school was Katherine a. She had a pretty face, nice boobs, flat tummy, yet curvy and a nice ass. She was a ten but since she dated an asshole ugly dude and EVERYONE wanted her even other girls it turned me off. I've never been attracted to super hot girls I feel like they are unattainable