I never make guys wait more then five minutes - and that too I only make them wait for those few minutes if it's a valid reason. Stop dating shallow people.
Do what I do. If the first time you're taking a girl out, she says "5 minutes" when it's well over that. Text ahead and say "I'm coming to pick you up now". Wait however long it took her last time minus the drive time. So when you get there you'll either be right on time or she'll be upset and understand where you're coming from. Has worked for me 100% of the time lol.
One girl asked "what took you so long?" I responded, "oh, you took 1.5 hours when you told me 5 minutes last time. So I just assumed this was another one of those times".
@rjroy3 I usually tell them we need to be there an hour earlier than we actually do, they never catch on! It is a bit manipulative, but it is for the best.
I don't have any of those people - only women left I'm afraid. But I'm one of those people that hates being late - I arrive at meetings fifteen minutes early, I wake up extra early etc - I can't abide people who make other people wait. It's just rude. BUT I have no man in my life. Everything guys say on this site- it makes me think I must be the perfect girl for every man, but something doesn't work.
I used to be the same way about arriving early and what not. Then I started realizing sometimes no matter what you do, arrival won't always be the way you expected. That and of course time really doesn't matter. I can understand how making others wait is rude, but it also sounds like you are taking it way too personally against you. Who knows why people do things or why things happen, that doesn't mean it was personally against you. Maybe you are the only woman left and sticking to your guns so-to-speak. I don't know.
@Poppykate what planet do you live on? Women are known for doing nothing but playing hard to get. I guess on planet Aeos the women never play hard to get. But here on Earth GAG all the women play hard to get.
Or perhaps you gravitate towards women who play games and are actually immature girls. I have often been surprised by how similar all the men in my life are. They all have this mad laugh and passionate personality. I never realise until I behold the massive laughter. It kinda freaks me out.
@Psi_Unknown it doesn't - I like the laugh and the personality - it's the fact that even if I think I'm dating someone not like my last boyfriend, they are all eerily similar - it just freaks me out a bit.
Again, another issue that women do WAY more then men...
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You know that's not true. Everyone knows that the issue of a guy not calling or losing interest is a lot more prevalent than a woman not calling or losing interest.
Thing is, if he didn't do that. You would be happily chatting away with him and never realizing you're romantically into the guy. So well, he kind of has to.
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It was obvious to everyone that I was interested in him, including him. I wanted him to know. He knew. He flirted back. He was a gentleman as well. He was kind. He was good. Now he's even gone on a business trip and didn't even tell me - I mean he's acting like nothing changed in our friendship. He says he'll see me and hang out but he never does. I don't understand. I liked him before he started playing games, now I feel a complete lack of control.
@Psi_Unknown yeah I try not to over analyze things too much - a lot of my close friends are men and I've seen them bumble along in their own romances and not realise that even their little actions are gone over with a fine toothed comb. I try not to be shallow and give them the benefit of the doubt.
This happens to men and women. The solution isn't for the other person to text you, it's to move on and find someone who will. It's hard but if they aren't trying now, they won't later, and he's not worth your time.
@Silver119 like I said in the end we girls can be annoying too But when a girl says she's fine just leave her and she would come back or ask her what's wrong depends on the girl When I say I'm fine I need to be alone for a while
Oh dear, careful with the hypocrisy. At any rate, your reaction in and of itself gives a partial answer to your original question. Your resorting to ad hominem and calling me bitter, when I'm really just neutral, further confirms it.
You are impatient and then there's this: " I know I'm not the best you could probably be with."
making friends and spending time with them is a great way to do that. Friends will generally point out the best in you and encourage you in pursuit of your goals. Something to take pride in.
It's difficult making friends at this age - especially when you can only socialist with the 'elite' in a very small community - I live in a strange place and any social interaction is actually quite draining.
Well you all girls don't have to be such as kids or teens when we're busy it means we're busy later we can tell you why we didn't make it. And sometimes we're not in the fucking god damn mode! That's it.
I've been cut cold by women often, I just look for another girl.
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Amen! Exactly what I am going through right now.. Eventually I'll be sick of the games and leave.. I shouldn't have to wait for him to grow up and be there like he promises..
If I don't communicate it's usually cause I don't want to come of as needy or creepy
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I know the feeling - being a clingy female is anathema. But frankly I think that I might have just spoken too comfortably with him. My friend was shocked and horrified when I told her that I used to speak to him no differently than how I spoke to her. I guess I should have played games but... I want a relationship. I would never respect a man enough to have a relationship if I played games on him - and I would no longer respect myself.
And that is great if you can do that, but not everyone speaks the same to everyone. Most people don't even speak the same on the street as they would on the internet! Different situations, different contexts, different people, different ways of understanding, the list goes on...
hahaha sorry but i can't help but to laugh. what kind of pathetic, meaningless problems people have omg. anyway i dont make anyone wait. my life is free from the bondages of women or anyone else... .
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When "I'll be ready in 5 minutes" actually means 5 minutes, and not 2 hours... I will call to say "hi" more often.
*hands you five dollars*
Thank you for your services. Your jokes have been most appreciated sir. Lol
I never make guys wait more then five minutes - and that too I only make them wait for those few minutes if it's a valid reason. Stop dating shallow people.
I... don't believe you. Let me talk to your boyfriend/husband/lover/brother/father please.
Do what I do. If the first time you're taking a girl out, she says "5 minutes" when it's well over that. Text ahead and say "I'm coming to pick you up now".
Wait however long it took her last time minus the drive time. So when you get there you'll either be right on time or she'll be upset and understand where you're coming from. Has worked for me 100% of the time lol.
One girl asked "what took you so long?"
I responded, "oh, you took 1.5 hours when you told me 5 minutes last time. So I just assumed this was another one of those times".
@rjroy3 I usually tell them we need to be there an hour earlier than we actually do, they never catch on! It is a bit manipulative, but it is for the best.
I don't have any of those people - only women left I'm afraid. But I'm one of those people that hates being late - I arrive at meetings fifteen minutes early, I wake up extra early etc - I can't abide people who make other people wait. It's just rude. BUT I have no man in my life. Everything guys say on this site- it makes me think I must be the perfect girl for every man, but something doesn't work.
Hah, it is a little bit. But you're making the best of the situation
I used to be the same way about arriving early and what not. Then I started realizing sometimes no matter what you do, arrival won't always be the way you expected. That and of course time really doesn't matter. I can understand how making others wait is rude, but it also sounds like you are taking it way too personally against you. Who knows why people do things or why things happen, that doesn't mean it was personally against you. Maybe you are the only woman left and sticking to your guns so-to-speak. I don't know.
huh, if you can't handle the heat get out of the kitchen
Meaning?
He's playing you to see if you have any kind of value
And how would I seem like I am of value? I've just seemed a bit chill and busy with other people and stuff... Like that?
Guys who treat you like that are just not interested in you (anymore). Same goes for girls. Mystery solved!
Guys really does makes Woman wait? o. o
I haven't read what's written. But can guys even do that? it should be a crime isn't it?
Apparently it's rare... I guess there's something wrong with me
Great writing wow, yeah I HATE playing games and all that childish shit! Best of luck sis
Thank you xx
Lmao. Okay
That's the pot calling the kettle black. Women have made men wait too.
Women don't keep men waiting, only high maintenance bitches do!
@Poppykate so playing hard to get isn't making us wait?
Again, women don't play hard to get...
@Poppykate what planet do you live on? Women are known for doing nothing but playing hard to get.
I guess on planet Aeos the women never play hard to get. But here on Earth GAG all the women play hard to get.
What poppy means is that women don't play games, immature girls do
But that's like almost all of them
I've never met a woman who didn't play games.
Or perhaps you gravitate towards women who play games and are actually immature girls. I have often been surprised by how similar all the men in my life are. They all have this mad laugh and passionate personality. I never realise until I behold the massive laughter. It kinda freaks me out.
How do you laugh? How does a passionate personality bother you or leave you with a feeling of heartlessness?
@Psi_Unknown it doesn't - I like the laugh and the personality - it's the fact that even if I think I'm dating someone not like my last boyfriend, they are all eerily similar - it just freaks me out a bit.
I don't know what to say about that...
@Psi_Unknown okay
Again, another issue that women do WAY more then men...
You know that's not true. Everyone knows that the issue of a guy not calling or losing interest is a lot more prevalent than a woman not calling or losing interest.
not in my experience..
guess I am just that good of a guy..
I think this site is full of heartbroken nice people
lol.. I have thought the same thing
and a lot of childish idiots
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Awesome writing.. I know how you feel, I've been there. I think you have to ask your self, is he worth waiting for.
Thanks x... Maybe you're right. He really isn't worth it. Slowly I'm thinking of him less.
Thing is, if he didn't do that. You would be happily chatting away with him and never realizing you're romantically into the guy. So well, he kind of has to.
It was obvious to everyone that I was interested in him, including him. I wanted him to know. He knew. He flirted back. He was a gentleman as well. He was kind. He was good. Now he's even gone on a business trip and didn't even tell me - I mean he's acting like nothing changed in our friendship. He says he'll see me and hang out but he never does. I don't understand. I liked him before he started playing games, now I feel a complete lack of control.
Maybe he isn't interested anymore. Do you think things will never change? I'm sorry, I have a hard time reading this...
He probably had his reasons for doing what he did. How does lack of control make you feel? Maybe the details are not as important as you think?
@Psi_Unknown yeah I try not to over analyze things too much - a lot of my close friends are men and I've seen them bumble along in their own romances and not realise that even their little actions are gone over with a fine toothed comb. I try not to be shallow and give them the benefit of the doubt.
Ughh I feel you. My boyfriend has been doing this to me lately and it pisses me off. Makes me think I'm to blame.
You sound like a nice girl, if you are single are you interested in dating me :)?
Aw thank you for making me smile and yes 💕😘💙
you welcome, love you for being so sweet :*
Same to you 😊😊😘
Can you pm me :)?
This happens to men and women. The solution isn't for the other person to text you, it's to move on and find someone who will. It's hard but if they aren't trying now, they won't later, and he's not worth your time.
Men are soo annoying!
They say something that seems like it's what there saying but then it's not or they change it
Men are annoying? O ya? :(
@Guyguy2020 they don't say directly what they want
They escape they answer sometimes!
We girls are annoying too
Women don't say what they want/mean either thus why there is so many meme's going around translating what "fine" means if a woman says it lol
@Silver119 like I said in the end we girls can be annoying too
But when a girl says she's fine just leave her and she would come back or ask her what's wrong depends on the girl
When I say I'm fine I need to be alone for a while
As you said, know your place, woman. There are no games. Extend a finger and you'll bite off our arms. We know how this goes..
I'm starting to think this site is full of heartbroken people.
I'm not, can't speak for others. Don't mistake being precise and prioritized with being heartbroken.
Being precise doesn't usually entail an original metaphor - and you seem pretty bitter man
Oh dear, careful with the hypocrisy. At any rate, your reaction in and of itself gives a partial answer to your original question. Your resorting to ad hominem and calling me bitter, when I'm really just neutral, further confirms it.
You are impatient and then there's this:
" I know I'm not the best you could probably be with."
Woman, have some PRIDE!!!
Women biting off men's arms? Sounds a tad bitter.
But yeah you're right I don't have any pride left. I don't know how to get it back.
making friends and spending time with them is a great way to do that. Friends will generally point out the best in you and encourage you in pursuit of your goals. Something to take pride in.
It's difficult making friends at this age - especially when you can only socialist with the 'elite' in a very small community - I live in a strange place and any social interaction is actually quite draining.
Well you all girls don't have to be such as kids or teens when we're busy it means we're busy later we can tell you why we didn't make it. And sometimes we're not in the fucking god damn mode! That's it.
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Okay. Feel better now?
I've been cut cold by women often, I just look for another girl.
Amen! Exactly what I am going through right now.. Eventually I'll be sick of the games and leave.. I shouldn't have to wait for him to grow up and be there like he promises..
If I don't communicate it's usually cause I don't want to come of as needy or creepy
I know the feeling - being a clingy female is anathema. But frankly I think that I might have just spoken too comfortably with him. My friend was shocked and horrified when I told her that I used to speak to him no differently than how I spoke to her. I guess I should have played games but... I want a relationship. I would never respect a man enough to have a relationship if I played games on him - and I would no longer respect myself.
And that is great if you can do that, but not everyone speaks the same to everyone. Most people don't even speak the same on the street as they would on the internet! Different situations, different contexts, different people, different ways of understanding, the list goes on...
hahaha sorry but i can't help but to laugh. what kind of pathetic, meaningless problems people have omg. anyway i dont make anyone wait. my life is free from the bondages of women or anyone else... .
I can tell
your passive agressive insult is amusing. keep them coming. more reassurance of how blessed my life is... .
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