Do NOT get involved with "BeautifulPeople. com". Let me explain...

[Jamethan]

So what i believe is that you can't get someones "essence" through a lens, you can get the essence that they look like they would have but you will never know for sure until you actually meet the person. There is so much more to liking somebody than just their looks; there's pheromones, personality, good habits etc...

*Side Note*

How beautifulpeople.com works: People apply by making an account, submitting their picture and then its released to hundreds of thousands of existing members already branded as "Beautiful".

I was simply curious as to if i would be voted in to the dating site and was always very happy whenever i checked to see my results. I'd see I would be almost maxing the green side out and plenty of supposedly sexy women were finding me beautiful or cute.

After about a day of obsessively checking my results I noticed something strange... Not only was I starting to feel more depressed but I was constantly feeling judged by others; People i don't even know! I realized this i was finding myself strangely addicted to the approval of others on the site and would check my results to get that sense of acceptance and momentarily feel happy again.

I needed my fix, i suppose... i wouldn't always be happy when i saw my results. I noticed that i went from 40% beautiful and 50% hmm ok, all the way to 30% beautiful and 60% hmm ok (in the screenshot above) and i felt a sudden rush of insult. I should have still been extremely grateful yet i found myself even more depressed than before!

I started getting emails from the site stating things like "This person winked at you", "This person checked you out", "this person invited you to a social event" and of course i felt the grasp of curiosity slowly take hold of my overly self-conscious mind and checked out their profiles. One thing i noticed is that there were no 20 year old girls sending these things to me; it was woman ranging from age 30-49 sending these things to me. My body ached with disgust and i finally realized how overwhelmingly greasy this site has become. All this has happened in the last 22 hours and i haven't even finished the voting process yet!

People are not supposed to care so much about their looks. If you are so obsessed over getting a pimple or getting dry lips for a week because of the cold Canadian weather then you will find yourself sorely lonely and unhappy. Being self-conscious and good looking doesn't get girls; radiating self-confidence does. Forget about how you look 24/7 and start focusing on more important things. you will find your life will be much more enjoyable and less stressful. There's a reason why most supermodels and celebrities get depressed.

[Cccgala]

I actually think sites that encourage this form of validation are luring pathetic advancements from attention seekers towards getting the attention that these people are craving for.

Numbers don't even justify how intricate someone's facial features are. I agree with your last paragraph.

[Jamethan]

I agree. I feel bad for the people who actually use the site for dating purposes. There's no way people like that could hold a good, healthy relationship when they are simply only looking for a good looking partner.

[alice55]

Just a question, if you think people shouldn't care so much about look. Why did you create a account on this site? This is quite obvious, this site care more about look than anything else (just the name of it tell it).

[Jamethan]

Just curious :) i never intended to use the site becuase i disagree with online dating.
also i have always cared greatly about my looks. i was speaking of experience when i said "If you are so obsessed over getting a pimple or getting dry lips for a week because of the cold Canadian weather then you will find yourself sorely lonely and unhappy."

[alice55]

It make sense now :)
It was just like an "experience".
For what you say about appearance it's true, some people focus only on the bad things they have and try to look better but it doesn't make them happy.
I was really obsessed with my appearance i high school and I had lot of problem because of it.

[Jamethan]

for me i started caring about my looks out of high school haha. I hope you have recently found peace with yourself and are happy!

[alice55]

Now, i'm a lot more better even if sometime I get too focused on a things but I don't think it will get worst than what it was in high school.
thanks, that's nice :)

[Guy13]

It is just another misguided secular attempt at trying to be happy gone awry

[Dog19]

They said I looked horrible and too ugly for their site...

I wish I was pretty but I know not everyone is blessed with good looks

[Jamethan]

Guys tend to have higher standards due to the constant usage of photoshopped models on advertisements... don't worry, you'll find a man and hopefully be happy. Just love yourself :)

[Dog19]

I love your response