Most people on this site feel similarly about themselves. Unfortunately that insecurity is unattractive to women, so it only makes your options dating as a male even slimmer. Getting control of your mental illness will be the best thing for you relationship-wise and long-term
I know, I'm trying and I dont blame other people, I'm broken I just worry that it doesn't matter that I'm trying to move forward, that ill never get there,
I get it. I've been there too. The most important thing is to always find a way to never give up and always be open to change and new experiences. Finding something to be grateful about in those moments you want to give you is something that's helped me: find something to be grateful for and decide on what you want next
Yeah I've had to figure out a good way to explain that to people because I get asked that all the time. For some reason people think all pretty girls should be matched up, but I know I haven't found the right man yet for myself
Same for my sister some of the guys she tried dating where complete assholes.
I had my own reasons as well for turning pepole down. Some women simply looking for something different others were in love with the idea of a relationship with me rather than me and someone clearly just wanted me to show off to there friends. Admittedly I got turned down probly more often and I had some short term things that didn't really work out though through no ones fault in particular.
My brother though falls for pepole way to easily and has been hurt by quite a few relationships where she cheated on him or left him for someone else.
I am too afraid of rejection to try, whole my former life was one big experience saying to me loudly "you are not meant for women, they just don't like you". I hate myself, both body and the mind, so I can't even imagine myself being wanted anywhere. Depression took a lot of years from my life away, and I am 23 years old with nothing to offer, so I think I am not and I will never be a relationship material and I will die alone, hopefully soon.
You're having problems dealing with "past negative experiences." I've been there too and unfortunately the first guy I gave a chance to cheated on me. You just have to take every bad relationship and learn from it so your next one is better
You will reach an age where it's too late to have kids, but you are never too old to find love. If you meet your perfect math at 45, she the rest of your life together will be no different than if you had met at 35
Choosing to wait to date until you have your life together is one of the best reasons. I did it myself and am glad I did so because that has helped me be able to properly deal with my first relationship not working out in a mentally healthy way. Keep focused on that degree and you'll be in a good place
Yes, and India is diverse. We don't date much. Arranged marriages are the system. We are free to choose and love though, but not date. He cheated on you right? Sorry about that. Cheaters and gold diggers are good at acting. That's what I keep saying all the time. They're two faced.
I've heard a lot of the Middle East is difficult for dating. Unfortunately that's not something you can control unless you relocate
Yeah he cheated on me. I can't agree with you more on them being two-faced. My ex has become a completely different person since I dumped him, almost unrecognizable
He used to wear a suit to work (he was a bouncer at a club on the weekends) because I told him it looked good on him. Well he stopped wearing that and started wearing an earring that made him look like a total player. He started trying to hit on girls in front of me to try and make me jealous and stood in front of other guys who were trying to hit on me. Then he called me drunk (when he supposedly wasn't drinking for Ramadan) in the middle of the night trying to get back together. I denied him, so he tried to claim he was with some girl, but he wasn't because he was still texting me. Now he's left town
When we were together he was great to me and always respectful (until he cheated). Clearly he regrets what he did, but his behavior is making me glad I broke up with bim
That might be a generational thing, I'm not really sure. Most people where I live don't have anything to offer to a relationship either. The only people I know who are happy in their marriages are 30+
To be honest this myTake seems to be written from a very female perspective. Some of these don't apply to (the vast, vast majority of) men and the "you don't properly approach enough women, with balls of steel" reason is entirely left out.
Well I'm vastly a female with very little testosterone or male anatomy
I intentionally left that reason out because I want to dedicate an entire MyTake to that reason alone. You can let that sit in the being afraid, so you make yourself unavailable sections here
I'm single because I'm unattractive and no guy was ever interested in me, or tried to hit on me in real life. I only manage to have decent conversations with men online, who don't know how I look like. I actually felt quite fine as single for most of my life, but now, for like 2 years it's unbearable.
Sometimes guys don't show interest because you appear unavailable or unapproachable. If you have a depressive demeanor about yourself, that can also turn men off
There are many quick and easy ways for both men and women to make themselves more attractive no matter what they start with. Being insecure about your looks makes you less attractive
Ah that's unfortunate. I've been through the same thing, but I'm determined to not let that prevent me from moving on with my life in the future (I need a couple more months to myself)
I'm single mostly by choice since I enjoy my freedom and don't have to care about anyone but myself. In a perfect world I'd get a different pussy or 2 every weekend.
That falls under the being afraid because you're insecure category. If you understand your mental illness, you can proactively work with improving the way you deal with it. If you're saying your looks are so bad nobody wants to date you then you must be worse off than Mama June
Looks aren't the most important thing in serious, committed, long term relationships. Compatibility, personality, and life goals are much more important long term, especially since looks fade with time. Blaming your looks is a copout, especially when looks are the easiest and quickest thing to improve about yourself
But looks are important to get noticed by possible dates. I also disagree with the easiest and quickest. With the body, maybe but you can't change your face features unless you're a rich person.
Looks are important in first impressions, but not much after that. Being attractive does draw people in, but overcoming average looks with an above average personality is doable. I believe there are a lot of ways to change your looks that are easy and I've been planning to write a MyTake about that as well for people like you who feel like they don't have many options
Im confident in who i am and i will express interest in girls if they are into me. I feel like its a fact im not as good looking. I never get tinder matches so that says something.
This isn't about tinder or hookups. Casual sex is based solely on looks. I addressed this to people interested in serious, committed, long-term relationships
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sometimes I'm afraid I'm just to screwed up to find someone.
Mental illness does make it hard
Most people on this site feel similarly about themselves. Unfortunately that insecurity is unattractive to women, so it only makes your options dating as a male even slimmer. Getting control of your mental illness will be the best thing for you relationship-wise and long-term
I know, I'm trying and I dont blame other people, I'm broken I just worry that it doesn't matter that I'm trying to move forward, that ill never get there,
I get it. I've been there too. The most important thing is to always find a way to never give up and always be open to change and new experiences. Finding something to be grateful about in those moments you want to give you is something that's helped me: find something to be grateful for and decide on what you want next
I'm picky haha
and the guy I like doesn't like me back I think
"I would rather be alone than with the wrong person" is quite an important point when you occasionally get the asked why are you single?
Yeah I've had to figure out a good way to explain that to people because I get asked that all the time. For some reason people think all pretty girls should be matched up, but I know I haven't found the right man yet for myself
Same for my sister some of the guys she tried dating where complete assholes.
I had my own reasons as well for turning pepole down. Some women simply looking for something different others were in love with the idea of a relationship with me rather than me and someone clearly just wanted me to show off to there friends.
Admittedly I got turned down probly more often and I had some short term things that didn't really work out though through no ones fault in particular.
My brother though falls for pepole way to easily and has been hurt by quite a few relationships where she cheated on him or left him for someone else.
I am too afraid of rejection to try, whole my former life was one big experience saying to me loudly "you are not meant for women, they just don't like you". I hate myself, both body and the mind, so I can't even imagine myself being wanted anywhere. Depression took a lot of years from my life away, and I am 23 years old with nothing to offer, so I think I am not and I will never be a relationship material and I will die alone, hopefully soon.
people keep screwing with me. I want someone to care for me, and not judge me
You're having problems dealing with "past negative experiences." I've been there too and unfortunately the first guy I gave a chance to cheated on me. You just have to take every bad relationship and learn from it so your next one is better
if I was younger.. sure.. Im 40... lol
You will reach an age where it's too late to have kids, but you are never too old to find love. If you meet your perfect math at 45, she the rest of your life together will be no different than if you had met at 35
Im still hoping...
Some people are just nasty. Not everyone is meant to find love.
I tend to agree with that. Those people fall into the "not relationship material" category
Because I literally have no opportunities to meet new women. Also I'd admit to being moderately picky.
I'm single because I choose to and that's not a bad thing. I'm perfectly happy this way. Let me get a damn degree first.
Choosing to wait to date until you have your life together is one of the best reasons. I did it myself and am glad I did so because that has helped me be able to properly deal with my first relationship not working out in a mentally healthy way. Keep focused on that degree and you'll be in a good place
Yes, and India is diverse. We don't date much. Arranged marriages are the system. We are free to choose and love though, but not date.
He cheated on you right? Sorry about that. Cheaters and gold diggers are good at acting. That's what I keep saying all the time. They're two faced.
I've heard a lot of the Middle East is difficult for dating. Unfortunately that's not something you can control unless you relocate
Yeah he cheated on me. I can't agree with you more on them being two-faced. My ex has become a completely different person since I dumped him, almost unrecognizable
Congratulations on the influencer status. He has changed in what way?
Thanks. I wasn't expecting them to give it to me
He used to wear a suit to work (he was a bouncer at a club on the weekends) because I told him it looked good on him. Well he stopped wearing that and started wearing an earring that made him look like a total player. He started trying to hit on girls in front of me to try and make me jealous and stood in front of other guys who were trying to hit on me. Then he called me drunk (when he supposedly wasn't drinking for Ramadan) in the middle of the night trying to get back together. I denied him, so he tried to claim he was with some girl, but he wasn't because he was still texting me. Now he's left town
When we were together he was great to me and always respectful (until he cheated). Clearly he regrets what he did, but his behavior is making me glad I broke up with bim
Oh I see. You should see the girls here where I live. They expect everything from others and give nothing.
That might be a generational thing, I'm not really sure. Most people where I live don't have anything to offer to a relationship either. The only people I know who are happy in their marriages are 30+
To be honest this myTake seems to be written from a very female perspective. Some of these don't apply to (the vast, vast majority of) men and the "you don't properly approach enough women, with balls of steel" reason is entirely left out.
Well I'm vastly a female with very little testosterone or male anatomy
I intentionally left that reason out because I want to dedicate an entire MyTake to that reason alone. You can let that sit in the being afraid, so you make yourself unavailable sections here
I'm single because I'm unattractive and no guy was ever interested in me, or tried to hit on me in real life. I only manage to have decent conversations with men online, who don't know how I look like. I actually felt quite fine as single for most of my life, but now, for like 2 years it's unbearable.
Sometimes guys don't show interest because you appear unavailable or unapproachable. If you have a depressive demeanor about yourself, that can also turn men off
There are many quick and easy ways for both men and women to make themselves more attractive no matter what they start with. Being insecure about your looks makes you less attractive
I'm single cuz I've had sum re bad relation ships that were cruel an painful
Ah that's unfortunate. I've been through the same thing, but I'm determined to not let that prevent me from moving on with my life in the future (I need a couple more months to myself)
Ok what works for you
I'm single mostly by choice since I enjoy my freedom and don't have to care about anyone but myself. In a perfect world I'd get a different pussy or 2 every weekend.
I'm single because of 3DPD. I'd rather have my Waifu.
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mostly shy, and when I haven't been the girls have been too picky.
I am still single and dying to be in a relationship.
Amazing take! Love it. :)
Thanks
I believe that you don't know what you're talking about.
I'm single because mainly of my personality disorder and poor looks.
A person who doesn't have this ↑ will never understand.
That falls under the being afraid because you're insecure category. If you understand your mental illness, you can proactively work with improving the way you deal with it. If you're saying your looks are so bad nobody wants to date you then you must be worse off than Mama June
It's not insecure, it's just being aware of your less attractive looks. There's difference.
Looks aren't the most important thing in serious, committed, long term relationships. Compatibility, personality, and life goals are much more important long term, especially since looks fade with time. Blaming your looks is a copout, especially when looks are the easiest and quickest thing to improve about yourself
But looks are important to get noticed by possible dates. I also disagree with the easiest and quickest. With the body, maybe but you can't change your face features unless you're a rich person.
Looks are important in first impressions, but not much after that. Being attractive does draw people in, but overcoming average looks with an above average personality is doable. I believe there are a lot of ways to change your looks that are easy and I've been planning to write a MyTake about that as well for people like you who feel like they don't have many options
I'll admit that I can relate to; not all, but most of these. And yes, they are some of the reasons why I'm single.
You could be ugly and intimidating like me and thats enough to be single.
That falls under the "afraid because you're insecure" category
Im confident in who i am and i will express interest in girls if they are into me. I feel like its a fact im not as good looking. I never get tinder matches so that says something.
This isn't about tinder or hookups. Casual sex is based solely on looks. I addressed this to people interested in serious, committed, long-term relationships
I get that but if you dont care for either then you're all good
Ah, but that was my very first point about people who want to be single