So I’m 18 and I have been single my entire life and I hate it. It has made me wonder, when will it be my time to be in a relationship? Anyway here are the reasons why.
1. I am shy and awkward around girls because of previous failures at dating
-I have failed 7 times before and because of that I feel like I won’t be successful because I haven’t been able to prove to myself that I can do it. My past haunts me, because of how many times I have shot myself in the foot before. Because of that I fear rejection when it comes to dating.
2. I am not the naturally good looking
-I know that being good looking isn’t the end all be all. But it’s what gets a guy in the door with a girl is it not? I’m not ugly by any means (I’m 6/10) but I’m not considered “hot” or “sexy”. A lot of the guys I see that are in relationships are.
3. I overthink things
-Basically I have issues trusting because I have been let down a lot. Because of that I don’t open up to most because I don’t trust them. I don’t want to be hurt again.
4. I don’t believe that I can succeed
-Simply put I can’t believe that I will succeed because I have yet to do so. I have thought that because I haven’t seen it happen, how can I believe it will happen. Because of this I can be stubborn and get down on myself.
5. I over analyze things
-I think that somethings could mean more than they might actually be. I think way too much about dating because I really want a relationship. I use my head way too much. I can’t tell if a girl is being polite or interested in me.
6. I am inexperienced
-As a guy who is my age I feel like being inexperienced is one of the worst things to be because girls stereotypically like a guy with experience and so because of this I worry that I will stay single because of my lack of experience. Now I know there are girls who don’t think that’s true, but I’m just saying what I have seen from personal experience.
7. I am terrible at flirting
-I don’t know what to say or do around a girl that will get her on my side. I don’t know how to be “smooth”. If a girl flirts with me, I wouldn’t know what to do because I don’t want to ruin things.
All in in all I know that dating shouldn’t make me want to give up on life, it hasn’t and I won’t let it. I also know that this is both my fault and my previous dates fault as well, But I’m sick and tired of being alone. I am the only one who is single in my immediate family. My two older brothers I’m the only one who has consistently been single. Believing in myself hasn’t gotten me anywhere. I need something, I want something, but I’m not sure what will satisfy me. Maybe I need to start giving back to my community and somehow that will make me feel better about all of this, or maybe I need to discover who I truly am and somehow become confident in that. But what do you think I should I do?