Why Does Everyone Say That Being Single is a Choice? I Don’t Think it is (Page 2)
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Being single is a choice to an extend. As a girl you only need to snap your fingers and guys will be in line for casual sex.. just no guys you would want a long term relationship with. Find yourself, don't be afraid to be alone. Nothing worse then making the mistake choosing the wrong guy for the sake of "being in a relationship" where you'll never be happy.
As long as you don't give it a try you won't know, not all guys are like that. Try finding your boyfriend between smart guys, not the random guy in the street, try finding someone who sees this world more than just a dating app/status.
@BraveRecreation I don't mean you shouldn't try to get to know each other, but why does there always have to be sex right away.. I respect my body and I will not just give it to everyone.. not until they have proven themselves worthy. I don't want to stay stuck in a relationship in fear of being alone or if I do end it and I get to look back on my past thinking "OMG I fkd a lot of guys, just to see what they are like". For what it's worth, I agree with you not all guys are like that, same as not all women are like that. We just need to find each other I suppose lol.
White_Widow you seem like a smart girl, I m also quite happy that you thought about what I said and responded back.
A relationship is much more than sex unless you want it to be only about sex.
When you go into a relationship you try to keep each other happy you have no obligation to have sex with anyone if you don't want to but is about coming to a common ground see what you need from him and what he needs from you. if you can't agree to your terms then you are not right for each other, however, in a relationship you shouldn't be very sensitive about this stuff (since there are more complicated stuff can confront you) after all is just a sex you won't lose anything and all you get is the pleasure (as long as you love the guy).
OMG I fkd a lot of guys, just to see what they are like"
Also, don't let other people define you, most of the people on earth got an average IQ of 85 to 115 and their sense of judgment is false most of the time. life is short, do whatever you think is right even if other people are against you. Having regrets is way more painful than others judgments.
@BraveRecreation I do not agree with you entirely on that, I believe that having sex, sharing that intimacy with someone you loose a bit of that ability to share it with the next person. If I have sex with someone I need to have the person I'm with for a full 100% and he will get to have me for a full 100%. I believe having a lot of sexual partners in the past makes you linger on past experiences while being with a new partner. I don't want to think about anyone else but the person I'm with in that moment. I don't want to think or see the man I'm with drifting off in his fantasy of the past while being intimate with me.
And yes a relationship is wayyy more than just sex, I also believe that if you yourself are happy, you are truly capable of making someone else happy.
lol Thank you. but I don't care what other people think of me. I do think it's important to what potential husband material thinks though. (the men who I find husband material lol)
I do agree with most of the things you said and I know what you mean by the things you said.
I really do hate Sharing personal memories (since it won't make a lot of sense to others). I was alone for a quite long time back in the past It wasn't because of my social status or if I was shy or until social it was just a bad experience back from when I was younger. I said all this to get to this point, being alone can be interesting and bearable until sometime its quite different for different people (talking about the amount of time that you can be alone) after the time is over you hurting yourself without realizing it.
@BraveRecreation fair enough, I have to agree with you on that :)
White_Widow It was very nice talking to you. I really don't intend to change anyone's opinion about anything. All I really hope for is if I can make a difference even if it is just for a moment it can be positive after all that's how most medical professions operate.
White_Widow you seem like a thoughtful young lady, I genuinely hope you find what you are looking for. :)
@BraveRecreation Thank you, and I did not experience our talk as if you would want to change my opinion.. More like expanding my horizon lol. Thank you for the kind words and I wish you the same. :)
I’m single by choice. I’m asked out regularly, but decline. I’ve literally been dating since I was 4– that’s when I remember having my first “boyfriend” (I use that term loosely) and when I got old enough I was going on dates. I’ve been in relationships my whole life, but about a year ago I decided to try my hand at spending time out of a relationship and by myself— I personally love it, and intend to continue for a little while.
It's not a choice. Why? You have to get someone else you like to go out with you.
I have Aspergers and let me tell you.. it's not a fucking choice. Most women I've dated ended up leaving me for some other guy who isn't even half as devoted or loyal as I am.
It's whatever though, I don't *need* anyone.
That what happen in my college but with guys. guys alway leave me or cheat on me. i do have a 18p.
@CandacePerry People suck.
It always intrest me, why people look at the break up as a total failure.
Ok, it's not nice... but! why can't they just remember the good moments and mostly it's more of it then the grief ones.
Why we can't focus on what was good and fun... not only at the last stage, which is separation?
Probably it would make thing easier... It works with me.
From what you just wrote, you choose to be single because for no you are going to figure yourself out and what you want before you involve someone else - that's a choice - no matter how you look at it or try to justify it - we all have choices in our lives that impaces our relationshios (or lack of).
Being single is a choice. No one is forced to be single. Anyone can find a partner with whom thry work well if the use the proper system. Few people approach relationships in an effective manner which is why so many are single. It's not a matter of some simply being unable to find partners. It's a matter of going about it incorrectly.
It is a choice for women. Even the most lonely woman is volunteering, turning down guys, looking for an unrealistic dude and just whining because Justin Timberlake isn't going out with her.
Guys.. well as far as the human population goes, they are single all over the place. It's getting to be like the fucking lottery.
I mean you can choose to be single, however not everyone is single by choice. If I could choose, I would absolutely be in a relationship. I've had one short term relationship in my lifetime that only lasted a month, and in that month I was happier than I ever was before or have been since. If I could choose i would want that again. However no girls have taken any interest in me at all since then so I've been forced to be single, I'm not single by choice.
By choice is when you have people banging on your door begging you to date them but you say no. That's a choice.
When you're on a dating website for month and nothing happens and despite your trying you're still single, that's not a choice.
When you look around and there is nobody you see yourself with , that's not a choice.
Sadly, most single people are single NOT but choice. They say it's by choice because otherwise they look like losers.
I always tell myself I am single by choice... then I meet the right girl who I crush on or who crushes on me. I personally have a lot of issues that I am not sure will ever be resolved and I think I'm selfish for having a girl because I would dump all the baggage on her.
Truth is, it's tough to love myself and while I've had relationships, they just weren't meaningful because of me... not because of her.
For some it is. Some have plenty of viable options but choose to forgo for their own reasons.
For others it is not. They are so awkward, unattractive, off-putting, etc. That they'd be hard pressed to ever have someone be intrested in them.
Others choose to be single rather than settle.
Life is determined by inclination, capacity, and opportunity.
Best to encounter and have someone you [] like []. Anything else may follow. Autonomy, as mentioned by some others, helps to underline, define, and guide.
Notice my rendering in functional/procedural terms, rather than categorical.
It's a bit of everything it can be by choice, it can't be because you work by yourself in the world, it can be because you're real shy, you can come from a town that has hardly any females in it like Alaska for example. They are many many reasons out there
That is a CHOICE, to be single to find the right one. Lol also i am single by choice i not looking for anyone and i get a lot of girls angry with me, for not "persuing" a reationship with them. As if i did not tell them from the gate, im not looking. Lol
Being single is by choice is when you are strong enough inside that you don't NEED somebody, It's not a choice when you are trapped in single mode and feel powerless to get out.
Being single isn't a choice, i've gone on dates and been rejected plenty due to being only 5'6ft or 168cm, so for me at least and many other short men being single isn't a choice, but something we have no control over due to being unable to change height and womens attraction to tall men. While there are a few women around who don't mind height, they are very hard to find and far far too few of them.
Those lines of advice at the end are VERY different. The first three kind of support the "do nothing" approach and hoping good things happen. The last two support getting out there and DOING something to get the results you want. You need to decide which approach you want to take.
At least you've tried.
Plenty of people are afraid to do even that. But don't let a negative experience jade you so badly.
It's worth another try.
Haha so they say 😂
being single is a choice for me. I've rejected all the guys to ever like me. People my age are so immature these days, so I wanna wait till I get older and can be with someone mature, committed, and loyal.
People are single because they haven't found the right one to give all their love to