I'm finally feeling lonely...

[BrownBratzDoll]

I have never really felt lonely...until now, I have no real family, I cutt off the rest of the friends I've had left and all I have is a 3 year old son. So i finally feel lonely. I'm "dropping my standards" if the guy is poor I will smoke and chill, have a half baked relationship and have at least 2 more "serious" relationships outside of that one. Abort any babies if one does pop up. And AT LEAST I can relieve stress and have someone to talk to and chill with. And when I ask for something and need or want something and he says no. I'm breaking up with him. I can at least have some adult entertainment. Lonely is a ROUGH feeling😂😂😂😂😂 if I'm gone only get the opposite of what I want. Might as well get something i can get satisfaction from. This is why they say.....NEVER SAY NEVER. I'm kinda over finding a well established decent men. They are all married or taken, so I'm over it now.

[Liston]

It is too easy for me to identify even though i am male. There are cargo loads of nice , considerate and thoughtful men out there. But, alas i hardly ever meet a woman that satisfies my standards, and i am getting older by the minute. Some of the ones that thrill me quickly put me off due to some racist remark or they lack compassion for others. My approach mostly has a look alwsys to be kind and considerate and if i have to go to bed with them i considerate it an honour and i mostly downplay my expectations as i am hardly the best looking bloke nor the wealthiest around. still i rarely lower my sights as, really, you just never know what's around the corner. I do have some charm and a goodly amount of wit and that often helps. but i agree with you - far too often i am achingly lonely.

[v851234]

I've been there, if you ever want to talk, even if it only cures the lonelyness for 5mins, feel free to message, I'll reply when I can (not on here all the time)

[BrownBratzDoll]

It won't let me message y

[v851234]

Sorry should have added you after saying that, I added you now

[Secretgardenblood]

Good take. ...

[CocoDana]

Dont look for men, the right one will come by. And if you do want to look for men, never ever settle for less. Its not fair to that to yourself or to the guy anyways. You have a son. That is a gift. If you ever feel lonely think about him. He loves you so much and he will love you even more because you are spending time with him, creating a stronger bond because your focus is on him. I understand that you feel lonely but you aren’t. Look for friends instead of men. Focus on yourself by building up yourself and you will attract established men with goals, a career etc. take care❤️

[BrownBratzDoll]

I long for my childless days. I miss them so much

[BrownBratzDoll]

I do not like motherhood I will be happy when its over

[BrownBratzDoll]

I consider this a burden not a blessing. I'm already poor and husbandless.

[Giggletr0n]

The adopt your kid out, stick to and never have any contact with him again and then find a guy and move on. At this point if you don't make a change for your kid then he will grow up broke, do you want a stereotype or a healthy minded little boy?

[BrownBratzDoll]

No adoption is off the table cause I'm attached to my child

[Giggletr0n]

You are attached to your child but you openly admit that you long for your childless days and you consider motherhood a burden? You are parenting through guilt, guilt of not feeling you are good enough for your son because you can't find the perfect guy; a truly ridiculous point as it goes. If your son is that much of a burden to you then you owe it too him to not be raised by somebody that will just see him as baggage, he will never know proper parental affection if you only ever see him this way.

[Giggletr0n]

Also the only way your mothering responsibilities will be over is when your son is either dead or in somebody's else's care and you have literally nothing to do with him - IT WILL NEVER BE OVER UNLESS YOU RELINQUISH YOUR PARENTAL RIGHTS!

[Anonymous]

You're making the same mistake most people do... thinking loneliness is mostly external. It's not, it's mostly internal and no amount of relationships or other people will deal with the root of it.

Who are you? what are you? why are you? these are the questions you should be asking and working on. Anything else will just be a quick fix and you will feel more lonely when it's over.

The reason why people automatically look for another is because it's much easier than looking at themselves. Introspection and really looking within can be very painful, but it's the only way.

I'm not saying there is anything wrong with dealing with loneliness by seeking another, I'm just saying be careful of falling into the trap of thinking that is the root cause.

[Giggletr0n]

You do know that by bringing random guys in and out of your life just for someone to chill with WILL cause your kid to question why and that will help form the basis of their character right? You owe it your kid to not worry about guys and focus 100% on him!

[BrownBratzDoll]

I never said any of them were going to meet my son😂😂😂😂

[Giggletr0n]

Well that's even worse then! By your own argument you have a desperate need to find a guy and you have also said that you consider motherhood a burden so going on that logic alone that means you are MUCH more likely to leave your child in extended care of other people or just straight up abandon him to chase guys around, at least if you bring them around your place then you don't have to leave the boy in someone else's care!

[BrownBratzDoll]

I'm lonely. TRULY LONELY. I'm not that desperate. U clearly lack comprehension skills cause u didn't read properly.😂😂😂😂

[BrownBratzDoll]

Why you sound hostile?

[CoffeeWC]

Thinking that way makes people depressed. I would know since I'm currently a victim of that type of thinking. Not all decent men are taken. You just have to look harder for them.

[BrownBratzDoll]

Yes they are. A single mom. More time has to be invested in motherhood and work. So I'm going to have to get what I can get. I'm a very unlucky person

[CoffeeWC]

I'm unlucky as well.

[Giggletr0n]

@CoffeeWC yeah you had to read this!

[watercolor_lions]

Do you believe in God?

When I couldn't find a good man, I prayed to Jesus, "Give me what I NEED, not what I WANT".

Because I knew I tended to be attracted to bad men. But now I finally have a man who treats me right.

Try it. It works.

[BrownBratzDoll]

I'm not attracted to bad men. Bad men are attracted to me

[watercolor_lions]

But... It's your choice to date them?

[BrownBratzDoll]

I dont date them. But they come to me consistantly. Never fails. I dont date them. If I did do u think I'd be lonely right now? 😂😂😂😂

[BrownBratzDoll]

But I'm bout to start "dating" them. For sex and at least for them to do that 50/50 shit. Just have sex with them. Get in half baked fake relationships, dont claim them unless they in my face, and have other boyfriends, and dont give them any of my money

[watercolor_lions]

:( you should try something else... Maybe EHarmony?

[BrownBratzDoll]

Nah I dont have time for that. Just sex. If the guy closest to me wants to be in a relationship... that's coo. If not that's coo too. I just need someone to feel a little close to

[BrownBratzDoll]

I honestly was content with being single for YEARS. but no more school work, no career... just a boring ass unstable warehouse job, no stable housing or car. No real friends, only one helped me out when I was in need but she was trying to exploit me in my vulnerable state and full of jealousy. So fuck her.

[watercolor_lions]

That sucks :(

[DakotaNorth]

Best wishes honey. I'm lonely too. Men? I'm not limiting my options to just men. Any consenting human adult will do.

[BrownBratzDoll]

Lol...

[luisitoenanunez]

Dating is about numbers, so get out and start meeting more people. Only thing guaranteed we have is death, everything else must be achieved by hard work and putting work into it wether that’s it finding real love, getting a great job or being the best you can :)

[BrownBratzDoll]

Only my opposites or what I dont like are attracted to me

[Anonymous]

Which state do you live in? I might be able to find some help for you. I live in Southern California.

[Opinion Owner]

When we become mothers, giving up is not the option. Because of our child, we have to take care of ourselves. If you were going to be a nurse, then you must be a caring person. Be a nurse to yourself first.
Have you ever heard of the rescue plan on an airplane? They tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first, then help others.
What about your job? Can you give me more details?

[Opinion Owner]

Good for you for not giving into any unworthy people. Great job! Well done!

[BrownBratzDoll]

I live in Indianapolis, in

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. I might not know much about the resources there, but there are some national companies that could help.
How much are you making now? I'm guessing you would pass a drug test?

[Opinion Owner]

There's a high demand for daycare and preschool staff. Your childcare will be free, and you will get full pay for your work. If you promise them that you will pass 6 credits in child development (that's only 2 really easy classes, not much new stuff for a mom) you can get a job in a couple of weeks or even right away.
Most states offer financial help for housing, food, and healthcare based on your income, specially since you have a child.

[BrownBratzDoll]

I have a job

[PrincessGrail]

I’m sorry. You sound unhappy.

[BrownBratzDoll]

Very. Nothing I ever wanted out of life I got. Wanted to go to college be RN. had to drop out due to lack of family support. So I became so high stress and had to drop out couldn't focus. I went back again... had to drop out. I never had a good person in my life. Not one. I didn't want any kids or at least to be having to deal with his deadbeat ass daddy for 18 years, I wanted an abortion, my mom wouldn't help me get one and neither would his daddy, I was broke with no money at the time. These SAME people that wanted me to keep his child. My mom is too crippled to watch him and always complaining about doing it. And his dad doesn't want to keep him for not even a whole day and tries to avoid paying child support. He ruined my life any more. He was gone let me and king live on the streets! Then he is so delusional he really think I'm going to still have sex with him after that. Like that's all he cares about. I very rarely talks with him on the phone. I dont say much... and there he is on the phone begging for sex. All the homeless shelters are full. I can't afford to live. So yea at this point I will take any man, just as long as he pay half and got a job.

[BrownBratzDoll]

Well I have had one good person but she is online. Not physically here

[PrincessGrail]

Again, I’m really sorry for what you’re going through.

[BrownBratzDoll]

Thanks. But I'm starting to feel a bit better now

[PrincessGrail]

I’m glad 😊

[BrownBratzDoll]

Yea it's not in me to be a pick me. And plus I can find activities I like to do. Maybe do fun things with king on the weekday. Once a week

[PrincessGrail]

That sounds awesome 😊

[Anonymous]

i know how you feel. i've kinda given up on finding a significant other. they're either taken, too hard to find, or assume you're an asshole. i have other problems to worry about but being lonely takes a toll.

[DDpsy]

Sorry babe but once you had a kid it's not you that is settling. It's whatever schmuck is dumb and desperate enough to settle for such a shitty deal.

[activeabz100]

babe u sound like the perfect person for me to have a smoke with. i would luv the chance to make u smile again an maybe even laugh.

[Euphoric]

Not to kick you when you’re down but after that response I have to say — if everything around you is shit maybe you’re the issue.

[BrownBratzDoll]

I hate responses like this. I was a dedicated student with a high GPA. My college wanted me in honors college advanced. I've always been law abiding and respectful

[BrownBratzDoll]

I'm not a malicious person. People can come to me when they are down. I've helped and been generous to people and yet I get shifted on.

[BrownBratzDoll]

I've had people mistreat me or dislike me or try to make my life hard. and dont know me from a can of paint!

[BrownBratzDoll]

Even my own mom when I'm going to school or doing something that will make me self sufficient and well off. She never there for me. Not cheering me on, not emotionally supportive nothing. But as soon as I'm a bum or working these bummy ass unstable jobs. She is all of a sudden supportive.

[BrownBratzDoll]

I'm convinced I'm curse. Then in dating it sucks. I've done fooken on every advice and it doesn't work for me. I'm just unlucky.

[BrownBratzDoll]

Even my own bestfriend was jealous of me and trying to use me.

[Anonymous]

You’ve been alone for a few months I’m guessing try being alone from birth
Family hates me
Zero friends
And the entire world is watching waiting for me to fail

[ChocolateCheesecake]

Ummm good luck with that

[SkipStop]

This should've been some kind of question.

[Dchrls78104]

What do you consider "well established"?

[BrownBratzDoll]

Upper middle class man to millionaires and billionaires. With family values and marriage minded. Who is traditional man

[Giggletr0n]

You do realise that life is not a Hallmark movie where that you stumble into a loving relationship with a super rich guy actually happens unless you are willing to whore yourself out right? Also the rich stay rich because they don't spend it 24/7 also they work crazy hard for their money, assuming it was earned and not given.

[Dchrls78104]

@Giggletr0n well said. The asker should take careful note.

[AngryNoctis]

It just seems like u want a nigga to take care of you

[BrownBratzDoll]

@giggletron. U do realize I'm 26 and not 18 right? Yea there are women not running short of supply to dating upper middle class to millionaires and billionaire guys. So hallmark my ass. Eiather I've not lucked up to run into one. Or they dont approach me.

[BrownBratzDoll]

Giggletron are u rich? I doubt it. Rich people spend they money. U have to spend money to make it. Being frugal doesn't make u a millionaire. Investments do. Allowing your money to make money for u.

[BrownBratzDoll]

@angry noctics ITS MY LIFE ITS MY RULES IF I WANT A TRADITIONAL MAN TO PROVIDE AND PROTECT AND THATS WHAT GETS MY PUSSY WET that's my right, my standards.

[BrownBratzDoll]

Just like u have yours.

[AngryNoctis]

My value would be to avoid women like you. How bout you work twords your own fortune instead of seeking someone else's.

[Dchrls78104]

@AngryNoctis well said.

[BrownBratzDoll]

My standards. My life. Stop being bitter

[AngryNoctis]

I'm sorry but maybe you did this to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Oh... it's just a hairhat... nevermind.

[Thotkiana]

Pathetic bitch