Feeling forever alone? Helpful tips for singles!

[Miss_Confused]

For some reason or another some of us just aren't that lucky in love!

It seems some people quickly and easily find a match - some even have too many suitors to choose from and in turn end up in long term meaningful relationships! If this isn't you and you feel a little unlucky in love, this article is for you- keep reading!

For some of us being single is not fun anymore. You might be tired of it and ready to find that special someone but for some apparent reason, can't. This is when you might begin to question...why?

You start to wonder if it's the people you're dating, if you're too picky, if it's you! Your weight or maybe your personality? Whatever it is assuming 100 reasons as to why you are single is not good for you or your dating life!

Here are some tips to help you out in single-dom!

1. First things first - stop panicking!

Getting anxious or desperate is not healthy for you! It will only make you feel like crap!

"Change your wardrobe, scrub up, and take care of yourself!"

2. Boost your confidence!

Take up the gym, get your body into shape. Feeling sexy will reflect inside out - this is attractive! Change your wardrobe, scrub up, and take care of yourself! After all confidence is said to be one of the biggest turn-ons to the opposite sex!

3. Think Positive!

Easier said than done, but honestly, positive thinking will do wonders for you! Focus on your positive qualities! Show off your personality and don't be someone you aren't because eventually the real you will come out! If they like you for you then great and if not then it's no biggie!

4. IMPORTANT!! LET GO OF OLD FLAMES THAT DIDN'T WORK OUT!

Still thinking about that old flame? That person who keeps hurting you but you keep going back to? The one who sends you mixed signals who you can't read or ignores you? LET GO! Accept it's done for good, especially if they clearly don't want to be by your side, you are wasting your time! That person is toxic for you!

5. Don't settle for less than special!

Sometimes you may feel so lonely that you might find you're going out with whoever! Worse, you're not attracted to them! Well let me tell you something, if you settle for less you will find yourself in a bad relationship that makes you unhappy and constantly make you wonder if you should break up! You'll even find yourself picking on that persons unattractive traits all the time!

6. Do dates with your family/friends!

If you like cooking, host a dinner for them. If you like movies, then hit the movies, the beach whatever you like! Make good conversation! Hint- Single friends are great company you can wingman each other too ;)



7. Join a club!

Whether you have lots of friends or not too many joining a club is a great way to have fun and even meet new people. We've already mentioned the gym also take up something you enjoy, whether it's football, dancing, basketball, cooking, knitting etc! If you're already doing it keep it up! Hint: Join a mixed sports team, or mixed club, who knows, you might meet someone there ;)

8. Be social!

Don't be shy! If that cute girl/guy is smiling at you at the store, beach, gym smile back! Say hello, don't think about the possibilities of rejection or looking like a fool! Take the risk, they say great love comes from taking even greater risks!

"Never frown - you never know when someone's falling in love with your smile."

9. Being in a relationship should not complete you!

You are special with or without someone by your side. Being single doesn't mean you are unlovable or freaky! Also don't compare your love life to that person who's been in a happy relationship for years. You are you and therefore things will come to you when it's right for you! If you can be happy on your own when that someone does come along it will be a bonus!

10. The truth...You are NOT alone- cliche maybe but get that through your head!

There are plenty of single people out there and some are planning to stay that way simply because they have more fun!

11. SMILE MORE

Ever heard this quote? "Never frown; you never know when someone's falling in love with your smile"
Well it's true, plus smiling often makes you more appealing and attractive!

If there was really a cupid surely most of us would be sending him a letter or two asking him why he isn't matchmaking us with the person of our dreams or the right one. The reality is there is no mail address for cupid so just be patient and I hope this helps :)

Sincerely,

That Girl :)

[JudgmentDay]

Even if this is good advice there are still never really any guarantees that you would end up in a successful relationship. It could be worse and end up in a terrible relationship where it drains you emotionally, financially, etc.

Got any advice for those that don't really want children or kids of their own or something? All in all I think relationships purpose are really meant for those that want a family of their own eventually or start and raise a family of their own. But what if someone that is single is absolutely certain that's not for them for whatever reason? Then what? Does it even matter anymore look for someone to even date?

[TheChristian]

Hi there, this is a great article. I especially like number 1. You'd be surprised how many women get passed on because they look mean and angry lol. I would also add an additional one, which is to have an older couple or married person to seek advice from. I find that a lot of single people have a hard time taking advice from someone who has been there. When single people tell me they think my ways are old fashioned or that there way is better I always ask...how is your way working out for you?

[Spirit156]

Article is pretty good, specially on taking the risk part. Many people who have been single for a long time just expect things to happen naturally.. Well it does for a part but if you see a potential partner and you pick up the signals and you even don't know what they mean then well another chance of a potential relationship missed out on

[djbreal87]

What if I do all of those things? I keep myself well groomed, I am in a club, I have dated all my friends and family friends. I smile always, I'm honest, and open about myself and my feelings. I enjoy making people smile. I have let go of old flames, and every girl I date, they all end the same way, they tell me they aren't ready, and break up with me. That or cheat on me first, this has been happening for a few years, and I am no starting to worry. I'm almost 25, single, and lonely

[NerdGrl]

Good article. I know the reason why I'm single, Its simple, I'm married to my career and I never get out! Lol!

Besides I don't have any friends in the state I am and I hate going anywhere alone. Its boring. :)

[Bowesy]

As many say, "Easier said than done".

I like all your points you made and were well worded and thought out.

So it's about time I got off my ass then and did something.

[Weirdstuff]

I have some points to adress if you want to improve this article. I can't fit all of it in this comment box -_- I can't sent you a personall message either. If you want to know all of it, contact me.

[annalove2]

The old flame thing really got to me. Good article!

[Alonso14]

IMO 5 is really bad advice. Most people who are hopelessly single are aiming out of their league.

[shyguy89]

you have to enjoy your own company before someone else will. and its that simple-_-

[DJLeftFoot]

I always go into panic mode when women looks and smiles back at me.

[Yeahhbro]

But what if going to the gym and scrubbing up doesn't make me sexy enough?

[moviedude714]

i would rather have loved and lost than never have loved at all

[lovehatesme]

This is good but it also matters what race you are let's be honest the media tends to be so biased!

[Minnie962]

this made me smile its awesome xx

[dave32xxx]

very nice thank you :)

[knowmeyourself]

Five stars from me! I love that quote! :)

[kittyhoney]

I like the Smile more and Be positive! Thanks!

[Iceman2514]

sadly my Austism hampers me from most of these suggestions

[3336PS]

Good article.

[AdiStar]

Fantastic article! :)

[gloomy]

Great article.