What difference does it make? If I want her, I won’t only pay for her meal. I’ll buy her a car, and anything else her heart desires. I make money and work only to provide to my family. And if I’m serious about her and she has my trust, everything I can offer is at her disposal.
I always offer to split and pay for myself but men always flip out and get angry with me and don’t let me. I’ve literally had a guy snatch my wallet and money from me so he could be the one paying.
I feel like it should be talked about beforehand. Like I feel like it’s a sweet gesture but it causes resentment and it’s always held over a persons head. I honestly want to just pay for myself going forward tbh. I don’t want a thing held over my head.
I highly agree when you said the wealthier toner should pay and that it’s up to the couple to decide. I’ve been use to men paying because they’re insistent but I have paid my share sometimes in my first relationship because we were both college students
When my boyfriend and I both go out he usually pays, I do sometimes pay depending on the situation. We never do half and half. When I go out for something I’ll usually bring him something back in which I pay and vise versa. I personally like our setup, but I’m sure they’re are some people who wouldn’t agree.
The last date I went on, I wanted to pay fully, since the guy made a 30 minute drive to see me. He was shocked when I said I like to alternate paying in full.
Hm idc tbh. He pays i pay it doesn't matter really. I dont usually go on dates that require a lot of money or anything. Tbh tho id prefer if he pays because id just feel special , not every single time i mean in special occasions.
50/50, or each pay for their own meal. Especially the first few dates. No matter who asks who. If one person offers to pay for you, fine, but otherwise assume you're paying for your own.
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What difference does it make? If I want her, I won’t only pay for her meal. I’ll buy her a car, and anything else her heart desires.
I make money and work only to provide to my family. And if I’m serious about her and she has my trust, everything I can offer is at her disposal.
I always offer to split and pay for myself but men always flip out and get angry with me and don’t let me.
I’ve literally had a guy snatch my wallet and money from me so he could be the one paying.
I feel like it should be talked about beforehand. Like I feel like it’s a sweet gesture but it causes resentment and it’s always held over a persons head.
I honestly want to just pay for myself going forward tbh. I don’t want a thing held over my head.
Its a mutual thing, whatever feels natural. If I feel inclined to pay then I will, but if she offers to pay as well I'm not going to object.
Same. It's good to have mutual agreement and I don't like the idea of one person paying all the time unless it's for a good reason.
I highly agree when you said the wealthier toner should pay and that it’s up to the couple to decide. I’ve been use to men paying because they’re insistent but I have paid my share sometimes in my first relationship because we were both college students
Each person should pay their own way on at least the first few days
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When my boyfriend and I both go out he usually pays, I do sometimes pay depending on the situation. We never do half and half. When I go out for something I’ll usually bring him something back in which I pay and vise versa. I personally like our setup, but I’m sure they’re are some people who wouldn’t agree.
It's simple. Men pay on the 1st date and from there on out both people communicate and pay based on what they want to do.
I think both peopple. Say the date is dinner and a movie - then one pays for dinner, the other pays for the movie. fair is fair
I think people should pay for themselves on dates, I don't get why someone should be pressured or expected to pay for someone else's meal.
It's fine, you're just paying for your date!
Totally should alternate. I pay in full one date, then he pays in full the next. I feel weird splitting!
The last date I went on, I wanted to pay fully, since the guy made a 30 minute drive to see me. He was shocked when I said I like to alternate paying in full.
Hm idc tbh. He pays i pay it doesn't matter really. I dont usually go on dates that require a lot of money or anything.
Tbh tho id prefer if he pays because id just feel special , not every single time i mean in special occasions.
stealing is always an option, no one can complain about paying then
Lol yeah
Whoever invites, otherwise each person pays for themselves
My policy is, whoever invites. But the guy should always offer to pay, if she says no, it's ok
Agree.
50/50, or each pay for their own meal. Especially the first few dates. No matter who asks who. If one person offers to pay for you, fine, but otherwise assume you're paying for your own.
Splitting the bill, or taking it in turns if it's a regular thing is what I've always gone for.
It's the simplest way to do it.
I'd rather pay more, a bit more, but it should be mostly equal. Depending on various factors. It's not like women earn fuck all these days.
We should pay 50 50 for all dates, especially the first.
Let's face it, resturants are expensive af so it only seems fair for both of us.
I already mentioned how it may not be fair. What about that?
Personally I'm I'm asked out by anyone. Friend, family, possible date, etc. Then I'll pay half the tab but if I ask them then I cover the whole thing
Lol they literally dominate me all the time and end up paying whole 😂 I hate it. I literally have to announce early it's my treat if I wanna pay.
I like the nuance you presented in this Take. Most people get emotional and take an "all or nothing" approach to something like this.