Dating apps get a bad reputation for only being for people who want sleazy hookups and not a serious relationship but I've heard of many success stories including my own and im gonna share the do's and don'ts of being successful on dating apps.
Creating a profile! It's ture looks do matter.
Most importantly your profile is gonna need some photos of yourself, id suggested 3 to 4 maximum you don't want to come off vain. Use genuine, natural pictures of yourself out being social and having fun most importantly with a genuine smile on your face. If you don't have photos like this get someone close to you to help you out and take them when you are not noticing but also laughing and having fun, being care free and looking your best.
Don't use forced overly posed selfies of yourself or photos that look like you had a photo shoot it comes of cringy, vain and if your unfortunate in the looks department also very creepy . You're looking for a meaningful relationship not a modeling contract. Also don't show pictures of yourself in groups it gets confusing which guy or girl you are and if so only one and crop the others out for their privacy.
I'm not gonna be Miss photogenic 2020 but ill share some of my pictures i used on my old tinder as example 😅.
See how im not wearing my best clothes and have a natural smile and makeup, also my arms are never crossed it gives off a friendly vibe. A good way to make it look natural is by holding something like a drink, football etc anything that shows you are out going and social to a certain standard.
Also no cat fishing this person has to like you for you. You will get no were being dishonest about how you look in the real world. show one or two pictures that show some of your body.
Without sounding shallow if you purposely hide your body and you are not what that person expected on the date physically it can lead to some awkwardness when meeting. Trust me people are not as shallow as you think some people like guys and girls with a bit more meat on them just as long as your honest about it and if that person doesn't then it's not meant to be unfortunately.
Writing your profile
This one is difficult for me as my friend wrote mine for me as he signed me up without me knowing and created my profile. One thing i will say is what attracted me to my now boyfriend is that he didn't write to much about himself, he just but a little information about himself which left me to ask questions more in depth about the information he did share and lead to learning new things about each other and have open topics. Don't write something cringy or cliche. Just write something interesting about yourself and what you're wanting from the dating app but don't try and be to serious have fun and humor in what you're saying.
My boyfriends was so basic he literally wrote something along the lines of "volunteer for charity, self employed gardener, have a couple tattoos" just be basic in what your saying no ones gonna stop and read your whole monologue whilst swiping left and right.
Be honest with your intentions and don't be desperate.
This mainly goes out to the guys on here but i know some girls can be just as equally the same with this. But if you're going in first thing into the conversation flirting and being sexual before even meeting it won't work out as in person thst person will have to face the music when on a date with the person and they will probably just assume your in for hookups.
So probably best to just start with a normal conversation starter, you might get ignored a couple of times but eventually someone will reply just saying the usual "hi how are you?" and progress from that then casually ask why they joined the site and what they are looking for midway. That will filter out the serious people from the ones who want to just have sex pretty easily. If that person is not interested in a relationship don't stick around that it as they first said it and leave whilst you can.
If a girl or guy is looking for excuses not to meet up they are probably cat fishing you or just don't want to hurt you feelings and if they straight up say no take it as it is and move on don't constantly beg its not attractive at all and if they said no there's no point in trying to change their mind.
How to keep the conversation going
. Check in on them daily just by saying "hi hows your day going?" shows you care and are generally interested
. Be humble when talking about yourself don't brag to much
. Be wholesome, talk about the simple, relatable stuff like family, friends, pets, work, hobbies etc. Especially guys don't be afraid to show your softer side by talking about your mum or sister and using them for examples of relating to her shows you have a good relationship with the woman in your life for example you ask her what kinda TV she's watches. If she says something like gossip girl just be like "oh yeah think i may have watched that with my sister once or twice "
. Ask them lots of questions about themselves, people love talking about themselves and it also gives you more information into what kind of stuff they bu be into which can help when you finally meet for a date.
. Don't rush things, only ask to go on a date when you feel like you've gotten to know them well enough.
. Ask for their WhatsApp not Snapchat. Snapchat gives off the wrong impression sometimes as if you just want nudes. WhatsApp kinda tells them you like them enough to give them your number and its abit more exclusive then tinder etc. Shows your more commited and serious.
Girls wait for him to ask for the date
As sexist as this may sound wait on the guy to ask. If your into other girls just go ahead and ask. Straight girls sorry but if he doesn't ask you first he's not that into you. Im not saying you can't hint at a date but if you're hinting don't be subtle with it men don't take hints very well. When he talks about his hobbies just say "maybe we could do that together one day" for example or just full out say "so when you gonna ask me on a date?" but don't ask yourself, i don't know why myself but talking from experience most guys don't respond well to it or seem confused when you do.
Planning the first date
Most guys have no idea how to plan a date no offense so be straight forward lady's and help him out. Most guys will just want to make you happy and do what you want to do the activity on the date isn't what really matters to guys they are just more focused on you rather than the date it's self. So if he asks what you want do just tell him and don't be shy about it as long as it isn't something crazy or expensive.
Also avoid restaurants on the first date, it's a really bad idea because if the date starts off awkward you've gotta sit there and wait till you are about finished eating to leave. I'd suggest a bar its in an open environment you can relax and just talk and if things aren't going well you can easily leave.
Tell a friend or loved one were you are going and keep them informed on your where abouts and who you are with to be safe. Also meet somewhere both local to you so you know were to go if you feel unsafe or have someone here who you may know who will get you out the awkward situation and have your phone with you at all times and never leave your drink behind when you go toilet .
First date rules.
. No sex on the first date
. Pay equality unless the guy insists on paying just take it as a compliment
. Don't be on your phone
. Don't just talk about yourself
. Be polite
. Dress smart casual and be well groomed
. Listen to what your date is saying
. Tell them if you're nervous
. Men try your best to be a gentleman but don't go to fair with it and don't expect anything in return besides a thank you.
. Don't be late and if so text them a hour before that you will be late
. Don't bring up exes or anything serious that could darken the mood
. Don't talk about politics or religion
. Two drink maximum. Don't want to be drunk
. If the date was a success text them later on or the next day saying thank you for a wonderful date and ask to meet again.
. No sex before monogamy
Good luck 🤞