I don't usually post question-type Takes like this but I needed to get into some detail in order to help everybody get the picture and offer their suggestions. So here it is.
There is a girl at my job - and she is indeed a girl, I think she's in her early 20s - who seems to be into me and whenever I come on the clock, which is a little bit before she leaves, she seems to get excited when she sees me, but not in a way that shows it traditionally. We will chat a little bit, and she often asks me if I can do something for her to have it ready for her the next day, and if I'm doing something kind of big she will literally go out of her way to help me or insist on helping me. One time after she punched out she even literally sought me out just to tell me something one more time and good-bye.
She's a pretty girl and sweet, and I think she is attracted to black men. And I think she is actually a young girl who likes decent, intelligent men because she likes to chat with me and my supervisor, who is also intelligent and mature. And yesterday she waved me over to be around her because I think she wanted me to keep her company so another one of our co-workers wouldn't bother her, because I think she doesn't like talking to him now. This guy is one of those dogs who is so utterly obvious about trying to hit everything that moves, and he may have scared her away, I'm not sure. He is the type that actually can be like a stalker and really has made some women at our job uncomfortable.
So basically, I'm not sure what to do with her or how to interact with her. I stay friendly and try to be down-to-earth, but with her I feel like I'm being boring, to myself. And as if I'm playing a part. I generally like older women and they are way easier to be chill with. I mean, she is a nice girl but she's also young, and I'm not really that comfortable with the vast majority of younger women. I feel like I have to figure out how I should click or interact with her, and whenever that happens when I meet younger women, that's usually not a good sign, and I will end up losing interest and move away from them, because I feel like they're waiting for me to do or be something interesting to them, and I'm never cool with how a lot of them are like that.
And I'm not trying to be rude or racist here, but whenever a white girl likes black men and sees one that she likes, they tend to be super obvious about it. So I can tell that she's attached to me, and although she talks to me she is still a little nervous and I think she's trying to watch herself so that it doesn't seem so obvious. One of the guys was telling me to hurry up and get her number but I am a little scared to do that with her.
And although she is a nice, friendly girl, I also get this strange vibe that she is one of those girls who acts decent or innocent in front of guys she likes, but that she actually is a gritty type with others and has fucked several guys on a private side lol. And that's the thing right there that puts everything into question for me. I've already been through a relationship like that, and I tend to have a particular distaste for women with their own Madonna-whore complexes who want to pretend wholesomeness for the guy they're attracted to romantically but aren't into them sexually, while on another side they feel that way about other men. I don't know for sure if she is that type of girl, but I have a strong suspicion that she is.
So ultimately I am just not sure how I should go about interacting with this girl as far as trying to actually hit something off with her. Does anyone have any advice? Is it something I should even begin trying to pursue? Or should I just leave it at being 'nice' and friendly with her? And what happens if I hurt her feelings or make her feel like I'm avoiding her or something?
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