Would rather be loved DESPITE my shortness than be loved JUST BECAUSE OF my tallness

[Anonymous]

I have seen a lot of questions from Swedish girls that like "I am 3cm shorter than average, no guys are interested in me, should i think about leg lengthening surgery and risk to lose my leg + spend tons of money to be more attractive for men. This is bullshit. Same situation for short men in US.

We are people, and it is our need to be loved/liked. I don't deny the importance of appearance in dating market. However, I just ask you this question.
"Why are you so devoted for people who expect you to fit their ideals?"

Be selfish. You are who you are, they take it or leave it. If you love yourself enough, nobody can change your opinion on yourself.

Let People come for your chemistry, not just appearance

If you accept you are an "object" everyone will agree. You are a human, a whole package. You have expectations, personality, chemistry, not just a "flesh". If people just see you as a how many centimeters above the ground, they are too shallow to can't see the rest. Then it is not "you" to matter for them.

Nevermind, they think you are unattractive because you are short. So?

Seeing the beauty inside you requires intelligence, never forget that. Dont torture yourself for people who doesn't worth for it. Dont change, be stubborn.

Gold is valued because there are not many. Same as people who are not superficial. Who want "less" when you can have more? You have a personality, a nice smile, talents... much more that the body you are in. Dont let people to act like your body is the only asset you have.

You live for yourself, not somebody else

Selfish and narcisstic people are the happiest general. Because they have a thicker skin. You are the head role of your theatre, and your life is the scene. You determine who have role in your play, or who is just extra. This leg lenghtenin surgeries are ridiculus, making a flip about losign legs or being more attractive to opposite gender. Again, who are you living for?

Dont hate yourself because anybody else does. If anything, they can kiss your ass. You are the only one needed to love yourself, not anybody else needed.

Sincerely

[theCobbler]

Wow! Short tall , thin heavy, dorky Smart, dont let Society do that to You..! Be proud of your shortness, wear it like battle scared Armor, ...

My brother and I got in a ( piss slinging ) contest yelling pushing shoving match; about his weight compared to my thin. .. and he said something I'll never forget ..
" Well , Davey,,, someone has to be heavy to keep you thin!!! " ..
Point being, there's someone out there that thinks they're too tall!!!

[MalcolmNZ]

Those that mind don't matter, those that matter don't mind. I see tall guys with short women often, guess in some cases they wanted something different from their mum.
Take solace that shorter women live longer. My sister has a complex about being
short, it has gotten better with age, but it never occurs to my mind, all I see is a vibrant, kind person who I'm proud to have as a sister.

[Angelcupcakes_me]

Marjority of guys prefer short girls- 5'5/5'4 is the ideal height for a lot of men. (Saying this being 6'2.) So I never really get why ladies complain when they get gifted shorter legs 🙃

[myTake Owner]

@Angelcupcakes_me men prefer tall girls in Sweden
Its just US thing

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Good take.

[Guy13]

No guys are interested in average... get real people.

[Eagle_93]

Very good MyTake.

I agree with you 100%.

If someone cannot love us for the person we are, and the person we are in the areas we cannot change, then we honestly have no business being with that person.(I'm not talking about attitude and things we can change and work on, but rather the things we cannot change such as height, eye color etc...

Be you. You will be a lot happier.

[simplelikeme]

I don't care if the person is taller than me or shorter than me. But I would rather be loved by somebody who is true to themselves and honest to themselves and everybody around them. Brains always Trump Beauty as far as I'm concerned. And that's not saying that I'm going to jump out and go have a relationship with some ugly girl either LOL there has to be some sort of an attraction but brains is what mainly attracts me LOL

[Hermes-Paris]

I have actually never heard of leg lengthening surgery. Sounds super painful. My partner is 29 cm shorter than me. For me she's perfect. Never knew that about Swedish doods. Sounds really superficial.

[FlirtWithMeeee]

Maybe I'm a short guy with bias here but that was freaking beautiful! I couldn't have said it all any better.

[zagor]

Unless you're Herve Villechaize (and you're not, cuz he's dead), if you can't find someone it's not because of your height.

[MackToday]

Take the red pill, join the alt right, you're a pussy magnet just like that for some reason. I never had so many women interested in me.

[one1wild00]

One should be loved or despised for who they ar, not for what people envision the person should be.. Let people love you for you, don't change for them.

[willisg]

I don't know where you get your information about us American short guys but I am 5'5 and my tallest girlfriend was 6'2. Sh loved for my heart not my height.

[Liam_Hayden]

Be your best "you" and while you might not get the people you most desire, you will get the people who love you for you.

[Smirnoff23]

Always be true to yourself not everyone like taller girls

[MeatPuppet]

You Swedes are tall as shit. I'm a dude and I'm only 160 cm tall. You probably still tower over me.

[Sensmind]

Very well said, my thoughts exactly

[sensible27]

W t f

[myTake Owner]

Why?

[sensible27]

Why is this my take framed like a question? Not much wrong really except why do you need to ask such an irrational question. Do you really think/believe there are a whole lot of people who would just like to be loved because of a physical attribute? Well framed/written by the way

[MrTaboo]

Short is atractive