Gentlemen! Women are sick and tired of fishing/hunting pictures and your generic dating app profiles!

[Apope16]

Guys, I am begging you to stand out and be original. Stop being so generic about your hobbies that women are swiping left on you. I am actively talking and planning dates with 12 different women right now. You could be too. But stand out! Be unique!

Women are tired of: I like to fish. play video games. I love the ____insert sports team___. I've been to "x" foreign country.

Guys. Unless you are a model. Women will yawn and swipe.

A woman wants to know what is your passion!? But also what makes you different than every generic guy out there?

I recommend having in your profile: "My dream celebrity date would be____" Women will really respond to this because they can compare themselves to that person and think about whether they are "your type". I have gotten Soooo many girls to message me with that strategy.

"Two Truths and One Lie". This is another good way to show some depth to you as a man. Dig deeper and hook a lady in.

"Pet pictures". Women like animal pictures because it gives you a friendly perception. If you can love an animal then you can love a kid.

[tellmeeverythingplz]

Agree! I have told many guys about this. It doesn't look great to hold dead animals up to the camera or act like you're eating it raw. Most women don't want to see that. It's fairly gross. Showing your real personality is best. If your whole life is killing critters and playing games that's not going to attract many women.

Books, movies, goals, favorite classes, art, sciences, carnival rides, anything else to show the real you. People or characters you've crushed on. Meyers Briggs personality test results. Love language. Anything guys! Give us some insight.

[Sixgun77]

Hunting, fishing, and video games are part of "anything" and can indeed portray "the real you". Attracting the right woman is far more important than faking it to attract many women.

[tellmeeverythingplz]

@Sixgun77 if that is your entire being that's not much to bring to the table. I'm a life long gamer, table top RPGs, board games, video games, I still have my Sega Genesis. But that isn't my whole life. Almost everyone likes games these days. If you like sports and hunting you don't have to lie but you should have a lot more going for you.

[ObscuredBeyond]

I'm a game modder, mod tester, and machinimator, and novelist. By no means the most successful in any of these. A jack of many trades. Yet, all I get on POF is abuse from women, and the site then hitting me up for more money. Why do women hate digital craftsmen?

[Sixgun77]

I'm not saying thats ALL one has, I'm just against saying that you shouldn't post pictures of hunting and fishing if you're into that. As much as I love reading, I don't think that translates well to photos. I think a picture of me sitting here reading Locke would look very pretentious lol.

[tellmeeverythingplz]

@ObscuredBeyond I don't hate any kind of guy. I am a nerd through and through so I love games and gamers. But I do want more that just games. Variety is the spice of life as they say. Why you are experiencing that I can't say but I can tell you that there are tons of women open to your career choice. If you're a dabbler in lots of area that should be a lot to talk about and have fun in.

[Laura_Marx]

I would tend to agree with Sixgun on this one. If fishing is your passion, its better to select for women who are also passionate about fishing. That's been the most consistent piece of advice I've always tried to bring to this website: if you try to reconfigure yourself to appeal to the dating market, you'll only ever end up in relationships you find unsatisfying - better to stay as you are and find someone who shares your values. I feel like if there is a complaint here from women its more that they don't find many men who share their priorities, not that these men ought to have different priorities. I don't really like hunting for moral reasons but I don't think its wrong to become absorbed in it as a craft in principle; I think you may be able to reach enlightenment through fishing alone... perhaps more easily than through Locke!

[tellmeeverythingplz]

@Laura_Marx if that is really all you are then you have to put that out there but you'll look like every other profile and that all you do is kill stuff. Like I said, don't lie about who you are but don't be surprised that you blend in with all the others or gross ladies out. Hopefully though... there's more to you, not just I shoot and kill and kill by shooting for all the long days and nights. That's not appealing. Think of it like this... if a tv show was based on your life would the main character be layered and involved or flat and one dimensional? If you're flat you're flat don't lie but a full life is much better, more attractive.

[tellmeeverythingplz]

Some people like Elmer fudd but bugs bunny is the main character for a reason.

[Laura_Marx]

yeah, thats fair ^^

[Sixgun77]

@tellmeeverytgingplz: I don't understand how you're making a jump from somebody being into an activity to them being one dimensional/ their whole life/ all they are.

[Elsa_Schneider]

Nah Telly, the reality is most men never had a chance. The moment the tall doctor guy with a nice car made a profile most women lusted after him. The average guys should NEVER use online dating as it's strictly designed for top hot guys and women in general.

Most average guys should stay single and masturbate. Not even joking. Find happiness and just masturbate to porn is better then walking around as a bitter man.

[AJC997]

@tellmeeverythingplez

Who puts people or characters they’ve crushed on in a dating profile? What? but then again your username

[GISELLEBOSSY]

@AJC997 don’t be a hater. She’s just trying to help pathetic people like yourself with their love lives. Show some respect, kid.

[AJC997]

@GISELLEBOSSY

Yes, I apologize

[Tiger288]

I love to play video games and I'm proud of it

[DaMack999]

Men are cave animals they can't help themselves lol

[Phoenix98]

as opposed to women’s profiles?

Let us not forget women’s profiles lord have mercy, lying about their age, weight, personality posting pics that make you wonder whether your looking at a dating profile or escort profile. Posting pics of them acting like children, beyond drunk with their friends, filters out the ass in every picture.

Nothing real, nothing genuine at all.

[Levin]

Women's profiles are pretty much irrelevant since let's face it, Many men will swipe right on pretty much everything they see!

[Phoenix98]

@Levin I’ll meet you half way and say you have a point but it’s not entirely true.

[themythos]

Dont forget the one bio pic thats a giant group photo and a" i have high standards as the bio"

[Phoenix98]

@themythos Yeah.

[DaMack999]

Well it's why make up and wig Industry is so filthy rich. They cater to womens low self esteem. It's been happening for decades ever since Feminism began.

[siegetiming]

just goes to show that guys have to do so much more to get attention

[OlderAndWiser]

I do online dating but, of course, I read women's profiles, so I don't see how other guys present themselves. However, I have the impression that the competition is not playing smart and that explains why so many guys are down on online dating. They blame women, they blame the sites, they blame anyone but themselves.

I don't have any hunting or fishing pictures posted, I have a sincere profile that says who I am and what I am looking for in a woman, and I get enough dates to keep me busy.

[Apope16]

You are well on your way to Jedi Master Level

[ObscuredBeyond]

I've concluded I'm too niche. And dating site gals are basic. It was doomed from the start. For some reason, dodgy professor types just scare women away. But I am what I am.

[OlderAndWiser]

The women I have met online are anything but basic. That sounds like an be insult. Perhaps that is a clue about the problem you have with dating online.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Yeah. That POF is worthless.

[ItzLaura]

I don't mind if it's fish but if I see one more guy with a dead pig or goat in his profile imma puke

[Apope16]

Yuck. Guys do that?

[Sixgun77]

Now I want jerked pork and curried goat.

[ItzLaura]

Yep, sadly they do

[cast277]

Cause guys hunt. Trust me if that image offends you he isn't interested and swiping left saved you both time.

[Guy13]

LMAO !!! Wedding videos include all these Social Media things in today's world. It is an easy Background search... These ought to be killer. Funny Take !!

[ObscuredBeyond]

If I mention what I do to set myself apart, the dating app calls my account spam, and removes me without a chance to appeal. And when I imply it without stating the name, trolls come after me over politics, wasting my time and theirs. I state my passion, and thots come on my profile just to act like playground bullies, as if I'm supposed to be impressed. And whine when I fight back.

I say I'm a game modder and machinimator, and aspiring novelist. They go running back to the guy with the fishing pic. And then whine that he's a dick. And I'm like: "And I'm supposed to still feel sympathy for you?"
They resent hunters and fishers as basic bros, but then sleep with them anyway, because anyone with geekier passions is too hard to wrap their minds around. And they're far too narrow minded to give that geekier dude a chance.

While we're on the topic, there are a lot of basic bitch profiles out there too, which turn me off just as fast. If you clearly couldn't care less about me, but think your pooch can do no wrong, and have to feature a dog in every picture, and demand I have one, I'm not interested.

Stand for a cause. If I agree with it, we may be able to work together on each other's, and get somewhere. And really stand on it. Don't just virtue signal it. I want to see dedication. A focus that is blind to self. I don't want a material girl. Be the next Elizabeth Johnston, not the next Taylor Swift. The latter's just another Hollywood thot. The former, in the thick of the culture war. And the wolves descend on her Instagram like they haven't eaten in a month. I've made swatting them away a hobby. Guess which one represents a woman I respect.

In short, dating apps are cesspools for shallowness. And the apps themselves encourage this. Makes profiles safer for ad sponsors, as Nazi Karens get hair triggered to hysteria if anyone with a profile should dare have an actual personality. Which equals corporate liability. Dare to be awesome, you get sued. That's why we can't have nice things.

[WhiteSteve]

I’m not sure why women are so upset about this. They wouldn’t want to see a pic of me like I wouldn’t want to see a pic of her with a dog, or holding a drink while wearing a cocktail dress, or standing in front of her “21”-shaped birthday balloons, or standing in a row of her carefully selected not-as-attractive-as-me friends at the beach or pool, or her in her workout clothes, or holding her pumpkin spice Starbucks cup, or any number of the “generic” pics women post. I mean, look, I’m the last guy on here to be disparaging women, I’m not one of that crowd that comes online to vent out their problems attracting women, lmao, but this one... come on, ladies, you’re throwing BIG stones in a glass house with this one. Common sense would tell me not to broadcast that I shot an animal dead to a bunch of women, most chicks don’t want to see that shit. Fishing... I mean, I catch and release, the fish isn’t even harmed, first of all, so nobody knows the fate of the pictured fish most of the time, haha. But the real thing is, guys, we don’t take pics of ourselves the way a lot of women do. I don’t take selfies, lmfao, you kidding me? I mean, I have, but it’s by request and/or something uncommon is happening. And that’s why I’m having my picture taken with the fish. The fishing trip is a special occasion with my buddies that happens like once a year, the picture is more to document the fish, we’re just kind of “there”, and that’s why I even would have that sort of pic in the first place. So if I’m making a dating profile for myself, I’d have precious few pics of myself anyway, because when I go to the beach or the bar or whatever special event, the last thing on my mind is “let’s get a picture of me doing this!” So just about the only pics I’d have of myself are from “that time I caught the 5 pound smallmouth”, we just don’t document our lives the way women do. We have all kinds of passions like anyone else, but we’re not capturing images of it for posterity, lmao. But if we post a pic in workout clothes or at the gym, now you’re a try-hard or conceited... I mean, give a guy a break. It’s not my issue, I’ve been off the market since before Tinder, etc, but I feel bad for guys when I hear stuff like this.

Not knocking your Take, I agree with it in practical usage, but I think the principle held by women is a little much here, and I wanted to address it, haha.

[WhiteSteve]

*they wouldn’t want to see a pic of me fishing

[tellmeeverythingplz]

Agreed. Women can be plastic and boring too. It's not just guys. This post happens to be focused on men but you are absolutely correct.

[tellmeeverythingplz]

Even if a fishing pic is special to you be aware that nearly every other man has the same pic though so you will blend instead of shine. I recommend saving that for later and focusing on what is in your daily life and tells about your long-term goals.

[WhiteSteve]

@tellmeeverythingplz For sure, gotta adapt to the game you’re playing. I think there’s just a disconnect because I think by-and-large, guys on dating apps are going on “is she cute/would I have a shot?” more than trying to learn what she’s about. Meanwhile, a woman is probably looking for some substance that just isn’t there, or at least isn’t what she’s looking for. I have no expectation of a woman I’m dating to share my hobbies and interests, necessarily. Going fishing is a “boys’ trip”, she’s probably not invited anyway, haha. Just like I’m not looking to go apple picking or whatever over-glamorized seasonal activity that she wants to do... largely for the photo opportunities😂 Go with your girlfriends to do that sort of thing, or I’ll go, and I won’t be a sourpuss, but I’m gonna be just going through the motions, just know that. Real life isn’t a Hugh Grant movie, and I’m sorry ‘bout it, lmao. I just need to be able to hang out on a couch with a gal, that’s the compatibility test for me, do we generally get along? We can enjoy our respective hobbies on our own, I’d be looking for a long time to find a woman whose interests completely or even mostly matched mine, haha. (Continued...)

[WhiteSteve]

@tellmeeverythingplz... Not saying I’ll never accompany her anywhere, but just be happy I’m there, asking me to be particularly enthused about it is a little much. My true interest is playing sports, and she can’t come out on the ice with me when I play hockey, she couldn’t have strapped up and played semipro football with me. I don’t even need her to come watch, I wouldn’t expect her to be genuinely interested in that, I’d never even make that demand. Just be generally supportive of me and don’t stand in the way of me doing the things I want to do, that’s all I’m looking for. We don’t need to be joined at the hip. We’re partners in life, we’re the candy on each others’ arm for functions, we can chill and just enjoy each other’s company the rest of the time together. And of course bonin’, lmao. If we have shared hobbies, that’s great, and we can enjoy them together if we do. But men and women are just different, generally speaking, we shouldn’t saddle each other with expectations of feigning interest in things the other is passionate about, haha.

[lumos]

I don't really mind a generic profile per se, because I have swiped generic profiles right if their bio is fun and if they look attractive in their pics. However, if someone is already struggling with finding dates, doing at least SOMETHING to stand out will definitely help.

3 interesting photos will always be better than 10 generic photos. Quality over quantity. It's kinda like your CV. You might not want to mention all the short odd jobs you did as a teen, if you already have a couple of decent and more mature experiences that have a lot more to do with the job you're applying for now. In that same way, you don't want to have 1 somewhat interesting picture and 5 boring bathroom mirror selfies (with a dirty toilet in the background...)

You don't even have to over-exaggerate or lie about your hobbies. You can still take an interesting picture at the gym that doesn't involve flexing in a mirror. Do a silly pose with some weights, do a handstand, whatever. But yeah, no dead animals please. The only posing you should do with animals is with live ones. 99% of women will find it kinda gross to randomly have a picture of a dead animal shoved in their face when they're just looking for someone to go on a date with.

All it takes is being a bit more creative. It really isn't as difficult as most people think. Asking a friend for help could also be a good idea if it really is that impossible.

[Levin]

Aye, I take a similar outlook with women who eat meals with dead (albeit slightly more processed for consumption) animals on their plate! Leftie swipe.

[lumos]

@Levin I guess I'm a hypocrite then since I still eat meat :D

[Levin]

Aye, maybe I'm playing the devil's advocate a little. But I suppose it's a valid point!

Same people who harp on about how much they love their dog, they distrust those who don't like pets.

I think to myself, well, you eat animals. Bitch. :P Not you specifically, just annoying loud mouthed hypocritical people I do not like!

[lumos]

@Levin haha yeah. Some people might be scared of dogs or just don't have any interest in animals and that's ok. I guess some people take it to the extreme, but I do think how you treat animals can reflect how you might treat others, so I kinda understand where that distrust comes from if someone doesn't like animals. But I can fully admit that I'm a total hypocrite and I do put animals in a hierarchy. Like I don't think too hard about where the meat I eat actually comes from. That's kinda just how I grew up, which I think is the norm.

But, regardless of my hypocritical meat eating habits etc, I still hold the opinion that showcasing dead animals on your tinder profile is probably a dumb move. :D I think it falls into the category of "things that are unnecessary to show on tinder". Like, just how it's dumb to put a picture of you posing with a car on your profile, you know?

[Levin]

Yeah, I get what you mean. Even when women do that, with their BMW, it's almost impossible for me not to swipe left. Not that they give a shit, like :)

Not too far away from the handstand pushup. Hopefully once I put that up on my Tinder, things might start to change with women ;)

[cyclopspanda]

a lot of women on dating apps care about 6 ft guys with 6 pack abs that makes 6 figures and has a 66 inch shlong. Hobbies dont matter unless its one that shows you make a shit load of money. Dating apps are hook up apps there are no ladies to be found on there just easy women. If it works for you great, more power to you but its not rocket science to get a chick on an app designed for hook ups. And again they are not ladies they forfeited that title when they started hooking up with dudes they met on an app.

[JackSmy]

How is that different from the myriad women's posts, "Do I look good" in this crap dress, or shoes, or the thousand other crap things?
Am I supposed to be impressed that she posts a pic of her, looking slutty, like she is a 'catch,' like you are saying that the guy holding the fish, has a 'catch'?
I have met so few women that have any passion but just looking 'hot' and then what?
Yes, a TREASURED FEW that know how to cook and want to share different foods and styles together! LOVE THAT!! BUT SO RARE!!
One that loved gardening, another that loved some crafty things!
Women bitch about hunting/fishing but offer FUCK ALL for anything else but shopping and fashion, and shallow shit, for most but the rarest joys of your gender!!
The irony is that I HATE hunting and fishing!!!

[devilman666]

Whatever. Fuck those worthless broads, I'll continue enjoying my hobbies, and eventually I'll find a woman who will also enjoy the things I enjoy. Sorry, I'm not going to change my whole life to make it seem a little more exciting, imagine me telling women on tinder to stop enjoying their hobbies and focus on cooking and cleaning instead, because it will be more attractive to men. I'd be labelled a sexist, but since you're only talking shit about men, society thinks it's fine. Also, while lying about who you are might work for a while, I think it will not get you many long term relationships.

[Daniela1982]

Why is that so different then women displaying their selves on Instagram? There are women who like the outdoors and activities like fishing and hunting/target shooting. At least the guys who show these pics get out there and do things instead of going to clubs and strip joints. I think I for one would reply to one of those dating profiles and not those clowns showing their cars or pics with girls or an old girlfriend. I mean if you are trying to attract girls why show pics like that? By the way, is that picture a Northern Pike? Those suckers put up a fight!

[cicchis0]

It's garbage but there is a reason for it. Most men aren't narcissistic enough to photograph themselves or ask others to photograph them (my Instagram account is filled with photographs that I have taken of things I find interesting, not photographs of me), so the only time they are photographed is by a friend, usually when he wants evidence of something they've done, such as a hunting/fishing trophy or a holiday adventure. Men hate clicking through group photos trying to figure out who the profile belongs to and don't want to subject women to the same thing, ruling out many of the holiday adventure and party photos. This leaves most men with little more to choose from other than photographs of graduations, drivers licenses, passports and fishing/hunting trophies, so you end up seeing a lot of dead fish, and maybe some bathroom mirror selfies to make up the numbers. I can advise that women's profiles are equally as predictable and boring.

[Fulbau]

-"A woman wants to know what is your passion? But also what makes you different than every generic guy out there?"
all guys can't all be different from each other. Clearly if a guy is posting these hunting/fishing pics then they must have a passion for hunting/fishing.

-"I recommend having in your profile: "My dream celebrity date would be____""
I strongly recommend against this, because that's setting some high standards in some women's minds as a comparison of themselves VS a celebrity's looks, which only scares away more women.

-"pet pictures"
I think this one is good. Having a pet, especially one that looks well taken care of and having a good time can show being responsible and potentially having a sensitive side.


as for Tinder, well you gotta realize that the people that post there are the ones not having luck with women to begin with and are likely looking for ones that accept them for who they are and what they njoy, for better or worse.

[Sharknado88]

Na I never had hunting/fishing photos in my profile, swapped out many photos, some showing what I'm passionate about and some just good photos of me. I've rewritten my bio countless times, trying the two truths and a lie and being honest of what I'm looking for. Through all of that I still don't get any attention. All I get are the girls that talk for a bit than ghost/unmatch me a couple messages in. I believe women receive many more likes than guys do and I unfortunately dont appear to stand out.

[TonyBologna25]

If I love to hunt, and it’s something that encompasses a large part of my free time, then I’m going to post pictures that accurate portray my life, and who I am. Girls might not appreciate hunting and rifles where you live, but have you been to the south? A lot of hotties in daisy dukes love a man like this. My advice is to stop strategically trying to gain attraction. Let that come naturally and be yourself in the process.

Also, you have that realize that most people are average. Most people like video games because they’re fun. Most men need to stop trying to change who they are or their approach towards women because they want to impress them. The irony is that women are most attracted to you when you are your unapologetically your authentic self. When you stop trying so hard.

[crazy8000]

Actually it can work.
Depends on what kind of crowd you targeting and if that crowd are on that services in your area.

You should only know what kind of shit that really works and what you think will work that rarely works.

Learn this.
A lot of female's say one thing and do something totally different 😉

An other thing.
Even if you might mean well.
It lies something in what some guy's say to you in the opinion field.
Supeman/white night complex isn't directly attractive traits when it comes to it no matter gender.

[jalas4612]

Dude. I am too. Lol at the same time, it's a representation of what the gentlemen enjoys... just saying.

[Apope16]

True. Good point. But just helping guys out there

[angeliquedevereux2]

I love the hatred behind fish pics. This is what the internet was made for 😂😂

[Apope16]

Haha!

[weasley8]

Thank you! I don't use dating apps, but sometimes my friends will have me go through theirs, and as soon as I see a dead animal it's an automatic no from me. It's just gross. Personally, I don't see how anyone could get enjoyment out of ending the life of another creature. And I have separate issues with catch and release. If that's the best thing you have to show, you need to lead a more interesting life.

[Hermes-Paris]

Oh pooh! I like to hunt for bargains on couture clothing and shoes. I bet if I held up a pair of trophy Christian Louboutin shoes no one would complain! I get what you are saying. I was on a site out in the southwest for a while and half the women out there had gun pics and jeep pics. Doesn't anyone just like to go to the opera anymore?

[silvermoon84]

Eh, I don’t really mind the hunting/fishing/pet pics. It’s no different than the Instagram pics girls post containing those annoying filters and the duck faces.