How to Make a Guy Your Boyfriend (Page 2)

[I-C3_ME]

I agree and disagree with this at the same time, agree if it's a guideline but disagree if it's a manual. Like texting isn't that strict for me (probably my friends 2) yeah don't text my 24/7 but u can text me daily if the conversations are good. But most guys will probably agree, if u make the first move u immediately become more attractive cuz it doesn't happen a lot so when a girl asks u out it's pretty nice

[Apope16]

cool man. thanks!

[archiz]

sounds more like your own preference
I never liked when someone claims he knows all his gender's preferences it's too simplistic.
Some points I don't agree with and I am sure I would find guys who share the same values as me.
Sex on the 3rd date is really pushing it and idealistic too
also about the man being the leader but you also need to be independent and pay your own dates lol

[nelly83]

That's so funny. He wants women to pay for their own dates but then he wants to lead her

[rose004b]

"Just Ask Him Out"
"When the Legs Open, So Does the Heart"
"Show independence"

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"No Sext Zone"
"Old school"
"Let him lead"

This is not a cohesive guide and it's contradictory. Ya can't have your cake and eat it too.

[tartaarsaus]

Alright. I find this odd. Women shouldn't sext because "we do not see those girls as relationship material" yet "most likely if sex is not taking place by date three we are thinking about moving on".

Another odd thing. Why should she be old-fasioned? Define old-fashioned. Being able to cook is a necessity for approximately everyone. It's not a modern nor old-fashioned thing. Ya really need to define "old-fashioned".

Also, she should be old-fashioned and let the guy lead with dates yet she should also pay for herself and be independent? Odd.

Granted, I'm not a "high-value guy" but there is a lot of inconsistency in your thingy.

[Apope16]

The sexting thing is fuckin true. You sext and guys see you as a game not a unique lover. I think its the perception that the girl is sending her nudes to a bunch of guys not just you. Having sex is different. Its a singular intimate act. I swear its true tho. Poll any guy and ask if nude camera chic is relationship material. having sex is different because is a womanly expression of affection. Not a game.

By old fashioned I dont mean lacking wonens rights. I just mesn allow the man to lead the date. Set up the date. Be in hos masculine role. It doesn't mean go back to 1950s leave it to beaver.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

Dude, that's a lie according to what you said. Make up your damn mind. You want women to be modern yet traditional. Usually they more so align with one. Take your pick. by the way, expecting sex is a bit 50's style, they just make it looks otherwise, but remember, family making was expected. So is "they have to know how to cook" and "must dress this way."

Seems to me you're an extremist meninist. You're basically like the extremist, contradicting feminists. Making it seem like you're pro men, but really, you're desperate and just want control. Good luck finding a woman to agree to this dude. Let me guess... still single at 33? xD Checking... YUP.

[bamesjond0069]

No. If you have sex with a man the first few dates he will decide you are a slut and he will never be interested in you. This is the entire phenomenon of pump and dump, skeet and yeet, etc.

Also the independent part is dumb, dont pay for your date, thats super weird and not attractive at all. What you should do is have low expectations for money spent in a date. Ie dont require lobster at a 5 star restaurant. What ever he wants to give you is what you get just be appreciative since he's paying.

[DianaWest]

I get it, but maybe don't take the girl to mcdonalds. you don't have to go to the finest French restaurant in town.

[bamesjond0069]

@DianaWest haha yeah true.

[FatherJack]

Far too much emphasis on the sex part , you are letting the testosterone do the talking ... women are far less sexually wired than men are on average , this is NOT how women roll !! This is why most women view men with contempt , as sex crazed morons , you are fueling the stereotype... men are bashed enough as it is !!!

Also very few women will ever need to do this... even the most mediocre woman will have a vast abundance of male options , whereas over 90% of men have zero female options. I am glad I am staying single by choice , far prefer own company...& good fucking riddance to my Male Curse !!

[AllieOops]

@fatherjackThis guy has too much casual sex on his mind. He sounds like he is talking about prostitutes because it is not how a majority of women think or act.

[DiegoO]

Sex is more than sex when we are talking about seeking/or having, a healthy relationship. If you are having sex in a relationship, it doesn't mean everything is Ok. In fact girls don't need to open up their legs to make things better in a relationship or to know the true nature of a guy. What is needed it's a good communication, to have quality sex rather than quantity (although a lack of sex is a clear sign that things are not alright) and to know each other better.

Without quality of communication you have a doomed relation.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Very well said!

[Bellaco]

No I will not ask a man out lool I believe in traditional gender roles... I refuse to take the male role in a relationship I have a vagina I want to be treated like a woman... don't tell me what to do just because you don't have balls to ask woman out😜

[sagevalentineee]

Whilst I can see that a lot of your advice is of value, and I even agree with a lot of it. This mytake was written crudely and in a disrespectful - it makes me take you less seriously. So if you want your real points to shine through, please write better. At the moment your writing doesn't give off the slightest feeling that I should trust you.

[Shezadi]

I also felt disgusted. I felt humiliated reading this as a woman. He is degrading women.

[sagevalentineee]

@Shezadi Exactly. In order to get anything useful out of this mytake, I need to pick my way through the words of a bitter and angry person with a loser mentality, I'm not going to roll over and take it.

If you advise me to switch off my phone and focus, and to have my own life, sure I agree with that, this is what a reasonable, rational person should do. But, telling me to spread my legs and not be 'cray cray'.
Sorry. I didn't feel an ounce of respect from or for this man.

[Shezadi]

This is what I told him "On one hand, you want women to pay for their dates which is outside the traditional gender role but at the same time, you also want them sleep with boys on the third date just to keep them but at the same you want them to cook which are a part of traditional gender roles. So, you only like traditional gender roles, when they are in your favour like sleeping and cooking but when they are in women's favour like paying for dates?"

[Apope16]

Its not my job to write mytakes to sugar code the truth so it is palatable to women or men. Guys like sex. Thats why women use sex to manipulate men. This is truth. And if guys swipe on apps based on your tits and not your degree. Thats the truth. Its not my job to sugar code it. Im just trying to help.

[Be4rdy]

Best thing I've ever read. Couple of things which is more personal to me is I actually like talking to whoever I'm dating daily aslong as they understand I'm at work and can't reply straight away, also paying for dates I'm not bothered, though I like them a damn sight more if they offer.

I'm not a material person and I'm one of those annoying folk who hates anyone spending money on them even of it's nothing.

Everything else is spot on.

[Apope16]

I like it too. But my advice to you as a man is to try to limit your contact as much as possible or you will turn off the girl. Most guys text their way right out of a relationship.

[Be4rdy]

Sorry I'm not meaning like every 5 mins. Just sometimes throughout the day

[Apope16]

Do not text a woman "throughout the day". Text her to set up dates. Maybe text her a random joke or an observation 2 or 3 times per week at most. But never chase a girl. always have the girl chase you. If you were brad pitt would she be texting you first? i think so.

[Anonymous]

this is so dumb. You contradict yourself when you say that women shouldn't sext because men don't see them as relationship material, yet you say in the next paragraph that women that don't have sex with men by the third date makes guys lose interest and move on. gtfo

[Apope16]

Sexting is a childish fame. Having sex is womanly. Its also the difference of perception. In sexting its assumed she's messaging other guys. With sex its a presumption that the intimacy is just you two.

[Anonymous]

Interesting post. However, I have a little question: What if I can't have sex with you because of religious reasons?
There are people like me who prefer to wait until they are commited to a person. I want to have a partner but if I can't do it does it mean that I have no chance? Moreover, I'm still a virgin and I don't think I would be comfortable having sex with someone so fast.
Would I be considered a low value woman? :(

[jamsmi99]

Nah it just means you have standards. Don't ever let someone pressure you into doing something you aren't comfortable with

[TheAfrikan]

Well some religious preachings do suggest that. One should have sex once he or she is engaged or rather wedded.
So if you happen to meet that guy who does not agree, to your religious practices then he is mpst preferably not meant to be with you.
Since love is not always about sex on a third date, Some girls can even go minus sex for 5 years yet he and the dude are lovers.
So no way it can make you a woman of low level, BT it makes you a woman with a strong heart and with high standards. #goforit

[Apope16]

Read the mytake. I answered that. The mytakes isn't saying you have to have sex. Its only saying what will most likely lock down a boyfriend. A good friend of mine is a virgin until marriage. Thats fine. But she's 32 years old and never had a long term relationship. i know a 34 year old catholic girl. A virgin until marriage. Never had a long term relationship. My best friend is 31. Catholic. So hot she looks like a model. A virgin. But... she is still single and not in a long term relationship.

I am trying to help percentage wise tell you what most likely will get you a long term boyfriend. Sex helps.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

No. You are precious.

I have guy friends who date a girl for almost 10 years, having sex like they're already married. When I ask the boys when they will tie the knot, all of them said NO. Poor girls, they are used for a decade without the future.

[Julietchicago]

I love when men tell me how to act and when I can have sex 😂😂😂
Sorry boy. This list is total bullshit

[navyrobin]

LMAO it really is. What the fuck type of advice is this? "Women, bow down to your man, and fuck him when he asks you to, or you're full of shit hehehe"

[Hemlenn555]

@navyrobin Thank god I'm not the only one who thought this was massive BS. Couldn't believe this little boy had the nerve to write all these laughable shit. You ain't "HiGh vAlUe"

[Julietchicago]

@navyrobin lol yes! also, if sex really had to do with who you fall in love with, than how come these guys I have in the friend zone who I never fucked a day in my life are still chasing me after years?

[Julietchicago]

@Hemlenn555 LMAO what makes him think HE is high value?

[errorgoodnameunfound]

this is what happens when guys depend only on porn, media, etc to learn about girls. I'd never, ever fucking follow that list. Because I'm the type who wants to improve myself, get a decent income and passion before I even think about a girl. If some girl wants to join me before or after, I say, let em approach me and say so. If they never do, oh well, they aren't mandatory to be happy.

[Julietchicago]

@errorgoodnameunfound so true

[Filipe97]

Man, what a list of bullshit. Sounds like a manual for how to complicate things and leave everyone frustrated and insecure about what to do next and do it perfectly otherwise the guy will leave you. Just treat the guy the way you would like to be treated: with respect, affection and empathy. Done, he will love you.

[Daniela1982]

Do you actually know anything about dating except the 3 date rule which is a guy invention I'm sure? I guess I can spout nonsense in a MyTake and get some points too.

[Daniela1982]

Oh I knew the guys would love that 3 date rule. That's all they have on their minds is their dick.

[BilyanasBeach]

I would never want a guy like you to be my boyfriend. Won't use these tips. A few of these I agree with but they are already well known to everyone. Useless mytake to share your opinion and feel important once people start responding. lol

[Apope16]

Baby. Its me. I am your boyfriend l. Lol

[Dihiya]

This is the most offending, rude, selfish, women objectifying article l've ever seen!!! Dear GOD !! Open your legs or we move on? You serious ?
I'd suggest you put this on your dating and social media profils, so the women who are interested in you may have a peak to your..."beautiful" mind and values.

This just solidifies the point that "handsomeness" reaaaally isn't everything.

[CubsterShura]

Be old school but also pay for dates and open your legs... So which one is it? 💀

[PetrovaFire92]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Apope16]

Opening legs is old school. They were always getting it on. Try reading about the Tudors or King Henry 8th or royal houses. Sex is pretty old school.

[CubsterShura]

Having sex is old school, having sex with a date of two days is not.

[Shuri]

Author: "Pay your own way on dates."

Also Author: "Be old fashion. Show that you can cook."

Yeah, you didn't write this article for women to get a boyfriend. You wrote it in hopes that women lower their standards so men don't have to try as hard. You can't have your cake and eat it, too.

Serious question: Was this Take meant to be satirical? I really can't take it seriously.

[Liam_Hayden]

"Most likely if sex is not taking place by date three we are thinking about moving on to a new girl."

Part of the Fukkboi Manifesto? Is she wants sex by then I figure she is a pincushion and I lose interest.