This is a complicated issue but I think it's important to talk about because it's quite widespread nowadays.
"The reason most men resent women is because their perspective is off. They’re focused more on things they can’t control and don’t like."
How it started
This was definitely the problem for me. I didn't understand the social dynamic of dating. Since my mind is kind of different I also wanted to find a girl that was compatible with me. I wanted to chose the woman but that's not how it works :D . It was like trying to hike but I couldn't see the height difference of the terrain so I'd just walk off cliffs or into rock walls. Because of my misunderstandings I tried way too hard and put way too much pressure on myself and because of that I pushed away any girl I liked. When I could have just relaxed and let her decide if I was the right guy. I wanted to have control because I was not comfortable.
This lead to a lot of frustration and conflicting drives. I noticed that it wasn't working but I still wanted to make it work. Sadly I had many other issues that were even more pressing than this dating issue. Like why am I different than other people? Who am I? What will I do with my life? For a while also where will I sleep? And this meant that this dating issue just stayed unresolved for a very long time. I did try and inform myself online I tried to get all the advice I could but sadly it's 99% bullshit or it was just not the pieces to the puzzle that I was missing that they were talking about.
Escalation through the Internet
And so this frustration just built up. I never had a problem with specific women that I met because of this it was just a general issue that I lacked understanding in. The internet then tried it's best to turn that frustration into anger, there seems to be a huge market. People making money off frustrated guys, blaming women. I didn't even express my ideas very much but these videos filled up the parts that I was ignorant about and didn't understand with their own faulty logic. I'm always trying to learn and usually I can tell people who tell the truth from people who have an agenda or just lie. But because of all these unresolved issues I was blinded in this case and bought into the bullshit. Thankfully I'm not a violent person at all but I can see how someone could become an extremist listening to these people.
How I got through it
Once I was kicked out from home I was quite alone but I found people online to talk to. Most of them were girls actually, who were good at listening. It was a lot easier to open up online. One of them even started my process of healing by asking me questions about my family and my past that I'd never thought about before and that made me start introspection which I'd never done before. But often I'd just vent about my problems or frustrations I'd even vent about dating or women sometimes and they didn't take it personally. It took years but I worked through all the questions that I listed at the top and now that I have my life in order in all these other areas I was able to finally get to this problem and understand what I didn't before and let go of the negative emotions.
I'm sure there's many different reasons why men end up on this path but I see many comments today that remind me of the mindset I used to have. I do believe it sucks being a young guy today from a dating perspective. I saw some people say maybe we need social training in school. I don't know if that's the answer but it probably could have helped me :D. I definitely think young men need some kind of help to find their way in this world there's too many guys that would have a lot to offer who are just lost.
Anyway I hope this can shed some light on why this phenomenon is common today. And if any guy who's going down this road wants to DM me I'll do what I can to help :)