Confessions of a Ladies Man: Women Play Mind Games in Dating Because They are Bored and Without Hobbies

[Apope16]

Sometimes that woman is playing games with you on dating apps or in real life because women are simply bored. They don't have any hobbies. They don't really have any life. She literally has nothing going on in her life that is independent from other people.

A woman's modern day life consists of swiping on dating apps, playing games with a dozen guys during the day by messaging them all day, watching some shows on laptop or tv, and then taking new booty/cleavage picture selfies to post online for an ego boost.

What are a woman's hobbies? They aren't really activities. Music? TV shows? Basically boredom activities at home where she is stationary and on her phone swiping dating apps and taking more pictures for attention.

Gentleman, you are the prize. The time and attention that you give to a woman is your currency. A woman's only game plan to take your currency is the prospect of sex. The fantasy and allure that you may one day get a chance to be deep inside her.

When a woman isn't texting you. She is not "busy". She is talking to 5 other guys for their attention. After work hours what is she doing that makes her "busy'? A woman literally has very little going on in her life. If she is not spending her time with you it is most likely attention from other guys or just very low interest. Men can easily assume that beyond attention of other men she is bored and lonely.

A man's power is ignoring a woman. If she really likes you she will contact you. Why? Because other than messaging a few other guys (who are clueless and thirsty) she has nothing else to do. But hey...maybe her girlfriends are around. Then they can go party at the bar together...to attract attention from...guys.

Women are completely dependent on other people for entertainment. Either dating app guys or girlfriends. They have no hobbies of their own. Are there exceptions? Sure. Gentlemen. You are a dancing monkey to her with a tambourine. Just merely her amusement.

[MysteriousDarkness]

The only things you think women do outside of work are: listen to music, watch tv, take selfies; play mind games. If that was all they did then why do I see or know of women who: workout/exercise, do gardening (flowers and or vegetables), do arts and crafts (crochet, knitting, needlepoint, painting etc.), read, write (novels, poetry, autobiographies etc.), cooking etc.
Once again just like all your other mytakes you are acting like you know all about every woman's life. You think you know what every woman is going to do everytime before they know what they are going to do. The truth is you don't.

[Apope16]

I date women. I have LTR relationships. Im going on a date tonight with a painter.

But... I have spent 20 years being in the friendzone. Women told me all the dirty dark secrets. What i wrote is what women have told me.

My best friend is a woman. She tells me like you say... its not true. She has an active life. Bla bla bla... but 2 weeks ago she also told me that she went on a date with a chubby guy she wasn't even attracted to because she was bored and lonely. Even went to his apartment knowing he wanted sex after a date because she liked the attention. Sge didn't even want to kiss him. I know girls who show their tits on snapchat just because they like getting the ego boost of confidence.

Im telling the truth spoken to me BY WOMEN.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@Apope16
What you said in the mytake is not how a lot of women are. You are basing your assumptions on the few women you personally know

[InventorofWarp]

This woman you're describing sounds just as toxic as you so it's no wonder your friends with her.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@InventorofWarp
Who was that directed to?

[InventorofWarp]

Apope16.
Read his fucking story about his female friend, this woman sounds so fucking toxic, it's no surprise that she's friends with him. All of my women friends are incredibly kind, warm, affectionate women who would fucking never do that, I would be extremely concerned if they decided they did want to do it.
You attract what you are so it's no fucking surprise you have such toxic female friends in your life pal.
Change your attitude, maybe nice women will actually want to be around you.

[Unit1]

You give the real ladies men a very bad image 🙄
Give it a rest. You ain't one.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/ladies'%20man
https://www.thefreedictionary.com/ladies%27+man
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Ladies%20Man

[Apope16]

If you knew the truth of red pill your dating life would be like black licorice

[Unit1]

Oh look, a complete stranger on the internet, who calls himself a ladies man lectures me about my personal love life perspectives.
I'm not interested.

[TruthBringer]

@Unit1 You will find that he isn't far from the truth as you think he is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jzxVEK2ytb0

[Unit1]

@TruthBringer
I have seen that video before. I am aware of women being on online dating mostly because they are bored or crave that validation. It's pathetic.
I can come up with a new online dating innovation, where active users are rewarded and shown more often whereas the passive users get shown much less often.

[Leylaland]

So playing with guys is not a hobbie what a shocker o. O...

Hobbies of mine: play geshin, draw, workout but not insane work out, dance to some kpop music, tease some guy to look for my pleasure and masterbate, gardening I have chilies, cilantro, Hortensias (Spanish name), Cooking not a hobbie but what I do that takes a lot of time and wash dishes. Watch k dramas. Or a show of crimes and lawyers, read webtoons, haven't found a book to read. Yet. And sometimes take selfies for my own pleasure iget horny watching my boobs lol and then look for a guy to finish the job. ... there done.

[Leylaland]

What do guys do all day? Scratch their testicles while swapping pictures of sexy girls? I wonder...

[Apope16]

Good list of hobbies. You sound like a very dateable woman.

I think if you ask most guys their hobbies are more individualistic and don't require the entertainment of other people. For me it is: Songwriting, guitar, poetry, writing novels, writing articles on GAG, going to movies ( i like going to theaters alone). Things like that. But all of these hobbies are independent. They are things that a man does without women. A man is on his purpose and his mission.

Most ladies hobbies are social. They are very dependent upon other people to be entertained.

[Leylaland]

Ahhhh now I understand what you mean, I now understand why I'm not like my friends to clingy yeap, they take my me time just talking about stupid stuff, rumors, critiques, shadig other women etc.. haven't found a real girl friend. Thats why I have whatsapp plus so I don't have to answer their messages. But i think is more like a personality thing, I feel when around people they suck my energy. And need a me time. To charge myself their is a name for that.

[Leylaland]

I used to play the bass but I sold it to buy a psp3000 u. u that now it's useless.

[Andrejoao]

And now you only like to see and show boobs to get attention and being more horny?

[Leylaland]

@Andrejoa well if I wanted attention I would go to somewhere else (secret), why not show a part of the things I Like about me and Body? So do you show ur face and neck for attention from vampire girls or boys too? ;D

[Andrejoao]

Lol! Very impressive of you 😉 You need good 👏
This is the funniest thing I ever heard about my neck 😂 Now i have watch out myself form vampire girls @ Leylaland

[Leylaland]

@Andrejoao yeap their not messing around you know, put garlic on it xD. , too bad my fangs are worn out. :'D

[Andrejoao]

@LeylaIand Na No! Its not a good idea but if you find a proper bra it will be nice to go somewhere secret 😁

[Leylaland]

Proper bra but what if I don't like wearing a bra. At that time.

[Andrejoao]

So it depends on time but i am curious what you eat?

[Leylaland]

Well I love steamed brocolli, so i always eat brocolli before every meal or just some veggies. I love spicy food... example on one day... bowl of brocolli or veggie soup, followed by eggs with onions and chile serrano, some ham or winnies. Or do some pasta with ham and like macaroni and cheese lol. Then a cup of coffe. Sometimes just plain coffe others with sugar and milk or no coffe. I drink a lot of water during the day usually dont drink sodas or juices unless im craving for some shoot forgot toronaja y betabel the name in English beet root and? or papaya with cinnamon and milk as dessert in morning ao yummie

[Leylaland]

Meal some mexican food or before that i like rhose korean spicy noodles then ill eat something really spicy. For meal and some veggie soup before every meal. And a dessert at rhe end of meal... jello, ball of ice cream, alice of cake but never able to finish the whole cake im already to full... and at night papaya. Or mango well not night night like 6 or 7.. and more brocolli lol... and due i dont get hugry well just water to thirsty all the time. U. u...

[Leylaland]

But most of it is spicy food and and fruits with more spicy powder and lemon. ♡¤♡.. I dont like salads lettuce gives me gastritis its seems my stomach makes more acid due to it can't be processed so i don't eat lettuce

[Andrejoao]

Sound like very healthy and food lover person 😊

[bumblebritches5]

@Leylaland lol, I invent new things, write code, talk to friends on social media, really everything imaginable except think about females.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I see nothing with getting to know new people to have a love relationship with them. Dont guys do that too to get to know girls and choose the best one? I see nothing wrong with getting to know many people and choose the best one to date. Of course you should not play with anyone's feelings and you should be honest. Maybe I am wrong. I also think you should not have dating apps when you date someone aka have girlfriend/boyfriend. My partner can look up my phone and vica versa since i dont hide anything

[Apope16]

What are your hobbies? I see you are attacking guys. But what are YOUR hobbies?

[hi_it_is_me123]

What ARE your hobbies. I only "attack" incels, not men. I would not even call this attacking. Try better

[hi_it_is_me123]

But your hobby is definetely attacking women.

[hi_it_is_me123]

You make your take and people comment on it and it does not matter if it is negative or positive comment. People are entitled to theur opinions. They dont have agree with you. Look , in the past i made some generalized questions about men and i get hate and i learn my lesson. Since then i only use words like "some men" or incels or femxels or whatever to not generalize anyone. You can't except people to agree with your points when you are attacking all women here. If you have said some women, it would be fair.
Anyway you attract what you are. If you alwaya attract such women, look at yourself first, instead of complaining about all women

[hi_it_is_me123]

I dont feel bad for people like you. You are like the girls who only date bad boys but then complain about all men. Stop chasing such women, care more about their personality insteas of looks and age.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Oh so sorry. I forget to answere your questions about hobbys. I like playing Badminton, hiking or walking while listening music, studying-lol yes i like studying, . I actually dont have many hobbys due to school work etc.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Sorry for writing so much. Ok i will stop it and i won't reply anymore. I answere your question and i dont want to continue this conversation. Please do not reply to me. So sorry for spam

[Ryfyle]

@hi_it_is_me123 Guys don't typically get multiple girls on Dating Apps.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Cause dating apps are more used by men than women. If the majority of users if dating apps are men, women get multiple guys of course. I never rver used an dating app and every woman i know also dont use it

[Ryfyle]

@hi_it_is_me123 Dating Apps should come with a reminder that Suicide is the far better option for men on a Dating Apps. Like trow out Alert on where the best deals on gun and rope are, maybe give the location of the nearest bridge or abandoned warehouse. Not everybody deserves to live after all.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Wtf. What kind weirdo are you. Bye. Suicidal people need therapy. Fuck off. Disgusting of you make fun of these men

[MysteriousDarkness]

@Ryfyle
People like you that encourages suicide need therapy to get to the root of why they encourage suicide.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Here we go again 🙄
Really, can I really ask why you lump all women the same. Or why you don't understand that the more preconceived negative false assumptions you have about women is the very reason you probably have issues with women and relationships.
No woman in her right mind is going to stick around if they're constantly put down or judged by "other women's" actions instead of their own..
And women don't have hobbies?
You've never seen women at the Gym
You've never seen women play golf
You've never seen women that are artists or musicians or women that garden or or, etc, etc...
Oh but let me guess, their "really" just doing those things to trap some poor innocent unsuspecting male into their evil web of deceit and destruction 🙄🙄

[genericname85]

i think he made good overarching statements that were not intended to "lump all women together as the same" but more to give a general idea of what seems to be the trend ignoring exceptions that aren't explicitly claimed not to exist.

and of course "most" women don't stick around a guy that puts them down. that's why there's so much sweet talkers that learn how to tell women what they wanna hear in order to get laid. though i would challenge you to explain to me where this huge problem of continuous domestic violence against women comes from, if they didn't stay with men that abuse them. it's certainly not a majority but not a small issue either.

i do personally prefer the women you are describing. they are attractive to me, though the reality in my personal experience seems to be that "most women" aren't like that. most women do have nothing to offer besides the things they came equipped with naturally, cause they don't have to as men chooe them by virtue of those exact things in a majority of cases, specially at younger ages.

to me that seems very real. it's not exactly a positive thing but the positive thing that is that not all girls are like that. it's not easy to find a good partner. i think at least with that you would agree.

[genericname85]

i mean it beegins with simple conversations. most dates i'm on i have the to carry the conversation, cause the women apparently don't even know how to have one, since they're so used to a man taking care of that...

[genericname85]

mind you, wen we say "women have nothing to offer", we're not saying that women have nothing at all going for them in their lifes. they can have a career, a good income, a house. good car. can take care of themself. all good and well. yet still have nothing to offer that is relevant to our needs and desires.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@genericname85 And what do men have to offer other than "career, a good income, a house. good car. can take care of themself. all good and well. yet still have nothing to offer that is relevant to our needs and desires."🤷🏼‍♀️

[genericname85]

Exactly. that's why you don't like all men, am i right? :D

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@genericname85 wrong! I don't judge people the way you do... I don't look at people to just bring social marketable value. I see prior as proof to reboot and see then as a blessing in your life. .

[genericname85]

Hehe. You're good at saying lots of words without saying much. I think you're judging me without knowing enough about me while you at the same time tell me that it's bad when I do it.

[genericname85]

We all judge people we meet or date and most of them we don't date again. That's how dating goes.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@genericname85 Don't say we all... My long term Relationships both started from people I knew already in life and he from there... One later 5 and the other 20, and had her not died it'd be 28 years by now

[genericname85]

Thst doesn't mean you'd date everybody. You have your values that are important to you and not all men can deliver on that. That's a general truth that applies to everyone. Man ot Woman.

[Guy13]

Not all women are a trifling hoe... this take does tend to give that impression

[meetkitty123]

Oh the sour words of a bitter person. What ashame you feel you must bash an entire sex to get your sentimental displeasure out. The truth is these painful wounds you carry have very little to do with gender. We as humans have a natural tendency to generalize. Example feeding an infant something green if the infant finds it unpleasing they will naturally believe any food that's green is unpleasant. So regardless of sex it truly comes down to the person doing the bashing, and the people who root and add to the bashing. One would have to ask themselves what have these people contribute to cause this bitterness they carry? I know everyone wants to play the victim card but we can't all claim victim then of course there are the individual who are actual victims. Actual victims must acknowledge that they are now safe they are now empowered and in control of their own choices. We all have some role in our own misery. For example this bashing post. Just like any other bashing post it doesn't make the host doesn't come off enticing by any means. Any woman who prior to this post who briefly came across this gentleman's profile and found this individual to be interesting is now looking at him in a different light. This is the same if it was a woman writing such a post any man who thought of her respectfully will now have lost respect for her. You receive what you dish out. If you going to be negative then it's negativity you will get. My first reaction of the post was not offense but sorrow for the individual's plight and cry for comfort. My second thought was I certainly would not be interested in dating an individual who displays such angerish. This sort of post just builds a bigger gap between them and the opposite gender. Regardless of gender a bashing post simply makes an individual appear rather frightening and unapproachable. It's like coming across an abused dog in a kennel. The dog may growl show teeth and puff up making a bitter frightful scene. Most individual's would back away from such a creature and pass it up. Sadly because of the dogs behavior the dog gety dismissed and overlook which keeps them locked up in a terrible situation. Worst yet is that behind all the pungent attitude there very well could be an amazing sweet lovable creature who simply needs someone understanding and patient to bring them out of their barriers. But this requires a rare type of person to take on such a challenge and risk. Note I said rare. So whether we are referring to an animal or a person any individual who comes off full of negativity and hatefulness is naturally going to be overlooked by the majority and this causes a cycle. The individual acts harshly, they get overlooked and they become more resentful. Over and over again. The only ways for such a pattern to be broken is if an extremely rare individual steps in and takes a chance on them or if the individual would have a change of heart and decide to no longer be so indignant. Yet I believe this isn't something that can occur entirely on its own. Returning to the abused dog reference. For the dog to make the personality switch they would require a bit of assistance. Someone would have to intervene perhaps by taking the dog out of the kennel and putting them into a tranquil foster home. So in other words for the bitter hurt individual to change their mindset someone would have to intervene on their behalf. Someone will have to make them aware of their actions and encourage them to take a good look at how they are behaving and thereby metaphorically speaking taking them out of their dark kennel. Look it's not a gender issue. This is a dating issue. We all get burnt we all meet individuals who hurt us. We all at one point or another have to dea with games or heartbreak. RARELY does it occur where a couple can say they met young fell in love married and stayed together. The bottom line is cr@p happens it's how we choose to respond to it that makes the difference.

[TruthBringer]

How is this "bitter" and "bashing"? What he described is universally known male experience within the modern dating world. The only thing that's bitter here is the truth he has given. And damn it indeed seems to taste very bitter for you. Hence why you wrote an entire essay ranting (which no one is going to read by the way). Here you got some evidence:
https://youtu.be/jzxVEK2ytb0

[meetkitty123]

@TruthBringer
Thanks for reading 🤣😊

[TruthBringer]

Oh yes I did read, just the start of your rant, not the rest lmfao

[Screenwriter]

Whoa! Who ARE these women that you know?
You have definitely been hanging around with the wrong crowd.
Everyone I know has hobbies and interests and is busy engaging in those hobbies and interests and that's been true my entire life. My parents were like that too. So is my 25 year old son and HIS friends.
Hiking, biking, rock climbing, canoeing, gardening, sewing, painting my house, keeping up with repairs, changing my oil, laying sod on my front lawn, going to gallery openings, the museums in town.
I don't know how ANYONE has time to be bored with so many wonderful things to do and so much self work to achieve.
You need some new friends...

[TruthBringer]

Asbolutely well said! And of course, once again, you're getting hate from the pink comment section. The truth sounds bitter in the ears of the weak. Too bad for them, studies have shown that your Take is on point. Women simply use dating apps for free attention/validation and because they are bored. I've lost count to how many times girls told me they use Tinder because they are "bored".

https://www.youtube.com/embed/jzxVEK2ytb0

[Knighted2170]

What kind of narcissistic B. S. is this? You have to be kidding me.
So, the only reason she would be texting is that she is bored, lonely, and playing mind games? She is completely dependent on others for entertainment?

What a load of crap.

You obviously do not know women.

I don't know where you are getting your information from, but I would ask for my money back. If this happens to be what you "know" from your own "life experiences," then you're an idiot.

[NathanDavis]

wondering how many Jurassic Park movies out there, only seen the first.

[WolfBaneGal]

ROFL. Are they ONLY women you associate with SLUTS and WHORES? I mean the first paragraph was so utterly pathetic it's obvious you don't have anything to do with decent self-respecting women or for that matter women who may actually work beyond sweeping floors & cleaning tables.

[modelUN242]

I’ve never used a dating app because it seems exhausting. I found someone when I was 20 and I feel like he’s the one. I also haven’t dated before.

I do think a lot of what you said is true since women have way too many options and feminism have made them have inflated egos. My guy friend got rejected by this fat woman plus she was ugly (she was 25 and he 22). Unbelievable.

[Lynx122]

I think it's just because women are more socially oriented so the less interesting women often just look for people to entertain them because that's what interests them. But it doesn't mean all women have nothing to do.

[IveGotNoName]

Another one of those posts where you can't disagree because you'll inevitably be attacked and disliked by the delusional mytake owner

[Anonymous]

Okay let's understand a few things
1. Dating apps? As if you don't know that most people just use them for hooking ups. So you're looking for a partner in a place where most people just come to get laid
2. You along with many other red pill men think it's so hard for a guy to get dates looool...

First of all y'all fishing in the wrong pond

Second, y'all want too much. You want a partner that has good personality and also looks super hot. Nothing wrong with that but y'all don't understand that people you desire have a lot of options and if you don't stand out enough to attract them then it's not their fault.

y'all be like complaining so much but completely ignore the average girl that passes by. Nobody tellin you to give attention to average girls but y'all are also guilty of doing things that people you're attracted to does which is ignore people that don't stand out. So stop complaining.

[Apope16]

Dating apps or real life. The chics in real life that you meet are on dating apps too. You realize that right?

[Opinion Owner]

Most people don't use dating apps and the percentage of users go down as they in age group above 30. Success rate in dating apps are also low.

[Opinion Owner]

Dating apps are just a bad place to find good relationships. It's not necessarily a problem for me if a girl I meet is using a dating app. I can find out if she's a good partner for me through dating, having a dating app account doesn't make anyone a bad person but the point of me saying all these is because most people use dating apps to get laid, knowing that nobody should have high hopes or complain about why what you said happens. I didn't say that women like you said don't exist. I am saying is that we should stop complaining about what happens there cause it's a bad place we know that already and the rest of my opinion is just some other reasons to say why men shouldn't be complaining about some other things.

[Levin]

Preach, brother.

About time it's turned back on women, who might realise they ain't so perfect themselves!

[K-I-S-S]

While it does seem in most dating sites women in general expect men to be interesting/entertaining.

To say it's because they have no hobbies is just weird. In my country, women tend to have more hobbies than men, and in other Europe women seem active too.

I know tons of guys who just like to drink and watch tv.

[Anonymous]

I see the same for men on dating apps, most are into what almost every person like (friends, family, food, travel, watching movies/shows), and then they have video games and watching sports, maybe go to the gym.
I think if one wants a higher chance of finding someone with hobbies, you need to meet where they do or discuss those activities.

[Anonymous]

I would give you my opinion but you're not actually interested in any opinions that don’t support your own.

[Anonymous]

You attract people who are on your level.

If you’re a quality woman/man, you might have to deal with some idiots, but you’ll also attract quality men/women.

If you’re low quality you’ll only attract low quality.

If you have superficially attractive traits but you lack substance, you’ll attract superficially attractive people who lack substance. Such people are always obsessed with the initial dating stages and the games that are involved with that.

[gausslu]

So what do you want us to do? Ignore women on dating websites? What good will that do?
I mean LOL it comes down to GREED. Women want all the ATTENTION for themselves and GIVE NONE to men. For every time a woman "initiates" something, she 1) risks rejection/insults 2) Lessens the amount of attention she necessarily gets. Women are greedy and want to use there sexual power to take everything LOL. Power corrupts.

I am tired right now!

[Anonymous]

« Confessions of a bitter man » would be more accurate.

[Unit1]

Right on point!

[Anonymous]

It's funny because I could say the same about some guys I've dated. And I've known women like this. I think it really all depends upon the person. I agree with you to an extent. But to claim all women or men are like this would be false. This kind of thinking is actually toxic.