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In my own observations, I have found that being emotional, or "nice" to a woman will make her view you less as a romantic interest, and more as a friend. If you dare to show any weakness to her, unless you are incredibly attractive she will usually lose sight and stop caring. This can go both ways though.
So he is teaching men to become women. Women are able to play “aloof” because as emotional creatures, it’s not faked and we are driven by our hormones. Men who act that way are seen as not confident and feminine. So, to win the attention of women DO NOT act like women.
It's a double edged sword because to avoid acting like a woman =toxic masculinity.
Can you see why men are lost?
@HiveBee Stop complicating it
Dude this is how men feel come on wtf lol. Sorry I'm just a lowly stupid man. Im not as amazing and wise and perfect as women.
Please explain to me why I'm stupid and how I should think.
@HiveBee Incel
I have kids lol.
From different women too...
Living a real life of mystery and having something going for yourself is a much better play then pretending to be some alpha and purposefully ignoring her. Guys get a real life, build your empire so you don't have to pretend.
My advice is not to be fake. We are on the same page. But lets be real. Nobody is so busy 24/7 in their day that they can't answer a text message. there is a bit of gamesmanship here. One trick I do is any text after 8pm I dont answer until the next morning in early stages of dating. Sometimes do and sometimes I dont. Makes her wonder... was he with a girl last night? Because he messaged me late tonight. The best thing is to actually be on a date with another girl. Thats what I do. thats even more alpha.
@HairyPoppins yes dude teach me i am so bad with hot chicks lol
I really wish more and more men will follow this advice and be "less available". Or better, just never be available, just stay far away.
Zing!
Problem is not being to nice!
People confuse being nice with being submissive, a "yes man", dedicate all the seconds of your life to her and having no backbone.
You can be super nice and be none of those things. Those are the problem, not being nice.
Honestly? I disagree? Even if you are being a nice guy who is still confident? She will get bored or test you. If she knows your schedule every day, knows you are not dating other girls, knows you like her... trust me. She will take that for granted. especially in early stages of dating. If you guys have been dating awhile thats different. BUt trust me early on you are risking boring her.
I was always, let's say good guy to not get things confused. I was always a good guy, but always had self respect enough to not put up with crap. Always had my life outside my dating life. And I never had a hard time getting a girl to fuck or into a relationship.
You say they get bored? Sure some did. But I knew who those were from miles! It's very easy to spot the ones that want that kind of toxic relationship. With those I was the first to jump of the boat.
Simple as that. They did not make the majority of girls I meet so it was never really a problem.
@Apope16 I disagree. I guess it just depends on the girl, but I'd be relieved to find a guy I'm interested in that I know is staying loyal to me.
Too nice in female language means... I’m just not that into you.
everyone likes nice. They just want nice with someone they are into. That’s all it means.
Seriously. I am sick and tired of men thinking that the reason certain women aren't into them is cause they're "too nice". No it's because niceness isn't the only good quality you need to have in order to attract a partner.
@TiaraGlitzNeon yea but usually people who say things like this know they don’t measure up. No point being mean to them. If you only have the nice card to play, it probably means you have nothing else. And you probably aren’t even nice because you have nothing else and that makes you mean. But no point twisting the knife, let them think this,, their ego needs it x
So, I'll just put this right here...
So true. Women like the "bad boy" type. So stop being nice. Dont cook. Dont take out the trash on time. Get in the passenger seat before she does and make her drive because you need to be on your phone. Ride a motorcycle instead of a bicycle. Extra points if you got into a wreck and needed a metal rod inserted into your leg. Have lots of money and sex. Stop asking her how she's doing and why she doesn't ask you the same thing.
Nailed it. Sad, but true. Guys, just accept it. Girls, just accept it.
I like nice guys. I just don’t like clingy guys and confuse that to being ‘nice’.
@fictionalcharacter Maybe "respectful" guys, that care, but don't overwhelm you like some needy dorks, never having had a girlfriend?
After 20th times in my teens and early 20’s I learned to still talking advice from women. And street being an a-hole!
All the sudden got easier to get laid with hotter girls.
haha. The problem with advice from women is that it is true. in other words... women want a nice guy.
You want to know why? Because they are getting fucked by the alpha bad boys and they want to change them by making them more nice.
Yep the assholes always gets the girls and girl don't like people like me with 20 years of failed dating experiences
Its not me it's them and some people have it harder like me then others. I'm always my myself around them. Where I'm at and living the people here are very shallow on how their man looks.
Gotta laugh at all of the women that deny this... while being exclusively attracted to exactly what he described...
Dont care that much about what she thinks. If she likes you, only then she deserves you and has to like every part of you
If she does that, she does not deserve you anyway.
Thank you
THats not true. All women pull away at some point in a relationship. All women have little subconscious tricks to test guys. THey either dont realize it or dont call them tests.
GUys, dont listen to these people who say "Just find a girl who won't test you." Listen to me and listen to me good. All women test guys they like at some point. Its in their nature. There is no finding a chic who doesn't do that. Trust me. These girls who say they dont do that are LYING to YOU. I have a lot of female friends who tell me their stories and swear that they never play tricks or test guys. haha. Then I point out in their story how they tested the guy and they finally say "oh.. welll... I guess you're right." and own up to it.
Men should not date anyone who disrespect them. Nice guys deserve better
Tests? What do you mean? Playing games? This is disrespectful. Why would any guy tolerate this?
Can you give example? Do i test a guy when i ask him how he treats someone when they have huge arguments in order to know whether he gets phsyically agressive or not? If i ask him directly, he would say No, of course. Do guys dont do that? Gow do know whether a girl is sociapath or not then? Huhh
Lool i am exegarating a little bit. I mean how do you know whether a girl is crazy then? I try my best to be direct but sometimes you can't be direct
I agree with what you are saying but frankly 99% of women are not worth this level of effort.
My advice is not for 99% percent of women. I want you to find that spicy and sexy woman of your dreams. THat girl you want to wife up. THat girl who is the 1% that is worth it.
@Apope16. Yeah, I'm out of that race bro. Best of luck to you and every other man however.
@Apope16 What if your just after weird? What you described bores me.
@Ryfyle "Weird" will get your ass locked up.
@KrakenAttackin Why do you conflate the peculiar with the illicit?
It's generally a bad idea to make a girl wonder if you're cheating
Wow is this ever stupid
It's actually a great way to attract insecure women, and tbh, more than 50% of women are insecure. But yeah, not a good plan for creating a genuine and connected intimate relationship.
In your opinion, @orangecherry, what kind of women does this method actually attract? Since he doesn’t actually care about women’s input.
@Mangospacho I don't know... I just know it doesn't attract me
I know what you mean. I find it suspicious when a guy tells you what a girl wants and then attacks any other dissenting opinion.
such lazy editing... and yes, still a CPS.
This is very unfortunate