Why physical attraction is not a good basis for dating (Page 2)

[Bluemax]

There's a word for someone you share an emotional bond with, someone you connect with intellectually, someone who you love and support but have no desire to be intimate with.

And that word is "friend."

[Anonymous]

100% correct. My dream girl was based on looks; blond hair, blue eyes, thin figure but not to the point they look unhealthy. I realised this wasn't going to happen and not only that, I always saw something negative about them when they rejected me as I saw their true personality from an entirely different angle.

The current girl I like I was interested in around 4-6 years ago based on looks and tried asking her out, she said she wasn't interested and wanted to do group things instead. After this, I just carried out being friends. But while friends, I guess we realised how important we were to each other. I tried asking her out again after 4-6 years, she said about organising a group thing instead, I told her maybe we can both do something later, she agreed. Now we had a dinner date and personally, we did have something there and spoke a while even after we finished eating.

[Anonymous]

I do definitely agree that looks shouldn't be the centre of a relationship but i do believe that in many it does play a big role. I'm not generalising this as every person has their own priorities when looking for a relationship. For me personally and many guys and girls that i've known, when looking for a relationship, only after we feel attracted to that person based on their looks, do we then check out their personality and depending on their personality do we then decide if it's worth it or not.

[RationalMale]

Dating someone ONLY because of physical attraction is moronic. You need a bond on a character level.

Dating someone you're not physically attracted to is how four years after getting married, one person is fucking their coworker and the other person is wondering why they can't get their significant other to give them more sex.

[Anonymous]

I agree to a certain extent. But I have tried to push myself to date women I didn’t very attracted to and it ended very badly.

You should be able to get someone who is on par with you. I don’t expect a supermodel but I need a woman I feel consistently excited to sleep with.

[FreyaRed]

You're assuming most people date because they want find a life partner. In reality most people on dating apps have other goals and for those people has physical attraction highest priority.

[garykingg]

Finally someone said the truth. Physical attraction > anything else

[TheAfrikan]

Physical appearances do play a small part in the art of Love and attraction, and tgat can be like 3/10 and the rest of the remaining 7% does go to the Personality of that person.

And finding a person eith a sweet personality now days is like a tag of war. because sweet personality does not fade tgat easily like the looks.
So hey you are right about the looks thing @jennifer_bloom

[ARWINGx1]

(if basing on the title alone)
I try to make sure that Physical Attraction only accounts for *up to* 50% of a girl's overall attraction.
Or "optimally", that it's in the right direction, and the specifics have to be kept at a minimum

[RobT312]

I think you are partially right. Chemistry is more important than looks but I think there also needs to be an attraction. I think the best relationship has both... at least for me

[Anonymous]

This is cope.

Bodybuilding. com did 2 experiments

1. Average guy
2. Male model who claims to have raped little kid in the past and acted like an autist while chatting with girls.

Guess which one was getting girls coming back to him over and over and wanting to go out with him.

[JWALKER843]

I can overlook looks to a certain extent. I think you need to find the other person at least a little attractive, but usually what people fall in love with is their personality. If someone is funny you're just going to want to be around them all the time.

[Pilot_737_NY]

As far as “basis,” goes, it pretty much IS the basis. It’s the very first thing you noticed. What a peculiar statement. People (mostly Liberals) try so hard to bend and contort basic truths to fit some utopian society.

1000+ genders or Abercrombie models dating 300 Lb. land whales… Liberal/“Progressive,” silliness.

[driven159]

dating that's fine to date for looks but long-term relationship in 20 years you are not going to look the same

[Anonymous]

People don’t get together based solely on attraction. Of course there has to be more attraction there than just that. But physical attraction definitely helps. It’s often a combination of physical attraction + attraction to their personality.

[lily125]

If you just focus on how someone looks most likely you'll end up with a bitch ass man. You should focus on how someone treats you yk. You wanna be with someone nice and caring and not an arrogant bitch. But do what you want!

[garykingg]

Yes but you also want him to look good, what you want is a guy who looks good and also treats you well. Man the hypocrisy.

[BLP11520]

Some good looking women are shallow, while fun and well balanced women may have average or plain looks.

[garykingg]

Which I would gladly settle for, average to plain looking for me are better than good looking women

[UdontNeedtoknow]

wrong. with out attraction its hard to be satisfied or interested. There has to be both attraction and chemistry.

[fiddlestick]

exactly

[darkfoxjj]

So you do not use makeup?

Anyway, it all counts. Physical attraction, mental attraction. Being healthy, having a healthy BMI.

[Smegskull]

There is no good basis for dating. Our desire to date comes from a biological drive to breed. There is no morality in it.

[Chris90871]

That's true, most people aren't even gonna date somebody if there's no physical attraction.
They just put them in the friendzone.

[rabbitzzz]

I guess its the first impression. Most of the time of you start out beautiful (girls) and handsome (for guys) it doesn't matter if you let go yourself a bit as you grow older.