Bring up kids early in dating... Like the first date!

[MikeTheBartender]

Okay ladies and gentlemen, I hope this helps somebody. As a bartender for 15 years, and a guy who has been with a lot of women, and a guy that has coached countless people at the bar through marriage, divorce, children, court, sex, no sex, and all the other drama, this is something that needs to be said. If you want to have kids, or don't want to have kids, this should really come up on the very first date! I have a vasectomy, I also am known to be a piece of shit with some women (recovering POS I should say), but I don't lie. So when I'm hanging out with a girl, if I get that family vibe from her, I just kind of avoid the topic. But if she brings it up, I will be honest with her, and we will not have sex that night. If it is something important to you, you definitely need to let a guy or a girl know. Some of us may be older, and it may be time to start rocking and rolling. Or some of us may be younger, and we want to start and not be old like Mike the bartender, when we start having kids. Anyway, this is just my advice, take it or leave it. ❤️

[Delle123]

100% agreed. I usually will somehow bring up the fact that I was a nanny in college. Men will either think it’s really great, ask me if I’m good with kids, etc… OR he’ll act like I didn’t say anything and try to switch topics as quickly as possible. I’m not going to waste my time with a man who is basically telling me he doesn’t want kids.

[Avicenna]

good advice...

[handsomelad70]

Is the baby a girl or boy?

[MikeTheBartender]

Haha no idea. Random Internet search

[handsomelad70]

That little lassie or laddie is adorable... but by all means, mention children ASAP in dating, perhaps the first date.

[strateguy632]

i disagree

[MikeTheBartender]

Explain?