Would you wait for a virgin waiting until marriage?

[sweetsinner]

Hypothetically speaking if you both are compatible and there's a spark, but they're abstaining till marriage...

not worth the time

I'd wait

[Tractorbeam]

You could safely say that 96% or 97% of men don't wait, because 97% of people in the USA have had premarital sex by about 30. The figure was slightly higher (about 11%) in the 1950s, but people married about 5 years younger.

The average age for marriage is 27 for men, and 25 for women. Women who marry at less than 25 increase their divorce risk, and below 20 it's over 50%. Even at 27, a man has wasted over 10 years of his sex life, and it never comes back.

1% of marriages in the USA are never consummated (no sex ever happens in that marriage). Do you think the people who married as virgins are more likely to account for that 1%? If so, it's not good odds, about 1 in 3.

[ironeddie]

No I would not wait.
I feel in a situation where one person wants to wait until marriage. Chances are the only way that relationship may last long time. Would be if the partner was a virgin too. Although there are exceptions. But there needs to be a sexual compatibility.

The best way to describe it might be. You wouldn't buy a new car without taking it for a test drive. The way it looks and the engine sounds may be everything you've been looking for. But you wouldn't want to buy it then find out it handles like crap.

[GnarlyQuinn]

If you're going to be in a relationship and saving yourself or waiting for someone, it would take incredible discipline and patience. A lot of people don't want to bother with that difficulty when it's so much easier to go out and, well, get laid. However, I have two friends that were successful in this battle. One is 29 and she is still a virgin, and another waited until she was married when she was 24 as a spiritual discipline. The married one had a very kind and loving husband that was willing to wait, and their relationship is now healthy and oh so sweet, with the 4th kid on the way. I guess you could say they made up for lost time.

[Vesuvius87]

No, I would feel we would be uncompatible. For starters, I don't really find marriage as a must in my life and I don't even want kids. What I do value is commitment, integrity and compatibility; you can have all that without marriage.

I wouldn't mind if the guy is a virgin waiting for a relationship (I've only been with 1 bf and nope, no longer with him) as long as it's going to eventually lead to a sexual committed long-term relationship.

[ShaeNielson]

No, I would not wait. Mostly because I don't even think, I want to get married. And I want to know my man completely, before I get bound to him like that.

[srslyly]

Hypothetically, does this woman want to marry me and have sex, or does she want to keep me as her celibate boyfriend to buy her shit and take her places for several years without regard for what I want from the relationship, only to remain completely free to abandon said relationship at any time for any (or no) reason?

I only ask because most women I've met fall into category 2.

[sweetsinner]

Oh thats awful. But I'm referring to someone who's in a relationship and eventually planning to marry you and have sex

[srslyly]

"Eventually planning" is kinda loaded. How about right now?

[sweetsinner]

Well she'd want to be with you for 1-3 years. Would you have the patience to be with her that long without sex?

[srslyly]

I don't know that I can afford that. I'm 30 years old, and that would put children out past age 35 for me. I don't want to be going to high school graduations in my 60s.

[Anonymous]

I would be willing to wait assuming she didn't want to wait like 10 years to get married. lol I would also be okay with waiting for a non virgin that had gotten divorced, but had never had sex outside of marriage. Once she has had sex out of marriage, I would feel like she was playing games if she expected me to wait, but didn't make the other guy wait. I don't want to be held to a different standard than her past men.

[electrollama]

I guess it depends on the reason. I would like for the girl to be comfortable with the idea of sex and to have enough experience with masturbation to know what turns her on. I also wouldn't want that kind of parental pressure on our children when that time comes. Otherwise, I'd be fine with it since I'm a virgin anyway. And I don't think I'd be too picky about "sexual compatibility".

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Knew a girl who refused to have sex (nothing wrong with that by the way), found a guy who would wait for her (my uncle, really good guy) who wanted kids. Turns out she's barren.

My uncle's a great guy, so he's sticking with her. But he is really upset he can't have kids.

Not the kind of risk I would take.

[Red7336]

barren? whats that?

[want2helpout84]

Now THAT'S unconditional love!

[sweetsinner]

@Red7336 I think it means she's unable to have a baby

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

@Red7336
Oh, was using slang. It means she can't get pregnant--don't know exactly what the underlying problem is in her case (not the sort of topic to bring up in conversation)

[Red7336]

ah i see

thanks !

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

@want2helpout84
Agreed. Seems rare these days. He's a better man than me, certainly.

[slackercruster]

I didn't vote. Just depends. If she offered some pleasure such as heavy petting and a handjob once in a while, I could wait some. But, not knowing what your getting is tough. You many not be compatible.

[rjroy3]

Depends on her sex drive I would say. If we're not making out in place of sex, or it's not that great then I highly doubt that I would. Unless I was already in love with her, I would not

[Mesonfielde]

I voted A) because I dislike how people link physical intimacy to this arbitrary bureaucratic milestone. If we love each other then you should get to that when you are ready, not when we buy two rings and sign some papers and shit.

[DarkHumorRUs]

I'm 17 and I'd probably wanna get married maybe even during college if I met the right girl, so I'd only have to wait like 5 years hopefully. And I'd definitely wait for my current crush cause I love her so much...

[kheserthorpe]

I'd need an extremely good reason to believe we would be sexually compatible and with most abstinent till marriage people I don't believe I would be. But there are exceptions.

[sweetsinner]

Can you tell you can b compatible by talking over it and discussing sexual interests, fantasies and what not?

[kheserthorpe]

I'm not sure. It's certainly better than not doing all that.

[MelloYellow]

I would say you can't tell just by discussing it, because as a virgin they would have a much different view of sex than what it really is (most likely), and really wouldn't be able to know what they like and whatnot because theyve never actually done it... just my two cents.

[sweetsinner]

Thats true. I know p*rn isn't reality and its not really a good example, but couldn't you sort of get an idea or a hint from what you'd like based on watching or reading it. Or would you actually need to experience having sex?

[Cryostatic]

Nope. I've dated too many girls that I turned out to be completely sexually incompatible with that I think it's an incredibly bad idea to tie the knot before figuring that out.

[icantwait]

would a girl that wants to wait till marriage be willing to give it up before tying the knot?

If there's no comprising to start, then that's not really a relationship.

[SandPlanet]

I would never even consider marrying someone without having had sex with him before.

[want2helpout84]

Interesting :)

[DIzzlegamespro]

If you like someone enough you would wait for ever for them

[askaway2012new]

Yes, i love a pure girl who has no cum running through her veins yet.

[Tristana92]

Dont know if you're sarcastic or not. Confused guy is confused

[Kevinb182]

If the woman of my dreams wanted to wait yes I'd do it. It would be hard but worth it

[meatballs21]

Absolutely not. Among the many reasons are her discovering: her sex drive isn't that high, she doesn't enjoy it, or that she's terrible at it.

[Tractorbeam]

Or she liked it for a week, and that just used up a year's supply of sex drive. You can then count on 358 days of rejection and frustration, before it happens again.

[meatballs21]

Don't I know it. :(

[chocolatedragon]

Preferably not, but if she was pretty and had a kick ass personality then yeah.

[kartoos]

I'd definitely wait but that's me lol so yeah you don't many people like me these days.. Old fashion hmmm nah i'm just being me :p

[Downanddepressed]

I will wait for her if she wants to. If she is a virgin like me, I will wait.

[Shut_Up_And_Marry_Me]

If you pull that move, you better be damn sure you're worth it.