My question is, I've never dated a guy like this... I can't tell if he's friend-zoning me and I'm oblivious to it, or if he's just realllllllly shy and used to the girl initiating everything? First of all, this guy is mr perfect in my eyes. He's so sexy, awesome body, successful workaholic, VERY sweet and a gentlemen. He's been "courting" me for almost 3 years.
He's made 1 attempt to kiss me, but it was awks and threw me off guard... He hasn't tried again, but he's really affectionate/huggy (nervously) when we hang out. I'm very shy, so I haven't tried to kiss him either. I figure when the time is right, it'll happen.. He told me on multiple occasions that he wants me to meet his parents (who are filthy rich and intimidating) because he thinks they'd like me a lot.
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I'm going to say this. I'm a guy who's so shy, talking to a girl whom I grown to like even though I had no problems talking to her because I wasn't really into her at first scares me more than death (literally).
It is hard to tell if he's on the shyer end or not because of what you written. He's more than likely likes you a lot that he doesn't want to lose you even as a friend. He attempted to kiss you once but you pushed him away. To him he saw it as you don't want to be in a relationship with him but you'll be good with bring just friends to a intimate level. He's probably afraid that if he tried that again that you'll not want to see him again because you shown to rejected him once even though that was not your intention but that's how he saw it.
You might be shy but you already given the signal that you didn't want him in the first place to the relationship level. If he is a respectable man to care enough about you, he will not do it again.
It's going to have to come down to you. You created the situation (being that you shown sign of rejection of a kiss), you must now fix it. He's offering you to meet his parents. What's stopping you from doing that? It's way better than you making the move to kiss him or whatever. Unless you prefer to do that over meeting his parents.
If you do take the meet the parents approach and if they ask you if both of you are going out or if you guys are in a relationship, DO NOT say "no" because that will make him feel like you don't see him that way but you don't have to say "yes" either because that'll just be a lie. You can either be silent going "umm" in such a way where you are not sure to say yes or no because you like him or just be silent all embarrassed with your head looking down and tucked in between your shoulders. They should get the idea.1
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