I am going to try and make this short, so if more details are needed, please ask. Back in April an attraction began with a man who is quite busy, ending a marriage, with a family. In about July, it developed more but just saw each other socially, not dating. In Aug/September began texting some and went to a club with a group of people. A huge amount of extra stress got piled on him (legal issues) and he told me the next months were going to be very heavy for him.
He always seemed happy to see me even during very bad days.
Things have gotten tremendously like a pressure cooker on every side for him lately, and all I have done is tell him I like him very much. He only said that if he did not like me, he would not even talk to me.
His eyes have shown kindness and sparkle, and he seemed happy when together. Still no dates. Nothing physical.
We had a talk about some issues that I am having in my own life, but I didn't expect him to "rescue me", I was just telling him.
Things got worse for him.
Then, when I saw him, he was obviously sick, and told me that he could only offer anyone friendship right now. That he did not want to shut me out, but he could only offer me friendship right now. That he was so stressed out with all on his plate, that he was shutting down and couldn't do any more.
So I said, okay.
The next time I saw him (ten days later), I was terrified. He said hi, and then we talked. Still kindness in his eyes, but looked so tired and beaten down. Still going through the issues. Said he was just trying to get through life and trying to survive. I did not bring up anything, just talked and joked. He handed me something he knew I would like over my shoulder, getting close, and then when we parted, he hugged me. (He is not a huggy type person.) I don't know if what he said means, we are done forever, or he means just right now... does he care about me (it sure seemed so). We never got physically intimate, though both certainly wanted to. opinions?
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This always amazes me. Women are always saying how they want honesty and no games yet when they get they don't know how to handle it. This guy is being as straight with you as possible. He isn't faking. You stated he's physically changed. You can't fake that. Just be a friend and don't expect anything more for a while1