Could you date someone who works every single weekend including holidays?

[Anonymous]

I might be getting a pretty sweet job with good pay to buy a house and finally move out, but it will be every weekend, like Saturday to Tuesday with 3 days off. I have this schedule now and I don't have time for friends outside work since they have weekends off. Is it hard to find a girlfriend with this kind of schedule?

Yes

No

[TiffanyBlueTwo]

I dated a guy who worked in mining with a 3 weeks on-site, one week home rotation... and yes, it will not be easy on either you or the person you're seeing. But if you like the girl enough, chances are you'll keep enough in touch to make it work, especially in the initial stages.

That said, if you're looking to find someone new on your three days off, you might want to consider moving online (I know people have this attitude towards it but you can save yourself a decent amount of time compared to chatting up people in bars etc.)

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend works a lot, but he makes time to see me when he has free time. He usually works 6 days a week, so the night before his day off he'll pick me up and I'll sleep at his place. Then we spend the whole day together and he brings me home later that night. It works for us because he makes time to see me. I think a lot of insecure women couldn't deal with that because they need constant attention, but a woman who is sure of herself won't mind as long as you make time to see her on your off time.

[GoldenSunshine]

Yes I could if I loved him, but I wouldn't like it and I'd try to get our schedules to work together

[kellytheman]

I work as a security guard and am required to work on holidays and weekends to patrol diffrent accounts my employer owns. I usally work 4 to mjdnight on Saturday and 4 to 11 at njght on Sunday. I also work Monday and Friday at a college campus from 11 pm to 7 am and get call in during the week. I also work during every holiday of the year. I do have a gf right now but took a long time to find her 3 years top. Maybe it be less demanding when i get your diploma in crimnal justice.

[islands7]

Agreed it's difficult but consider this a wonderful filter for fair weather friends, so that maybe this will be difficult but gathering friends that can tough through such a tough schedule. Since those nights are not popular, look forward to date nights w/o the crowds and saving time shopping around town. A new adventure.

[justbanANNAz]

well yes of course, we would work around that and find days where we could both be off or make time for each other.
if a girl really isn't establishing herself as your 'everything', then i think it should be fine. a lot of girls get into relationships thinking that theyre now a man's entire life, which is absolutely SELFISH. a girl with a head on her shoulders understands that a man has a life in which he balances many things. pick one like that and life will b easy.

[TiffanyBlueTwo]

@JustBanANNAz -- well said, I completely agree!

[justbanANNAz]

thanks dear =] @TiffanyBlueTwo

[dartmaul15]

if just more people could realize this.
You're an important part of his life, but if you EVER make him chose between his bros and you, his work he loves and you, or his lifelong hobby/pashion and you then you are pretty much asking to be dumped. Because a good couple is one fitting together as is. There should be no need for a change.
A readjustement of scedules maybe, but no need to change music taste, work, hobbies etc. And rememember to let your partner have a life. It's ok to miss him/her and be a bit yealous if he chats with his/her friends of the oposite sex (in fact, it's a GOOD thing), just don't let it go overboard. It shows you still LOVE the person.

But remember. The greatest form of love isn't the one that makes you fight until the bitter end to keep him/her when all the person want to is to leave, that is just selfish. The greatest form of love is the ability to let them go because you realize they will gnuinely be happier without you, despite the fact you love.

[justbanANNAz]

i truly agree. i also believe that the best way for a relationship to work is compromise. need to meet each other halfway instead of both people saying, i won't change anything. love is sacrifice and people need to live with that. making a man choose is just stupid in my opinion. the only reason i would actually be concerned is if the amount of time spent on all these things was consuming him and he finds himself cancelling on me multiple times. @dartmaul15 i appreciate ur input.

[dartmaul15]

exactly. It might be an unpopular opinion, but i beleive especially girls got something to learn there. Judging by a lot of the takes here you seem to have quite strict demands on how a guy needs to be, and oftentimes they also seem to be contradicting. I mean, where on earth are you to find a sexy, cute, caring, romantic, nice bad-boy?
It just ends up backfiring in the end.

And i agree, it wouldn't be a problem if he genuinely cares about you because then he would find time. Maybe not all the time or as often, but he'd use the chances he get. That's one way to find out if a person cares. Does (s) he have time for you, even when stressed out and loaded with work?

[justbanANNAz]

thats true, but u must agree with me when i say some men have the same expectations of women, yes?

exactly. i think that even if he didn't have as many chances, it would just make the few chances even more special, because there's that distance or space between each time where u just allow your mind to wonder what could happen next. mhmm, also a good test of character as you said- whether he's able to effectively balance out his priorities. @dartmaul15

[dartmaul15]

hehe, yeah. Men can be REALLY shallow too XD
It's mostly about knowing how to rat out the weed.

EXACTLY! It could in fact be beneficial, as it forces you to plan and to set up things, unlike a lot of couples do nowadays when droning on over texts withouth really having any meaning full time together. Obviously it'd be better to have a lot of time together, but you need to DO something. Doesn't have to be much, just something

[justbanANNAz]

:P indeed.

for sure! being with a person is definitely much more meaningful than just texting or calling but i mean if thats all that's available until a suitable time then a woman should just suck it up and deal with it in the name of love lol. @dartmaul15

[dartmaul15]

yeah. As a last resort, but only that. But we both know fror 99.9% of the people, it's not last resort.

[justbanANNAz]

definitely. @dartmaul15

[dartmaul15]

and for the 0.1% left, well they're usully LDR's. And well, they tend to not work unless you can meet within a year's time. Even if they can be really fun. In fact, despite the ridicolously high probability of failing, i recomend them. Take it seriously, and it will make you mature a lot, meaning you're more ready for serious dating. And hell, might be lucky enough to make it work. In that case, you're in for one hell of a tearjerking moment when you finally meet the person.

But now i'm rambling. In short, keep the phone away unless you have to. And when you HAVE to, there are better means. Like Skype cam chatting and so on. The only use of phones in my opinion is for teasing in prepration of a specific event (like when intening to surprise your partner, meeting your ldr SO for the first time and so on), for planning events, and for things that simply can't wait (important shit, that WILL affect your life)

[unicornsandglitter]

I love a guy who works and is dedicated to giving himself a good life. If I was dating someone and we didn't have the same shifts i would hang out with him either after I'm done with work or he is. I don't see that it would be a bad thing unless you go after girls who have to have their weekends planned specifically

[Hopefuldreamer8]

I work six days a week, so I would understand. I'd give it a chance. I would worry that it wouldn't work out, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't want to try and make it work. I've had trouble meeting guys with my schedule. I work shift work Mondays to Saturdays. I've yet to meet a guy who understands.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

i couldn't right now because my weekday schedule is too demanding because i'm still in school. if i worked a normal 9-5 job and didn't have to study, it would be fine! i just need someone who has time on weekends for me since i have classes and studying during the week. but i think for most people with a normal work schedule, it should be fine. :)

[Klaatu51]

sure just in order to learn who her boss is and give him a good beatdown.

how much of an asshole is someone who forces other people to work in weekends and holidays?

[Bromanicus]

Certainly it won't be as easy to find a girl and the number of dates will go down. But, if you are in the stage of your life where you are building your future, building wealth and career, tha you will probably be more concerned with QUALITY mayes rather than QUANTITY. It's not a fun choice but it sounds like you're ready to make some mature choices. Good luck!

[Mgoods]

Yeah, I would.

It would be nice if I could see you most of the week, but you have ambitions and you're going somewhere in life- so I would respect and admire that you're busy most of the time. I'd appreciate the time you made for me.

[OpenEars]

You're a young guy in a world that is really difficult for people to find work, especially a job they love. Take the job, worry about what it means for your social life later. The right girl will be able to make it work with you,

[hypnicjerk]

The traditional banker's schedule (M-F 9-5) is going the way of the dinosaurs. Even banks have extended their hours to evenings, weekends and some holiday hours. Don't make career sacrifices at your age. You have plenty of time for relationships.

[xuewu]

I wouldn't want people to make allowances for me or change their schedule, I would just let them get on with whatever they want to do and work around it

[amybeelicious]

I work 12-13hr shifts and my bf is a district manager and sometimes doesn't come home til 2am. The only day we have off together is Sunday but we make it work.

[thewanderingme]

sure, no problem. I've never worked a 9-5 monday-friday job. always flexible. as long as we're still able to spend some quality time together, everythings fine. (:

[SailorMars]

I always work weekends so that's not a problem, there are other days in the week to hang out and do things. I don't think it would be hard to find a girlfriend to adapt around your schedule

[Nathalyy]

Well you're available after work right? Try surprising a girl after, or just picking her up from her job. You can work with that schedule is all on you, and on the person you're interested on! :)

[JackKerouac77]

don't know dude, depends on the girl.

I guess if it pays enough, who gives a shit? We all sell our souls when we work for the man anyways.

[Prettygurl12]

I am and will always be a slave to my job. So I would understand.

[JackKerouac77]

That sounds terrible. What do you do?

[Prettygurl12]

Well... currently I am a manager at Burger King. I work closes from 4p-2a and often mids from 11a-9p the days following my closes. I've been known to work a close and then come in at 11 and then close again lol. But when I graduate school I hope to go into criminal justice where I'll work 12-18 hour shifts. I enjoy work.

[JackKerouac77]

More power to you, I suppose. Not my cup of tea.

[Prettygurl12]

My boyfriend isn't a fan either haha.

[BelleGirl21]

I'm with you @jackkerouac77. I'm more of a people person. @Prettygurl12, I do respect people that make that choice though.

[Prettygurl12]

I interact with people all the time at work. I get way more than enough social interaction there.

[Ersacol28]

Well I'm a nurse and we don't have weekends or holidays off but I still get to get wild after work :) even if it is at 1 am I still go out. :D

[523206720]

If you can see them after or before work or if you make good money you will find somebody who wants to date you.

[Rcjh1987]

It would suck... But since I alreAdy do work weekends and holidays then I guess it would work for us...

[miserybusiness]

It'll honestly be frustrating at times but not a huge turn off. One guy I knew worked every other weekend and planning shiz with him was like trying to learn another language.