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Is a 21 year old dating a 30 year old too much of an age gap?
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I've ran into lots of couple with an age gap like that or more. Many of them seem to make it work well. I think it's only an issue if you make it an issue. Other people might have something to say but if it makes you happy? who cares?
A five to ten year age gap is no big deal, in fact couples where the male is a bit older usually have a more successful long term relationship.
To some people, yes it is too much but to me I think it is OK because when u love someone, d age between d both of u is just a number. talking from experience my dear
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First thing's first, I don't know how things are in every country but I'm pretty sure 21 is considered a full fledged adult in most (if not all) places. So let's just get this right out of the way, there's nothing wrong with it legally.
Now, I'd personally argue in this scenario the more important factor is the maturity of the younger person. You, in this case. Are you mature enough to see the red flags? To know if/when the relationship is going South? And above all, are you mature enough to konw where, when, and how to get help should you need it?
Obviously that's all assuming the worst. Ideally, hopefully, things work out fine and there's no reason to worry about any of that.
I doubt he's looking for anything serious.
Is it the age gap that makes you think that or something else? I mean, I don't know myself if I want anything serious with him yet (it's still new), but I'm not closed off to the possibility either if it goes that direction.
Yeah it's the age. Not to completely rule out the possibility of him being seriously interested, but when older guys look at young girls they think of having fun. When they look at women their age, they think of something legitimate and long term.
He's 30, he's seen first hand the difference between 21 and 30+
I can understand that. In a way, that's as it should be. I'll just see how it goes, I guess.
Best of luck to ya.
Thanks.
not that bad, belive it or not my stepdad is 34 and my mum is 48 and they are married
Go ahead and do it, it's not that big of a gap.
I wouldn't have done it.
No. My wife was 19 and I was 28.
i think it's a fine difference
No I don't think so
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