I've been seeing a girl for about a month and a half. We've been intimate, but we're not in a relationship.
She has to move to a new place soon. She hasn't asked for help. Am I expected to offer to help her move? (I'm quite busy at the moment and honestly for me it's a huge favour I've only aggreed to with my family and closest friends in the past). I don't want to be a chump, and I think it'd be a bit too early for that kind of favour.
- Yes, I should offerVote A
- Yes, only if she asksVote B
- No, it's a huge favour and it's too early for this kind of stuffVote C
- No (other reasons)Vote D
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Moving is a HUGE hassle and stress. It would be a HUGE help to have a strong pair of arms to help you move the stuff.
If I were "dating" a guy and when I told him I had to move and he didn't offer to help, I would think he will never be helpful to me in the future. He doesn't care whether I need help or not, I definitely won't be able to rely on him to help me in hard times.
So, quite a big turn off for me.
If you currently have a lot to do, tell her that you have one hour to help her carry the stuff down because you have tons of stuff to do yourself. You can spare one hour for her, can't you?
If she's already good with friends who can help her, she'll tell you that it's OK if you don't come.
But seriously, it's not a huge deal at all. Friends help each other at moving time all the time. So a guy she's dating should also offer. It's just common courtesy to ask whether she needs an extra pair of hands.1