I've been talking to this guy for about a month and we've been on two dates. We used to text and FaceTime every day. He's very sweet and all of our mutual friends assured me he's a good guy. He has, however, been treated very badly in the past and is afraid of getting hurt again. Very early in our "relationship" he opened up to me about losing his father to the Russian mob, how bad his home life is, and how he'd been cheated on in nearly every relationship he'd ever been in. He even called me one night when he was particularly depressed and I stayed on the phone with him until he fell asleep. The next day, he told me he used to have an eating disorder. I told him that I was glad he wasn't going through that anymore because I'd hate to see him do that to himself. This was about a week ago and he hasn't initiated contact with me since. He responds when I text him and says he cares about me and misses me, but shitty things are going on in his life that he needs to take care of. I haven't texted him in 3 days because I don't want to smother him or appear needy. So far, my plan is to give him time (1-2 weeks) to figure things out and contact me himself. I understand that it is completely normal for guys to pull away for a bit and as much as I believe he is afraid of getting hurt, I'm a bit paranoid that he may just be using this an excuse not to see me. So if he doesn't text me within this time frame, should I ask him what's going on? Or should I just let it be? And if he DOES text me, how can I assure him that I won't hurt him?
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