A guy confessed his feelings to me after I'd been suspecting it for a while. He was his most vulnerable with me and I learned a lot about him in that moment and how he felt. He told me how he felt the first day we met to now and it was. He said he felt a spark and said he didn't want to jump too soon but he grew attached to me and couldn't not tell me that he developed feelings for me and how he wanted to take it further and didn't care about our age difference. I was in shock, but at the same time I was happy about the entire situation. By the end of the night he planned to take me out and gave me a kiss because I had to leave urgently.
That was on Monday. Tuesday he and I talked like normal and I continued on with my day.
By Wednesday the entire situation changed. He went from wanting to date to friends with benefits, saying he had a lot a baggage (which he does), and how he was too busy for a genuine relationship, our age difference, he wouldn't catch feelings for me. Its like he went home, thought about it, and tried to find every flaw with him for me to run off. At first thought it was sex motivated and he was just trying to get me naked... but we haven't had sex and he's not persuing me like a friends with benefits relationship either. We still have deep conversations and he treats me about the same but I noticed that his texting is starting to waver, and by Friday he stopped responding and won't see me. I refuse to chase. I haven't even texted him since he went MIA Friday. I always believed that if he wanted to speak to me he'd reach out like he's been doing, especially since I can see on social media he is still checking up on me. I'm happy I didn't fall for him yet, but I'm confused. He didn't try to have sex with me the day he confessed to me, and on Wednesday although he said he wanted a friends with benefits he still wanted to take me out and was treating me more like a girlfriend.
Its like he got scared, and I'm considering moving on because this shouldn't be this confusing. Why confess?
He Confessed His Feelings for Me... Then Two Days Later The Entire Story Changed?
You have to think, especially for guys like me that ain't confident at talking. To confess your feelings to someone is a major major deal... And you saying you had to leave urgently might have just set him off, even though I know you didn't mean it in a bad way and I'm sure he didn't take it badly either, but after a day or two he might have completely overthough about the situation and tried his best to back pedal (it's what less confident people do) I'm like that irl too and it's so annoying but we can't help it. Stick with him if you can :) it will take patience but If he is anything like me... He will treat you well :3 hope this helps a bit, and sorry if I made things worse :'(
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No I have to admit he was shy about it. He couldn't even get the words out really. And I stayed with him as long as possible (in fact I left because I left my 12 year old brother outside. He was locked out the house and he knew that) but everyone around me is saying that he may genuinely like you, but I also have my own issues (like believing he genuinely likes me and not just for sex) that match his own. It's just strange. I decided to figure it out because usually he texts me to check on me if I disappear. If he doesn't do that then I'm going to just move on.
But if he does I'll see where this goes because this is strange to me and I don't like wasting time.
Sounds like he freaked out. He probably has emotional issues or could be pursuing multiple girls and feels guilty
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I feel it's all three. He started to really open up to me about past things and he shut himself down saying "I really don't want to add that to this relationship" and I'm pretty sure he is persuing other girls and part of me wonders if maybe he didn't realize this was going to happen. He ways says "We were supposed to keep it surface level and it didn't happen" so I believe he's forcing himself to shut down.
Either way, I can't help him if he won't help himself and it was suck really bad if he got his stuff together and I moved on. I don't want to do that, but I also just don't want to be in this situation either.
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