My boyfriend and I are both 23 and the other day we had to give his sister a ride to the train station. I was sitting in the front obvs when we went to pick her up. She knew I was coming and saw me sitting there and didn't get in the back which I thought was really presumptuous of her. I mean whenever I ride with friends if I am chilling with them and their so I go to the back. Of course I was polite and got out without causing drams but I found it odd that she still expected to get the front seat over his own girlfriend even after she knew I was there. I was really taken back. The only women I would expect to get in the back seat for is someone a lot older like an older generation like mom grand mom someone like that. An older neighbor. Certainly not a young able bodied sister. I told my boyfriend later I was really hurt that he didn't say to his sister hey is it cool if my girl sits in the front seat? Do you think my boyfriend should have said something?
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And now the old saying "taking a back seat" sure gets literal here, doesn't it? I totally get this. It's putting you in a place where you aren't 'together'. You're not even sitting together laterally. It's like the child who gets tossed in the backseat over the adults. It's sort of the pecking order of who matters in one's life, so I can see how it would make you feel bad.
I can't presume what she would have been thinking, because there are a lot of possibilities. She could have just thought "I'm the sister, I come first," or "I've got a lot of stuff, and I need to sit in the front."
Sometimes protective sisters often don't think about their boyfriend's girlfriends if they've only been together a short time too. Sitting in the front seat before you came along in to his life was probably the norm for her and she just did it without thinking or considering that you'd take offense.
Your boyfriend isn't going to say something *after* the fact. A lot of guys usually don't go confronting people about things like this because their girlfriend found it important over an hour ago. But he might keep it in mind for next time. Guys can't stand confrontation between their women and their female relatives. I think it's probably up there with worst things ever - having to keep the peace between them.
If you get along with her otherwise and there wasn't much of a fuss after she left, maybe you can just keep it in on your mind for next time if it means that much to you. Just burn it off and try and forget it. It certainly wasn't your boyfriend's fault. He probably never even saw this as an issue whatsoever until you brought it up. As for his sister, she probably didn't either. Now that he's aware and you know it could happen again, stake your claim on the seat by either not leaving it, or placing your things on the seat if you have to get out of the car for any reason. That will send a message for next time.0
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