At the clubs my friends are all the best dancers they flip and spin the girls in our group and they balance them in the air. Our group is the best dancers the most beautiful group the funnest and nicest most sober group that is there only to dance. I am only learning and I am not great but they make me look good on the floor. here is the deal I want to meet new people cause everyone is pretty coupled up so I ask people to dance. And when a guy says "no" I get crushed. It takes do much confidence to ask. I dance with anyone and talk and joke with anyone that comes up to me out of kindness. I am there to have fun. I know I am not a snob even though it might sound like it but it is really true our table is always full of dance teachers and everyone stays fit from dancing. I am not a flashy dancer like my friends but they are teaching me the basics they make me look good. And sometimes I get asked a lot by new people up dance. But some nights I try to just ask someone "come on let's dance" and they are like "no I am good" and I am wondering wtf is wrong with me. I check to see if I am ugly. I'm not. Am I obnoxious or sloppy or bitchy No!!! Do guys know how mean it is to say No! I get it which is why I always talk and dance with people that come up to me. I usually walk away feeling rejected. But one day I said "well that is ok I am here with my friends and they are awesome dancers. I just thought you looked bored!" how do you handle a guy when you are rejected? Or keep it from ruining your night. And guys why do you act so superior? I am no super model but I am not ugly either and I am super nice. I don't get it. I didn't really go to dances growing up do I may not have the right way of asking.
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It might be that the guy sees you dancing and is a little intimidated because your friends are all good and they make you look good. Many guys sre not secure enough to go out and look like "second violin" so to speak. Maybe you should try something - next time you go, don't start dancing with yout friends, but stand back and see if there is anyone who interest you. Since you seem to be strong enough to approach guys, go to him talk to him and try "my friends are all great danceers, but I am not and I feel intimidated sometimes because I am not that good a dancer." then ask him and see. The guys also might be more intimidated by the others, (or they might not be there for dancing?) I am sure it is not you - guys are kind of self conscious at times.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE