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if you have to ask then you know its not love. you will know when its love. you don't have to talk daily or be with each other constantly. sometimes my boyfriend will be off with me for a day or two. i see him every two weeks due to living 74 miles from each other and so i don't have the problem where we hang out and he'd rather watch tv. just treat him the same. if there's something worth fighting for he will soon buck his ideas up.
or you plan the date. you pay. who says the man has to pay all the time. I'm trying to get a job to take my boyfriend out for a meal as he always pays due to being older and having a job.0
A rship is a two way partnership and right now you are giving 100 and he is giving 50. You gotta maybe act unavailable for a while and see what happens.. He will soon buck his ideas up and hopefully see he needs to pay you more attention. Perhaps do this after the 1 year anniversary so as to keep the peace. You can't be the only one fighting for this xx15
Ok, I was going to pass up this post, but after reading what people are telling you (some of it isn't too bad) I had to respond and tell you what's up. This isn't about titles, astrology, or whether or not he loves you. This is about priority. His priorities. And it's quite clear they take president over you and your needs. I'm highly suspecting that he didn't act like this during the first few months of your relationship, few guys do. But as all people, we get comfortable and set in our ways about things. And nothing makes us feel so comfortable than knowing that what we have is secure. It's a good feeling knowing that what we build will never be destroyed. I'm a big batman fan and a quote I remember is when Batman is fighting Bane. Bane says, "Peace has cost you your strength! Victory has defeated you!" This is so true in your situation, but mostly with him. He thinks he's won and has nothing to worry about. He can't lose you cause you'll do everything that he says, right? The truth is, this is a toxic relationship. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, but he definitely is acting like a poor boyfriend. And it is taking it's toll on you. I feel that you want to save the relationship, as most people I know would simply break up with them. Sadly, I know your story too well, because it use to be my story. I use to act very similar to one of my ex girlfriends, while we were dating. I was lazy and so certain that no matter what I did, she would just accept whatever I wanted. I got a wake up call when she told me that if I didn't start acting like her boyfriend, rather than just a... lots of language, then she'd find a guy who would. This being my first relationship, I was very retarded and eventually she did break up with me because I refused to treat her the way she deserved. I wouldn't say I'm a bad guy, but we had a bad relationship, and it was completely my fault. Thankfully, I've improved since then and know what it's like to treat your girlfriend like complete neglected garbage. Sorry. But you need to change this, and whatever you do, it has to be complete and it has to be extreme, or he won't get the point. He's secure, so shake him up. Tell him you're going to start going out with your friends on your days off for a while until he starts to take you out. You were very clear about free dates, he's just making excuses. You deserve better but you don't need to dump him. So make sure you get the respect you deserve.0
Men don't date for the "title," that's dumb shit that women do. Guys will date for just sex though, which might be the case here.0
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It doesn't seem like he really cares.0
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I felt like reading my life on your words. Do you believe in astrology? I didn't until I met the love of my life who was exactly like your guy. My guy ignores me most of the time. I am not the needy type or always wanting attention but girl! I felt like I was desperate when I was in a relationship with him since I almost always initiate contact. Because of the fact that we only talk once a month, I felt like I became needy towards him. I didn't barge him with messages or misscalls and just actually check on him if he is still alive in 1 to 2 weeks interval if I didn't get a response from him. He would let me know he is just busy (after another 1 week!). The fact that he was my boyfriend made me want his attention. I want to feel like I was his girlfriend. Eventually, I had to give up. It was like this for two years and I became so stressed out always feeling like I am just one of his properties where he only call or message me at his convenience.
He also buys expensive stuff and spend a lot of money on material things. I cited astrology because your guy sounds like my guy who was Taurus. He is happy when he buy a new expensive toy (gadget, consoles, car, etc). We are in a long distance relationship which made it even more challenging. My guy shows affection through touching and seeing. We rarely talk serious stuff. But we did when we started dating. He told me directly what his routines are, what he likes in a woman, what he prefers to do daily and in the future. Money first.
The way he treated me made me feel like the only purpose in life that I had was to be his accessory, his toy, his property.
It was very challenging to move on because I fell in love with that jerk before I realized I deserved better. I broke up with him because I don't feel happy anymore and he never improved his treatment even when I told him how I feel. He didn't want to break up. He is still asking to be with me again since I broke up with him. That was 6 months ago.
If I were you, try to ask yourself what do you want. How would you like to be treated? Are you still happy with what he is doing? If you already told him how you feel and he does not show an effort to make you feel happy- LET GO. Let go now and don't look back. He will just hurt you more as your expectations are not met. The more these guys ignore you, the more you fall for them. So RUN.
If he is Taurus, it's mostly their personality. And if you cannot put up with that, LET GO because you cannot change him.
Thank you! he is a capricorn and I am an aries. I dont know what that exactly means. But i can totally relate to you. He just makes me feel so worthless, i have never begged for a guy to see me! I dont beg but i do spend hours getting ready, researching how to be better at this how to get his attention, whats going on. I try and be all i can be for him and i dont even get a hey you look nice or ur a great girlfriend. I actually get nothing.