Is it bad that my boyfriend isn't protective of me?

[Anonymous]

[MadameJulietta]

This is a route you do not want to go down.

You're not really asking for more protection you're asking him to be jealous. Jealousy is something that quickly gets out of control. Protection is when a man is there for you when you need him.

Jealousy is when a man tries to control you and slowly erodes you. A lot of women have gotten the wrong idea about men. They think that jealousy means a man must love the and be interested. In fact, it's a signal that he's insecure, distrustful and has nothing to do with love.

Good luck.

[Asker]

No I mean if I hurt myself he isn't concerned.

[xHoneyxBeex]

In what way? And why would he need to be protective of you? I don't personally think it's bad. You're an adult so, in all honesty you should be able to take care of yourself in most circumstances.

I can't tell you how to feel though so if this is a problem for you then I would just recommend talking to him about it. Ask him why he doesn't act more "protective" in the way that you would like.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend isn't protective of me. He trusts me to take care of myself. I like that he cares about me if I'm hurting, but he also trusts that I don't need him to protect me. It feels like he respects me more.

[Asker]

I just mean in a crowd of someone bumps you he holds you closer so you don't get bumped. Or the mom hand in a car.

[justbanANNAz]

hmm, it's bad if he isn't protective. if he isn't OVERprotective, that's a good thing. big difference.

[Asker]

True that.

[justbanANNAz]

thank you =]

[CapitanMurica]

Women are strong and powerful and almighty, women don't need us men... you're all strong independent women who don't need a man to protect them... am I missing something here or has man landed on the moon?

[Hope_This_Helps]

Yes. That's the only acceptable answer.
(IMHO, of course, but honestly if he's protective that means he thinks you're someone worth protecting, and that's a compliment in itself.)

[Asker]

He's recently become more protective. I know it is a strange thing to want but like you said above. Anyways a little bit goes a long way.

[Rules_breaker]

HE doesn't LOVE U. PERIOD

[Iron_Man]

Well Its not good learn Gunfu

[the_unknown_panda]

No. it means he trusts you to be loyal.