They never get the guy they get a guy and that guy always ends up not being the guy she wants because he doesn't actually want her he just doesn't like rejection and as soon as he no longer feels rejected or takes the time to figure who she really is he gets bored and either becomes the uncaring boyfriend or the guy who dumped her. Playing hard to get is only for girls that don't have enough personality to actually keep men interested. The one who cares least wins but they're playing a really crappy game for a really worthless prize. I love meeting these girls though. I like watching them try and fail because it's almost like clockwork it's so predictable. Everytime they meet a guy remotely worth thier time they struggle because he won't act like the rest of the guys. They think he's playing the whole I care less game but really he just lost interest and she loses out and settles for that other guy. Never fails. She either married one of these guys goes through a crappy marriage and does it again or quotes and spends the rest of her life bitter. Manipulating emotions is how you control people not how you build relationships or create happiness. The best guys know what they want and they aren't desperate to get it. So if your playing hard to get, emotionally unattached, and dating a bunch of guys that guy I just described is gonna look at you and go nah not it and move on to the next one. You're still playing the game but he's completely left the court. Playing hard to get is a game of fear. It scares people because they feel confused about what she may be doing and they get scared they'll lose her. Fear and respect struggle to exist together. Once a man stops being afraid of the playing hard to get girl leaving she looses all power over the relationship and he stops caring because he's got zero respect for her because of all the crap he feels like she put her through. It's just bad dating logic.
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In your experience, how many of those women who play those senseless games retain their relationship? For how long?
I don't see this powerplay working out in a healthy relationship. All you need is genuine love. Only weak minded people try to shield themselves from the harsh truth that your heart will be trampled upon many times until that day where you find the SO who accepts you as whole and are compatible with each other.
I would say I have to agree with you. I'm the type of girl who if I like a guy, I let him know. I'm not one to ignore his messages or play games. I don't like to lead a guy on, act interested then let him go.
I don't flirt with guys for attention, I only flirt when I am interested. But I have a heck of a time with guys.
Any of my friends who played games are now settled down. I have been trying to find someone for forever and still have yet to find anyone.
Yes it's a real strategy but not in a cold hearted way. They are genuine with the guy they like but keep an air of mystery. They are open, honest, respectful and flirty but don't let guys disrespect them or try use them. They keep the guy guessing until they know exactly where they stand with the guy. Basically they are allowing guys to be the hunter.
I'm kind of a mix of both. Like, if it's a guy I really like, I will give them most of my attention, except, they will most likely have to message me first most times (but I reply RIGHT AWAY!). But, I can play games too. In the end, though, I never get the guy I truly want. #stillforeveralone
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I have noticed this as well, however for me I'd much rather a woman didn't play games but at times didn't throw herself at me which is what a woman I went on a date last week has been doing. She offered me sex before we had even gone on a date, I mean I am all for being genuine and no games but that was far too aggressive and straight forward for my taste haha.
It's the truth... embrace it or become a social pariah...
#KimKforpres2016Well it's obviously easier to get the guy/girl if you don't put all your eggs in one basket
You have your cause and effect backwards. They act that way because they already know from experience that they can get guys.
patience is the best stratagie
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