From the fairly quick Google search I just did to confirm what exactly those 2 acronyms mean, I would say you really have very little to worry about...
Extroverted people will always lead the way in social scenarios but truth be told very few ever gain much knowledge or understanding from the process...
Introverts on the other hand learn from just about everything as they tend to think a whole lot more.
If you feel that you're being overlooked in favour of obviously lesser potential candidates, perhaps considering a few minor adjustments could be the breath of fresh air you need... Maybe a new hairdo, a slight wardrobe update, maybe even something as simple as smiling a little more. If you feel the issue is that you tend to come across as uninterested, boring, etc, maybe open yourself up a tiny bit from time to time (I'm also an introvert so I don't say this lightly, I know full well how difficult opening up is, but it doesn't have to be all the time nor must it necessarily be to everyone, it's your choice entirely who you choose to show which sides of yourself to)
Don't worry about the lack of boyfriend or kissing experience, it's an old cliche but it certainly still holds true today, intimacy means infinitely more to those involved when it's genuine and hooking up with someone just for sex, whilst not the worst idea ever, provided both parties are acutely aware of that precise stipulation, it's still got nothing on hanging out with someone you genuinely like and just holding hands :D
Have a touch more self confidence and know that you are worth what you deserve!
It's like the poem about girls being like apples on an apple tree...
Girls are like apples on trees,
The best ones are at the top of the tree.
The boys don't want to reach for the good ones
Because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt.
Instead, they get the rotten apples from the ground
That aren't as good but easy.
So the apples up top think something is wrong with them in
Reality they are amazing.
They just have to wait for the right boy to come
Along...
by Rose Rosado
It's true!
You're probably one of the amazing apples right up top... Give the right dude a little more time, he'll be there before you know it ;)
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It's not all guys. I've dated lots. But I am one, so I find it easier to relate to them. The biggest problem is that a lot of guys will have a hard time relating. They won't understand your thinking patterns, and won't be able to understand why you do the things you do. For you it will be perfectly logical. For me it would be too. But for them, it will seem essentially random, and they won't know how to take it.
You are going to either need to find another person like you, or find someone that is really empathetic, who can put themselves in your shoes and see your point of view, even if they don't think the same way themselves. And you'll most likely need someone that is at least above-average in intelligence. Your 'logic and planning' are going to go right over the head of a derpy guy - he won't notice it and appreciate it, and you'll just end up frustrated.
The I and the T, compared to your sisters E and F are going to also make it harder for you to seem warm and outgoing, so you will probably come across as less approachable. You'll have to work at expressing yourself and seeming friendly. It may seem forced, it may seem uncomfortable, but it will get easier, and it will make you more approachable.
Don't worry... I just had my first kiss last year, girl. Over-analyzing is the issue.
I am not sure,,,, wrong guy?
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it's basically in the description
"it is often a challenge for them to find like-minded individuals who are able to keep up with their relentless intellectualism and chess-like maneuvering."
they are also characterized (by the trait definition not to say you) as being:
arrogant
judgmental
overly analytical
and "clueless in romance"
Additionally they are often brutally honest and believe politeness is artificial behavior. those traits often times will create unnecessary stress and conflict in a relationship where often times being more gentle or i guess the term would be diplomatic would greatly benefit a situation... for example. my wife had a child recently and feels fat and in all honesty she has had a tough time losing all the baby weight. but me, i say you are beautiful and you'll lose that weight in due time, whereas an INTJ person may not be so soft handed
So it it seems like from an interpersonal relationship standpoint the INTJ personality finds it very tough in terms of chemistrySo, people actually use that INTJ, ESFJ, etc crap in daily life? Huh.
Anyway...
"I'm mostly being described as feisty, independent, strong, intelligent yet somewhat a romanticist and feminine. I thought guys like that... lol"
Sometimes, a few of those traits aren't attractive to men because the women who have them often have a chip on their shoulder towards men. So guys start associating those qualities with man-haters... and therefore reject girls who have such qualities as a matter of habit.
And if they aren't man-haters, they are often simply rude (women seem to confuse "strong and independent" with "unbearable, rude, ill-bred").
It's a shame, because most of those qualities are otherwise quite desirable.
Now...
You might simply be shy. Maybe you aren't giving signals to men that you are open to them approaching you, or that you aren't interested in them talking to you when they do approach. You may need to reconsider the non-verbal and verbal signals you are sending men when you are talking to them.
Actually, I just read your interaction with @Aeliuz
The problem is that you are rude.
"Aeliuz: I don't know what either INTJ or ESFJ is.
YOU: Then don't answer it..."
If a man spoke to me that way, he'd lose some teeth... and most men damn well know they can't speak to other people that way unless they are looking for a fight. Aeliuz handled it well and redirected the conversation into constructive areas again...
But when a woman does that... are we supposed to find her attractive? No, of course not. It's actually much more irritating than when a woman does it, purely because a lot of girls know they can hide behind gender/social norms and get away with bad manners. It's extremely unattractive behavior.
So work on your manners. I guarantee that's what is holding you back.I would marry you if I knew who you were. But the question is, would you marry me? I'm 26. I play League of Legends and use GaG and abovetopsecret. com 24/7. I read some books in the past... I watch movies when I'm really bored... I don't got a job. The only sex I've had was with four prostitutes in August 2015 for less than 15 minutes. Truly, a terrible fate and treacherous scam I've faced. I have debt from college loans that I refuse to repay. It's not like the government ever had this money to begin with, they want me to repay money that never existed. I hate this planet and humanity and I'm preparing for World War III before it reaches the United States. Once I destroy all malevolent beings, I will create a new age of light and benevolence, I want to make the Venus Project and the Free World Charter a reality. If you refuse to marry me, then that's the problem. Your standards may be too high. Maybe, you fail to see a guy's potential in the future. No guy is perfect from the start especially on Planet Earth. But perfection can be achieved... sometimes. :D
LOL! this is so me! INTJ guy here. Well you INTJ girls are definitely a rare species :D
If I could get anywhere near one, I would give it a shot at her.I don't really know much about that stuff, but you might be surprised by how many people who are in their 20s have never been in a relationship.
I'd date an INTJ girl, I am an ENFJ.
You literally just described everything I'm looking for in a girl I'm shy introverted so I never approach women but certain traits and behaviors that certain women have attract me
I don't know what either INTJ or ESFJ is.
What's your country? You seem cool.
So, we are doing this now.
OP, are you fat?
Are you ugly?i don't kno wwhat that is
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