I'm an INTJ girl and I never had a boyfriend despite being 24years old. Oh heck, I never even kissed or went out on a date with a guy. Men who show interest at the start never call me back or show no interest after that and its not like I want guys like that. I am just wondering why is it so hard for me to date a guy in contrast to my ESFJ twin sister.
Most Helpful Guy
It's not all guys. I've dated lots. But I am one, so I find it easier to relate to them. The biggest problem is that a lot of guys will have a hard time relating. They won't understand your thinking patterns, and won't be able to understand why you do the things you do. For you it will be perfectly logical. For me it would be too. But for them, it will seem essentially random, and they won't know how to take it.
You are going to either need to find another person like you, or find someone that is really empathetic, who can put themselves in your shoes and see your point of view, even if they don't think the same way themselves. And you'll most likely need someone that is at least above-average in intelligence. Your 'logic and planning' are going to go right over the head of a derpy guy - he won't notice it and appreciate it, and you'll just end up frustrated.
The I and the T, compared to your sisters E and F are going to also make it harder for you to seem warm and outgoing, so you will probably come across as less approachable. You'll have to work at expressing yourself and seeming friendly. It may seem forced, it may seem uncomfortable, but it will get easier, and it will make you more approachable.1
Most Helpful Girl
I am not sure,,,, wrong guy?0