Im 15 and he's30 years old💟👥?

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okay im 15 years old and my crush is 30 we been chating for months and my crush he likes me back but he's aware that im underage and he told me he will wait till im legal so we can be together well also he texts me and tells me im pretty we have the same likes and think to like we never argue to much he has lots and such a charmer and he listens to me when something wrong and gives me advice he always there for me when i need him also he nevers pressures me to have sex he makes feel very comfortable and treats me like his princess 

I was wondering is it possible that our relationship can really work out
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WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

If I was over the age of 18 and trying to forge romantic relationships with 15 year old girls, I'd turn myself in to the police and/or off myself. That's disgusting, and at 30, downright inexcusable. I'm sorry, I hate to be that guy, but you need to hear that. I'm sure he's very nice to you and makes you feel good about yourself, but that's just not an appropriate age pairing. It's not the 15 years, it's that you're not even a grown woman yet. If he was 40 and you were 25 I'd say whatever, but this dude is a legit pedophile if he's trying to have a relationship with you, even if it's strictly emotional and non-physical. I'm not even saying he is or isn't genuine, for all I know, he's for real, but it's doubtful that he's not taking advantage of or manipulating you, and if he IS on the level, that's still totally wrong and he has mental problems if he is even entertaining the idea of being with you at this age. I'm sure it's flattering on your end, but it's just not ok. I'm sorry, that probably isn't want you want to hear, but it's the truth. I'd recommend staying away from this guy if I were you. Find a guy in your age group!

cmale123 · Accepted Answer

Please don't be closed mind like everyone here. Like think about it carefully, if you are 23, he 38 and you end marry him raise a family. Then you are one of the luckiest girl alive. Finding a good guy, it really hard

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My fiance is 14 years older than me. I've always dated older. However, there are a few things you need to know: Older guys tend to get bored of waiting. If he mentions doing something (even a date) that would be your secret tell your parents, a teacher, or an adult you trust. In my experience, the secrets always end bad. I dated an older guy (10 years older) when I was 16. It was awesome until the first time I said something he didn't like. He flipped out so bad, and at his request I hadn't told anyone where I was going or who I was with. It's been almost 10 years since and I still can't stand having a guy near me if I can't see him. He taught me if you have to hide someone from your family and/ or friends then they aren't someone you should be around.

archiz · Accepted Answer

no no no no NO

ok look:
you re 15. you think you know what you want at that age but trust me you don t. you re inexperienced, immature and vulnerable.
You seem naive and very credible to gauge what this guy is telling you.
The fact that he is hitting on you speaks loud about his instability, I mean he is def not mature.
You are at different stages in your life and I have a bad felling this guy is going to manipulate you and abuse.
you are at a stage of your life where you need to do your homework and think of college not this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If he continues to wait until you're legal and not pressure you, then I don't see anything seriously wrong with it. But it would be difficult, that's a big age gap. You might not have that much in common, or he might not treat you as his equal. But if you've got plenty to talk about and he respects your rights and opinions, it could work out..

kittykatg · Accepted Answer

Possible yes, probable no.

Anonymous · Answer

Possible yes, probable no.

I should probably say first that it's possible he simply finds you a young, charming, pretty and thoughtful young woman he's connected with, many of us are going to be wondering if he is -only- interested in mid-teen women, as opposed to it simply being a chance occurance. Not only is that worrisome, but he may lose interest when you grow up.

But I actually think things are as likely or more likely to happen in the OTHER direction. He won't change all that much over the next 3 years. You, however, will change -tremendously-.

Right now, you may feel like you are surrounded by idiotic teenage boys who are immature and don't understand you, or if they do understand, it's because they're confused teens as well and lack the maturity and experience this guy has.

But you're going to grow up, become more independent on your own, and start meeting tons of guys closer to your age who have more of the traits you desire. So maybe in 5 years you're still in love with this guy... but probably not.

If possible, i'd maybe downgrade him in your mind (and you in his) to 'friend that you flirt with' and both move on and find other people.

JuicyBrain · Answer

I don't think it's going to work out for long, but not every relationship are meant to last for long. That doesn't mean there is nothing redeemable about them. Maybe this relationship will last for a while and you will find out eventually that you need something else. Maybe it won't last a week, but you will still learn something from it and possibly have a good time while it lasts.

Sure, your case is extreme, but I will give him the benefit of the doubt and not call him a pedophile or rapist. I trust that nothing will happen before you are of age and that then, you will be old enough to deal with the consequences of your mistakes and learn from them.

JudgmentDay · Answer

From my own experience on what I had observed usually the larger the age gaps between the relationships such as in 10 years or more then the less likely they would work out and last.

But then again, there are no guarantees on whether it would or would not work. It could turn out either way.

Do you even know this guy personally? Can you really be certain that you can even trust him though? Sounds like you only met him from the Internet or something. I think you need to take all precautionary measures and be on guard until you are certain you can trust him before ever meeting up with him in person.

I suggest you investigate further about that person's identity and background such as get a real accurate background check on him first.

Because sometimes when a person is a little too nice and too easy that's already a red flag and they can be very deceptive and misleading.

capncool · Answer

Regardless of whether he's waiting or not, a 30 year old man should not be talking to a 15 year old girl that way. He might not be doing anything strictly illegal, but a normal and mature 30 year old man wouldn't spend his time courting underage girls.

If you do happen to still be in touch with him when you do reach the legal age of consent, use your judgment and make a decision then. But I would not recommend keeping him in the picture because there's a chance he might be a serial rapist, for all you know he might just be trying to gain your trust to strike when you least expect it

madhatters4 · Answer

sure it could work out

but you should be extremely weary of a guy who is 30years old and talking to you. i'm sorry but it's simply not ok and suggests that this guy is not really a mature man. i know he tells you you're pretty but he's 15 years older than you. he should be at a completely different place in his life than you.

i mean basically he's a pedophile... that's not ok

Anonymous · Answer

Only if your father doesn't catch his child molesting ass. If I were your father the first thing i would do would be to castrate the asshole. Then I would truck his castrated ass down to Texas where I would chop him up into little pieces and feed the pieces bit by bit to the hogs. After i chopped him down to nothing but a blind earless head and a torso, i would throw that to the pigs so they could tromp him into the pig shit. When his shitty remains were thoroughly mixed into the pig muck i would shovel it all up and take it as fertilizer to a farm that was growing crops to feed pigs so he could be turned completely into pig shit.

Doofey · Answer

No he's sounds like a sicko. This guy has nothing in common with you. He's twice your age! Do you really think he's interested in your feelings and personality? Is that whay attracted him to you? You've never even met him. There are older Men who prey on younger girls. The moment they are alone they strike. Do yourself a favor and cut off contact. I hope he doesn't have your address or other personal information.

Cookies_AndMilk · Answer

Your crush is a pedophile and needs to be jailed. This grown man is 30 years old! Are you not able to grasp the concept that he is a creep and a loser in life? What could a 30 year old man possibly have in common with a 15 year old child? He is a predator and because you're young and naive you are extremely easy pray. Not everyone who is nice to you and calls you pretty is actually good for you or even cares about your well being. And no, this isn't "judgy" it's the truth.

VirginiaBeachBum · Answer

Don't count on him waiting. And if he does, I have to question if he's worth waiting for. While I generally don't have a problem with age gap relationships when both are of age, this just has a creepy kind of feeling to it. 'Dateline: Predator' kind of creepy. Proceed with EXTREME caution. Better yet, wait, focus on school, and find someone else.

Anonymous · Answer

15 year olds are so stupid, naive and ignorant these days. What's a 30 year old man doing grooming a girl half his age? What, can't he date people his own age? Jeez!

KDA20 · Answer

I personally believe that age gap is a bit much - At 15/16 anything more than 2/3 years is a bit of a stretch.

Jayded1 · Answer

No, sorry. You are a different person now then you will be at 17 and again at 19. The fact he is perusing a 15 year old should tell you he is a scum bag. Put aside your feelings and just think about it. You are a child. You may not see yourself that way, you may think you are mature, and hell, maybe you are. But even the most mature 15 year old is still a child. Your brain is still developing.

Anonymous · Answer

Paedophilic relationships don't tend to work. The factt that he is grown and into a girl so young suggests that mentally he isn't likely to be sound.

Schrödinger · Answer

The only reason a man whos 30 is interested in a girl who is 15 is because he is a pedophile.

Matchmaker7072 · Answer

Let me put it this way. From age 15 to 18 I had a huge maturate jump. Same thing with 18 to 22. He is at a dramatically different point of his life. I'm sure i could date / screw a bunch of 15 and 16 year olds if I wanted to the thing is it becomes immoral at a certain point. It's much easier to take advantage of someone with much less life experience. I could even understand being 18 but there is a limit. The emotional growth between 15 and 18 is pretty dramatic believe it or not.

TripleAce · Answer

You're both freaks

he's an idiot for preying on a 15 year old (if you have to say im waiting for you to be legal, there's a problem there). But you're not any better, at this rate you dont seem very bright

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

yeah he sounds desperate af all i can really say is, wait until your legal to judge if it can really work or not.

SilenRose · Answer

He's manipulating you because of your age. Pedophiles are disgusting. Don't waste your youth on this creep.

musicislifeeee · Answer

its legal as long as there's no sexual intercourse. the second sexual intercourse happens he could be arrested. be careful

AndyOh · Answer

I agree with everyone else... nice thoughts, but he should know better. And chances are slim that the relationship will really work.

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