I feel like I missed out?

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I am 24 and never had a boyfriend. I feel like i missed out on teen dating and making memories. I have no idea why i let no one in and i regret it now, i feel very depressed about it... i feel at 24 i should have had some experience. my first kiss and date was at 22, i just foreplayed with the guy nothing else. I grew up strict and believed anything my mom said and now i am angry at her for letting me think love was a bad thing. I am 24 now and never even had sex... i feel like my life is a joke... i can't get lost time back but i just wished i could... did i miss out? i feel ashamed for even dating now for having NO dating experience

BTeal · Accepted Answer

I'm in the exact same position - I'm 20 and I've never been in a relationship and I've yet to kiss a guy. It used to upset me - especially when people are always telling me that I look lovely and that I must be breaking hearts left right and centre, so it made me wonder what I was doing wrong.
My sister said I need to put myself out there a bit more, as I am quite introverted and quiet, which kinda made me feel a bit worse at the time.

Then she told me something that stopped me feeling bad about myself. She reminded me that dating someone/ having a boyfriend doesn't define who you are as a person, and that there is nothing wrong with not having had a relationship in your teens. Specifically, she pointed out that when you're a teenager, your circle of peers is generally your school/ neighbourhood, and that I was essentially getting upset that I couldn't find someone to date in this one neighbourhood, when there is a whole world of guys - some of them would love to date you if they met you. It is simply chance that these people we associate at school are potential people that you would gel well with in a relationship, and that it's not until we get late teens/ 20s that we broaden our world and are more likely to meet guys (or girls for you guys!) that you could potentially date.

I've yet to be in a relationship, but literally in the first couple of weeks of university, I had more male attention than I've had in my whole life - and not in a negative sense.

amarahorrorstory · Accepted Answer

I wrote a couple takes on this. I'm younger than you so our situations aren't the same. But you might relate. For a while, I did feel like I was getting left behind. Not so much like I was trying to fall deep in love and all. I just wanted my first kiss or getting to do, young teen couple things. I haven't gotten the chance to relate to them. I know that that's okay but every now and again, I'll get a pang of sadden when I see teen love movies and they're talking in the hallways and stuff. I never got that. People are always like "Oh, but those relationships mean nothing once you have a real one" but I did still kind of want those crappy relationships, kind of ass building blocks. Like you said, dating experience. I know now that it really isn't a big deal, but I can't help how I feel. I think there is a special plan for girls who didn't date in their teens and in high school. It will work out.
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jesshkah · Accepted Answer

I wish I could give you better advice.. but this is one of those cases where you kind of just have to get over it. It's DEFINITELY not way too late for you, and you might have missed out on some dumb dating things in your teen years, but it's really not that big of a deal. Teenage love is just that, it's mostly juvenile, messy, drama, lots of crying, not understanding things, I'm not going to say that it's great you missed out on it, but it's not the worst thing in the world. You might have only had one date but first of all, no one needs to know that, and secondly, every first date is different. Even if you had been on a million dates in the past, that doesn't really make the first date with a new person any easier. You'll be totally fine, just move forward, you know you were closed off before, just try and be more aware now, and not be like that.

Livinglogical · Accepted Answer

I'm 27 and single, I've dated a lot but never really found anything 'serious'. Not had that much sex but the sex I did have... I often felt like I was only doing to get them to like me more... which was stupid. And most of it wasn't very fun or sexy xD So don't feel bad about missing out on sex, its usually over rated. Maybe its better when you find someone you really like who really likes you back. But that isn't easy xD

Also, I've come to HATE dating because its just so soul destroying to get all excited about something and then either they are assholes/crazy or you just don't suit eachother. So now I don't even bother with it. I get why you feel you've missed out but I assure you, you really haven't. Plus you are only 24. Dont worry about it. Whats that saying -hakunamatata, you can change the past so why let it worry you?

BlackPantherSpeaks · Accepted Answer

WOAH!!! Slow down sweetheart, I'm 23 turning 24 soon and Im not stressing it you know why? Its because not everyone is meant to enter your body... imagine if you did have sex and were discarded like a piece of meat.. How would you feel then. Attraction is a weird thing I'm learning how to interact with women at 23 lol. I feel behind the curve but guess what? Im STD (i know some people), i dont have any baggage, and i just recently took the first step into realizing who i was as a person and whats going to make me happy. And I feel GREAT!!! Work on yourself first :) Weird I thought only guys dealt with this type of stuff lol.

ThatJarHead · Accepted Answer

Teen dating SUCKS. Feel grateful. Besides there is plenty of men out there who are willing to teach you the ins and outs of dating. If you go online always find the guy who gets irritated if you say "I don't know what I'm looking for" those are the men who actually want a relationship.

Scared_Banana · Answer

you'll never be 15 and in love
lying on the grass on a warm summer night, watching the stars, carelessly chatting
not worrying about rent, bills, student loans
only worry in life is how you're gonna cheat on that history test on Monday
you'll never take a young, tight, hot-bodied girls virginity, pulling out to cum all over her back and have her look in your eyes and say "I love you"
you'll never have a girl around every day after school, pretend to be doing homework together, but instead just **** like rabbits
you're in your 20's now
gotta get a good job
gotta be a serious man now
all the good ones are taken
maybe a nice girl will eventually settle with you
they have already felt all those new exciting feelings before, and are usually jaded and bitter
you missed what it feels like to have not a care in the world other than making your girl happy
you have missed out on teenage love

i1T2daty · Answer

Make up for it but be experienced in the sense that you know your body. Assuming you masturbate since we all do, you know what gets you off. Make sure any lover knows that your seeing him and you want your needs met. People who have grown up on internet porn think the thing that turns women on the most is to have a fateful of come.

Talk to friends you can trust. Allow private messages.

martyfellow · Answer

There are many like you, but you have the courage no not be anonymous.
Congratulations!

You'll come to bless the fact you missed out on teen dating. You have plenty of time to learn about life. Don't pressure yourself!

EndofExistence · Answer

Feel ashamed that you didn't waste your time being a teenage rollercoaster rider? If anything you are probably one of the few girls unaffected by female sexual freedom. Most guys these days are so thirsty that they could care less about how much experience you have. I can't believe I'm about to be nice but you should focus on being a good person and not get so hung up on being like every other girl out there riding the cock carrousel until they hit 28 and realize they need a man to have kids.

RandomBritishGuy94 · Answer

Teen dating isn't something I'd want to do again. People romanticise memories but it sucked.

You're missing out on sex and adult relations but that's easy enough to fix. Get on dating sites, go out drinking, ask a friend out. Go have fun.

Anonymous · Answer

Well dont know if this helps but i never dated until i was 20. Personally, i don't feel like i missed out on anything. Cuz i see what a lot of people go through in their teens and it looks like a ton of trouble for nothing.

Anonymous · Answer

well its true you missed out on " teen dating " at 24 there is still dating oppurtunities that are available to you , there is guys out there who would be willing to date you. you need to put the bad experiences behind you and meet some new people

Kaylyne · Answer

It's no good looking back and feeling sorry for yourself. Become more assertive, positive and start looking to the future.

frecklejuice · Answer

I think there are literally thousands and thousands of people who in your situation. You're definitely not alone.

ikissedtheskyonce · Answer

You missed out on heartbreak, drama, and possible teen pregnancy. I say you dodged a bullet. Its better to be single than in a shitty relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Same with me but you got more sex than me. The only girls interested in me are in relationship (how ironic)

Anonymous · Answer

I feel that way whenever I see Teen couples or couples in their early twenties

Anonymous · Answer

You haven't missed out on anything, just skipped some heartbreak

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

you're only 24. just lie a little to guys.

Bandit74 · Answer

I feel the same way 😣

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