I feel like I missed out big time how can I stop feeling like this?

[Anonymous]

I'm in my late 20s now I've always avoided trying to get a boyfriend because I was badly bullied here and there from my teens into my early 20s. People treated me like I was worthless back in those days I felt like it stopped me trying to get a boyfriend because I remembered the past and the comments people made of me. I just avoided it because I remembered the pain from it. Now I never get treated badly but I feel so down that I've never had a boyfriend and it just seems like I'm never going to get one. I wish I experienced a partner at least once in 20s. I'm about to aak a guy but I get the feeling he will probably make excuses...

[Ευδεμονια]

I comprehend sincerely how you feel, you’ve got an emotional load you take with you and this is a big obstacle to every relationship, since it hits mainly your self confidence and gives you thoughts about how can you manage the relationship with the other person. I think basically you’ve got no boyfriend for your personal problems and something like a social stigma, when you’re bullied all context turns against you and you’re basically let alone.
I think honestly there’s no way you can take off you your load but you can manage to have a balanced date and relationship with everyone. It’s hard but you have first of all to focus on the person you’re in front of, how that person makes you feel and what you like about that person. You have to hide your past a bit as long as you can, since some persons can be scared by a person that at first appointment says “I’ve been bullied, I never got a boyfriend and I’m distrustful of everyone”. Secondly, you may open your hearth to that person, since the world is full of assholes but sometimes there are dear persons that hear and help you.
You’ve to be courageous, I think you may ask this guy out and be prepared for an eventual rejection since we’re not meant to be liked at first by everyone! I suggest you to join clubs, hobbies or sports that make you be in contact with other people, so you can meet someone with a common interest and from outside your habitual inner circle.

[exitseven]

okay- you are behind the curve. You cannot change the past but you are aware of what happened to you. You have to put it behind you and move forward. I know it is hard. I still am angry about things that have happened to me that derailed my life but eventually I got past it.
You can do this but cannot be bitter about the past.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Staximus]

Just get out there and live your life and don't accept bad treatment from people

[Asker]

I've been living but people just hurt me sometimes.

[Asker]

I've done some cools stuff in life but just never had a partner

[Staximus]

Stop accepting bad treatment, stand up for yourself, and separate yourself from bad people. Don't allow yourself to be a victim

[Anonymous]

By letting go of the past and focusing on the present.