Am I missing out?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been in a relationship with a much older woman, and I can’t help but think if I’m missing out on having fun with girls my age. I’ve always had girls fawn over me because I’m actually super attractive. Like I’ve had some girls ask me out, follow me around, and I constantly get flirted at. But I’ve always been real conservative when it comes to girls. Like I have to know the girl for a while, and I’m not into girls who sleep with every guy. I don’t do casual sex, I’ve always had relationships. But since being with my girlfriend for months now, I feel like I’m missing out now, because I just think about the attractive girls my age that I see, or flirt with me. But at the same time, my girlfriend really likes me for who I am. Who knows, I can see a future with her too. But it’s hard when a hot girl your age flirts with you and touches you. Like this girl from work, she was flirting super hard and touching me. But I told her I had a girlfriend. Now she won’t even look at me. She was like a hot young version of my girlfriend, who’s my age.

[kylee2437]

You are contradicting yourself. You say you care about a sincere connection but then are getting flustered from girls lusting over you. Just because these hot girls are lusting over you, doesn’t mean they have a genuine connection to offer you/ are compatible for you the way your current girlfriend is. You can’t say a genuine connection is what you like when you think you are missing out on hot (appearance) girls

[Asker]

I’m confused as well because I’ve always wanted a genuine connection, but I have these thoughts? 😞

[kylee2437]

You have to decide what’s more important, a genuine connection or having fun with a possibility of never finding someone genuine again. Can’t expect your girlfriend to be with open arms once you choose other women before her.