She dumped me 2 weeks ago and keeps texting me?

[Anonymous]

We dated for 8 months and out of no where she dumped me. When we broke up she said she lost the sparky// butterfly feeling. She also kept saying she's confused and unsure. Almost everyday since she has sent me text saying hi and making small talk. I try to ignore her cause I wanna move forward and not get stuck hanging on to false hope. So sometimes I don't respond to her text and when I don't she will send several more with either a ? or a bunch of dots. A couple nights ago she called me and said something along the lines of you seem to be doin good and didn't even seem heartbroken. And also that she is still confused. She even mentioned something about hanging out the next day, but it never happened. Today, she texted me "tomorrow is going to hard for me... seeing you". We both work together and its our first time seeing each other since the break up. What is going through this girls head? I mean I would love to be back with her, but I also don't wanna be that guy still hung up on his ex months later. Any advice would be great.. Thanks!

[standUP]

Eight months is enough time know someone's quirks. She knows yours and you know hers. Ask yourself if those quirks are enough for you to handle. If they are, then when did you learn about the spark fizzing out? You see dude men are the fuel of the relationship. The woman will always blame the guy for not keeping the flame alive. Have you ever lit an empty gas tank? It flares up... Trust me , don't try this at home.lol...

Women are the match and when they spark up a BLAST of flame goes roaring! Ever time...

Here's the dilemma your gas tank empty or not will always be ready ALWAY's... The match needs to be lit periodically. The flame goes out because if your lucky your woman does not light up for at least one week out of the month. Because you cannot light a wet match,lol.. if you know what I mean...

Women run strickly on emotions. Common sense eludes them periodicly. But when they are ready it reaffirms your love. Accept that in them and let the love flow ,just don't get burnt!

What does your gut tell ya. Believe me it's not just her... And don't ever believe it's your fault for her irrational thinking. It takes two. Keep your gas tank full and she will not lose that flame. The best way to keep it full is be your own. Man up to yourself, Women want a rock to rely on. But how many times have you seen a rock wash up to shore after being thrown in the water? In the water where all the other fishes are! Be true to your heart that's your asnwer!

[airiver]

I think you're being toyed with...Sorry but some of us girls can be pretty nasty...She's wanting to keep you on the hook while she sees if something "better" is around the corner kind of a game...I'm not meaning to sound insensitive, it's really a pretty common game...What is it about this girl that makes you want to still be with her...I appreciate what loosing that spark feels like but it never comes out of no where...if she had these feelings she should have communicated them to you...girls tend to forget that guys don't necessarily see things the way we do or even the same things...If you truly want to move on you have to stop accepting her text and advances...Simply text "Don't text anymore, thanks"... I've had guy friends even tell their ex's that they've met someone else just to get them off their backs...How much you suffer is up to you but you should put a value on the type of relationship you had and see if it's really worth it... Best of luck. Cheers!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she just wants to be your friend, hon. She still has a lot of feelings for you but not as a lover anymore. Most likely, she has met someone else that she really likes because it is new. I know how you feel though when you really enjoyed being with someone and all of a sudden they are leaving your life unexpectedly. It hurts but really she wasn't the one for you if she left. People are in your life and out your life for a reason. Time will heal and you will get over her. If you can't just be her friend, tell her. Bc its torturious when you want someone more than a friend and they just want to be a friend to you esp. an ex. So let her know that if she is gonna go, to go completely, seal the deal, close the chapter so you can move on to a new one. Start dating, anything to move on from this. Ignore if she keeps texting after you have told her. She will eventually stop.

[smileitsfine]

I think she sounds like she's checking you still care etc.. if you want her back then I think by not desperately calling her is the way to do so. I think she's a little bit thrown off by your cool and collected approach (good on you). If you still have feelings for her then do not be friends. I think she may have just called to see if you were heartbroken maybe.. you can't tell anything on just phone conversations after a break up because there is the likelihood of 'frontin' ' on both sides. I suppose it could go either way but all this effort to call you means she does care... even if it's only a little. Keep playing it cool, and good luck !