I met a "perfect guy" but I just can't fall in love with him! Why?

[danii363]

I met a guy that is "perfect", with a lot of qualities that I always wanted in a man: Handsome, respectful, loyal, romantic etc etc.
But I don't why I just can't develop feelings for him, even if I'm trying very hard to. I'm feeling guilty and frustrated because I think he is the kind of guy that has all the qualities for a excelent boyfriend and I can't feel anything for him. :(

And no, I don't feel attracted by douchebags or something like this, ok?

I just want to know why I can't fall in love with him. Does we didn't chose who we are going to fall in love?

[Anonymous]

I don't know, but sometimes the chemistry… the je ne sais quoi… it's just not there.

I was going to ask whether you're really more attracted to the "bad boy" cliche, someone who isn't perfect, takes risks, and always wants what he wants. But then I read your assertion about "douchebags". Is this what you mean?

This perfect guy… is he an acquaintance? Coworker? Friend of a friend? Could you spend some time getting to know him a bit better and see if something eventually sparks?

[danii363]

I met him on tinder and I started hanging on with him 2 months ago...

[Opinion Owner]

That's a long time. Perhaps he checks all the boxes on some list of what society says is perfect, but that's just not who is perfect for *you*. It's probably worth thinking about what kind of guy you really want. Good luck finding happiness!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes what you want isn't really wish you need, I think you fell more in love with the idea of a "perfect" guy instead of what you really need.

[maddog19]

I think subconsciously you are afraid of being rejected. Don't force your feelings for him but that would be so frustrating. honestly though I think you are just afraid of being rejected which is so common.

answer mine please? if you go to my account the one with does he like me one

[danii363]

No way. I am not afraid of being rejected AT ALL. :/

[BurCelf]

You can't ever force love. You can't force there to be a connection. Don't ever "try" to fall in love, you could regret being with this person later. Also trying to hard can prevent you from falling too. You need to stop trying to force it and stop overthinking it. Just be natural.

[springocelot]

because he's not perfect for you
you two just don't have the chemistry

[Gommers]

Maybe it's because of a fact that all men know and all women argue against; women have no fucking clue what they want or need and there's a serious ambiguity of definitions between want and need to women where they genuinely don't understand the difference.

[CalmUntilAbused]

If I give You the benefit of doubt and assume everything is fine with Your oxitocin output... I guess it's just that You are too level-headed to allow the instincts and emotions to take over. It actually bides well for a serious, long-term relationship, so it's not really a bad thing, it means Your potential decision to get married will be a serious and well-thought one, though You might miss out on some excitement.

[AlphaMale1]

You are lacking the one thing in a relationship money can not buy, other than love. You lack chemistry with him.

[cavmanier]

There may be other things about him that you don't find attractive or maybe you don't enjoy his energy or interacting much.

[truthbeknown]

Too much like your father or big brother. This usually kills any sexual attraction to great guys like this.

[Yeahhbro]

Because he is perfect, he doesn't have any issues or nothing that needs fixing hence you don't feel the need to live your own soap opera.

[JSmuve]

Because
A) you don't know what you want, or
B) there's no chemistry

[Guy83]

Because there is no such thing as a perfect guy. Maybe you should just follow your heart.

[Kaazsz]

No wonder I'm not swimming in women! I'm too perfect! =D

[ChromAzonyx108]

I like this response - this will be my excuse, err, reason from now on.

[Theodorable]

Once heard a quote, "You only accept the love you think you deserve."

[danii363]

I think I deserve feel real love, not a warm feeling. So yeah, this makes sense.

[Truthatanycost]

''And no, I don't feel attracted by douchebags or something like this, ok?''

Yea, if you say so.

[Diamonddogz74]

Maybe because he is so busy being perfect that there isn't much else to him?

[Anonymous]

You might be bored as he ticks all your boxes and there's nothing for you to work on

[colourz]

Because you don't deserve him, back to the trenches you bottom feeder.

[justin66]

lol i have to say badboys really turn up a girls feelings ;)

[iFarted]

Cause he's probably too "perfect"

[BertMacklinFBI]

attraction isn't a choice?

[ChromAzonyx108]

Perhaps you think he's too good for you?

[Aqualung]

I can't believe you've rejected me. . .

😕

[Anonymous]

Because you're afraid of getting hurt